Umbuzo: "Ndihlala ndiva abantu bethetha ngeenzuzo zokucinga kakuhle. Yiyiphi ingcamango yokucinga kwaye ingasetyenziswa njani ukuphucula impilo kunye nokuphila?"
Impendulo:
Ngaba uthanda ukubona iglasi njengesiqingatha esingenanto okanye isigxina esigcwele? Mhlawumbi uye wakuva loo mbuzo uninzi lwezihlandlo. Impendulo yakho ihambelana ngqo nembono yokucinga okulungileyo nokuba ngaba unombono ontle okanye ongalungileyo ebomini.
Ukucinga okulungileyo kudlala indima ebalulekileyo kwi- psychological positive , insibaniso enikezelwe ekufundeni oko kwenza abantu babe nolonwabo kwaye bazalisekise.
Uphando lufumene ukuba ukucinga okulungileyo kunokukunceda ekulawuleni uxinzelelo kwaye kudlala indima ebalulekileyo kwimpilo yakho kunye nenhlalakahle.
Yintoni Enokucinga Ukucinga?
"Uninzi lwabantu luthandekile njengoko benza iingqondo zabo." - Abraham Lincoln
Ngoko yintoni na ukucinga okulungileyo? Ungalingeka ukuba ucinge ukuba kuthethwa ukubona ihlabathi ngokusebenzisa iilensi ezinemibala ngokungahoywa okanye ukugubungela izinto ezintle zobomi. Nangona kunjalo, ukucinga okulungileyo kuthetha ukufikelela kwimingeni yobomi kunye nombono ontle. Akuthethi ukuthintela okanye ukungahoywa izinto ezimbi; Kunoko, kubandakanya ukwenza ubuninzi beemeko ezimbi, ukuzama ukubona okulungileyo kwabanye abantu, nokuzijonga kunye namakhono akho ngokufanelekileyo.
Abanye abaphandi, kuquka u-psychologist uMarket Seligman , uhlala ecwangcisa ukucinga ngendlela ecacileyo ngokwemiqathango ecacisayo. Isicatshulwa sakho sichaza indlela ochaza ngayo ukuba iziganeko zenzeke. Abantu abanesicatshulwa esichengileyo sichazela ukuzithengisa ngetyala xa izinto ezilungileyo zenzeka, kodwa ngokusoloko zilahla iikhompyutheni zangaphandle kwiziphumo ezimbi.
Baye bathambekele ekuboneni iziganeko ezimbi njengezithuba zesikhashana kunye neengqungquthela.
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, abantu abanesicatshulwa esichazelayo basoloko bezitshitshisa xa izinto ezimbi zenzeka, kodwa bayakwazi ukuzinikezela ngetyala elifanelekileyo kwiziphumo eziphumeleleyo. Kananjalo banomdla wokujonga iziganeko ezimbi njengoko kulindelwe kwaye zihlala. Njengoko unokucinga, ukugxeka iziganeko ezingaphandle kolawulo lwakho okanye ukujonga ezi ziganeko ezinzima njengengxenye ephilileyo yobomi bakho inokuba nefuthe elibi kwimeko yakho yengqondo.
Abacinga kakuhle banokusebenzisa isicatshulwa esicacisayo, kodwa indlela abantu ababonisa ngayo imicimbi ingahluka ngokuxhomekeke kwimeko echanekileyo. Umzekelo, umntu ocinga ukuba ngumcwangcisi othe tye unokusebenzisa isicatshulwa esicacisayo esichazelayo kwiimeko ezicelomngeni, ezinjengomsebenzi okanye esikolweni.
Izinzuzo zezeMpilo zeCinga lokuCinga
Kwiminyaka yakutshanje, oko kuthiwa "amandla okucinga okulungileyo" uye wafumana ingqwalasela enkulu kwiincwadi zokuncedisa ezifana neNfihlo . Nangona iincwadi zengqondo-pop-psychology zihlala zicinga zonke izinto ezintle njengezifo zengqondo, uphando luye lwafumanisa ukuba zininzi iinzuzo zempilo ezinxulumene nokucinga okulungileyo kunye nezimo zengqondo.
Ngokutsho kweKliniki yaseMayo, ukucinga okulungileyo kudibaniswe neentlobo ezininzi zeenzuzo zezempilo kuquka:
- Ubomi obude
- Uxinzelelo oluncinci
- Ixabiso eliphantsi lokudandatheka
- Ukwanda kokunyanzeliswa kokubanda okuqhelekileyo
- Ulawulo olungcono lokuxininisa kunye nezakhono zokujamelana
- Umngcipheko ophantsi wokufa kwesifo senhliziyo
- Ukuphucula impilo enyukayo
- Impilo engcono yengqondo
Uphando olunye lwabadala abadala abangama-555 bafumanisa ukuba ukucinga okulungileyo kunokunciphisa ububuthathaka ngexesha lokuguga.
Kucacile ukuba kukho iingenelo ezininzi zokucinga okulungileyo , kodwa kutheni ukucinga okulungileyo kunemiphumo enamandla kwimpilo yengqondo kunye nengqondo . Enye ingcamango kukuba abantu abacinga ngokuqinisekileyo bathambekele ekunciphiseni ukunyamezeleka.
Enye inokwenzeka kukuba abantu abacinga ngokuqinisekileyo bahlala bephila ubomi obuphilileyo ngokubanzi; bangasebenzisa ngakumbi, balandele ukutya okunomsoco kwaye baphephe ukuziphatha okungahambi kakuhle.
Ukucinga Ngokufanelekileyo Ngokuchasene Neengqondo Zengqondo
Nangona iimeko ezifanelekileyo zokucinga kunye neengqondo zengqondo ngamanye amaxesha zisetyenziswa ngokungafaniyo, kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuba azinjalo into efanayo. Okokuqala, ukucinga okulungileyo kukubhekisele ezintweni kwiindawo ezilungileyo. I-psychological positive yenza ukuba kugxininise ithemba, kodwa liyabhala ukuba nangona zininzi iinzuzo ekucingeni ngokuqinisekileyo, kukho ngokwenene ukuba ukucinga okungakumbi kunceda.
Ngokomzekelo, kwezinye iimeko, ukucinga okungalunganga kunakhokelela ekuthathweni kwezigqibo ezichanekileyo kunye neziphumo (Alloy, Abramson, & