Ngethuba losuku oluxakekileyo, lunokuba lula kakhulu ukugxila kwizinto ezimbi. Unokuziva unxinekile, usebenza ngokugqithiseleyo, kwaye ugxininiswe yizo zonke iimfuno eziphikisanayo ngexesha lakho. Ngenxa yoko, iingcamango ezimbi zingangena engqondweni yakho. Nangona uyazi ukuba ukucinga ngokufanelekileyo kungcono kwimeko yakho yengqondo, unokumangaliswa ukwazi ukuba inokuthi ilungile kwimpilo yakho.
Uphando luye lwabonisa ukuba ukucinga okulungileyo kunokuba neentlobo ezahlukeneyo zeenzuzo, ekuphuculeni ukuzithemba kwakho kunye nenhlalakahle yengqondo ekuqiniseni impilo yakho yempilo.
Ngoko ke unokwenza ntoni ukuphelisa iingcamango ezimbi kwaye uzibuyisele ngombono ontle? Nangona ongekho othembekileyo ozalwe ngumntu, kukho izinto onokuzenza ukuze uhlakulele izakhono zakho zokucinga kunye nokufumana ezinye zeenzuzo zokucinga okulungileyo .
Gxila kwiingcamango Zakho
Ukuze ube ngumcebisi ocinga, kufuneka ufunde indlela ohlalutyo ngayo iingcamango zakho. Ukuhamba komngcipheko weengcamango kunokuba nzima ukugxila kuyo, ingakumbi ukuba i-introspection ayiyonto yakho eqinile. Xa uhlangabezana nesimo esinzima, zama ukujonga indlela ocinga ngayo malunga noko kwenzekayo. Ngaba uyazibandakanya kwi-self-talk? Ngaba uzigxeka ngokwengqondo okanye kwabanye? Ukucinga oku kakubi kubangela umqobo omkhulu, kodwa ukucacisa ezo ngcamango kuyisinyathelo sokuqala sokuwunqoba.
Ezinye zeendlela eziqhelekileyo zokucinga ezingalunganga zibandakanya ukugxila kwiimeko ezingathandekiyo zengxaki. Ngokomzekelo, makhe sicinge ukuba usanda kuchitha usuku olumatasa emsebenzini. Wanikela umboniso waza wagqiba imisebenzi emininzi phambi kweshedyuli, kodwa ukhohliwe ukubuyisela ifowuni ebalulekileyo.
Nangona uphumelelo lwaloo mini, ngaloo ndlela kusihlwa ufumana ukukhanya kweso slip-up kunye nokukhathazeka ukuba kuya kuthinta njani impumelelo yakho emsebenzini. Esikhundleni sokucinga ngezinto ezintle kunye nokuvuma into embi, uyayihoxisa into enhle kwaye uyakhulisa okubi.
Ukuzigxeka ngenye indlela eqhelekileyo yokucinga okubi. Xa isebe lakho lingasifiki kwixabiso lalo le nyanga, uzibeka kakubi kunokuba uvume ukuba uqoqosho olunciphekileyo lukhokelela ekuthengiseni okuthe ngqo. Olu hlobo lokucinga olungalunganga lunokulimaza ngokukodwa ukuzinza kwengqondo yakho. Ngokubeka ityala ngezinto ezingekho iphoso okanye azikho phantsi kolawulo lwakho, ukuzithemba kwakho nokuzithemba kwakho kuthatha i-hit hit.
Indlela Yokuba Ngumbono Ocinga
Ukutshintsha umjikelo wokucinga ongalunganga kunokuba ngumngeni kwaye kuyinkqubo ethatha ixesha. Kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba ukuphinda nje ukuphindaphinda iipatitudes ezingenanto ("Ndilungile ngokwaneleyo! Ndiyaqonda! Abantu bangathi!") Ngamanye amaxesha unokubuya kwaye unenempembelelo engalunganga kwimifanekiso yakho.
Ukucinga okulungileyo akukona ukubeka iiglasi ze-glasi ezinemibala kunye nokunyanzela zonke izinto ezimbi oza kuhlangabezana nazo ebomini. Le ndlela ingaba yingozi nje ngokuba ingayinaki i-positive kwaye igxila kwizinto ezingalunganga.
Ukulingana, kunye nomthamo ophilileyo wobunene, uyintloko.
Ngoko ke unokwenza ntoni xa ufumana unxunguphelelwe iingcinga ezimbi? Qala ngamanyathelo amancinci. Emva kwakho konke, uzama ukuhlakulela umkhwa omtsha apha, kwaye njengoko nabani na owake wazama ukutshintsha indlela yokuziphatha okanye ukugcina isisombululo unokukuxelela, ezi zinto zithatha ixesha.
Qala ngokuchonga indawo enye yobomi bakho echaphazelekayo ngokucinga okubi. Mhlawumbi udla ukucinga kakubi ngokubonakala kwakho okanye ukusebenza kwakho esikolweni. Ngokuqala ngendawo enye kunye nendawo ethile yobomi bakho, utshintsho luya kuba luninzi lokunamathela kwixesha elide.
Ngoko, makhe sicinge ukuba ukhethe ukugxila kwingcamango yakho engalunganga malunga nesikolo. Isinyathelo esilandelayo kukuba uchithe ixesha elincinane ngosuku uvavanya iingcamango zakho. Xa ufumana ucinga iingcamango ezibalulekileyo malunga nawe, thatha isikhashana ukuba ume uze ucinge. Nangona unokuba ucaphukile malunga nokufumana ibakala elibi kwiimviwo, ngaba uzibhokoxa ngokwenene? Ngaba ikhona na indlela yokubeka i-positive spin kule meko? Nangona ungeke usebenze kakuhle kule mviwo, ubuncinane ubonakaliso olungcono malunga nendlela yokwenza ixesha lakho lokufunda kwisiganeko esikhulu esilandelayo.
Jonga ngononophelo ukuthetha okungekho nto. Xa i-monologue yakho yangaphakathi iqala ukuphakamisa ukuba awusoze ufumana izabelo zakho zenziwa ngexesha okanye ukuba umsebenzi unzima kakhulu, fumana indlela yokuthatha imbonakalo engcono kwimeko. Ngokomzekelo, ukuba unzima ukugqiba iphepha lophando ngexesha, khangela iindlela onokulungisa ngayo iishedyuli yakho ukwenza ixesha elingakumbi leprojekthi kunokuba ungathembeki. Xa umsebenzi wesikolo unzima kunzima ukuwugqiba, jonga ukuba uthatha indlela eyahlukileyo kwingxaki okanye ufuna uncedo kumfundi ofunda naye unokuncedisa.
ILizwi
Ukuba ngumcebisi othethekileyo akubhekiselele ekunyeleni ukunyaniseka kwinyani ekuthandweni kweengcamango ezifunayo. Kungakumbi malunga nokuthatha indlela yokusebenza ebomini bakho. Esikhundleni sokuziva ungathembeki okanye uxinzelelekile, ukucinga okulungileyo kukuvumela ukuba ujongene nemingeni yobomi ngokufuna iindlela ezifanelekileyo zokulungisa ingxabano kwaye ufikelele kwizicombululo zokudala iingxaki. Kungenokuba lula, kodwa impembelelo enokuthi iya kuba nayo kwimpilo yakho yengqondo, yemvakalelo kunye nempilo iya kuba yinto efanelekileyo. Kuthatha uqeqesho; ezininzi iinkqubo. Oku akusiyo inyathelo yenyathelo-nge-nyathelo ongayigqiba kunye nokwenziwa ngayo. Kunoko, kubandakanya ukuzibophelela konke ukujonga phakathi kwakho kwaye ukulungele ucelomngeni iingcamango ezingendawo kwaye wenze utshintsho olulungileyo.
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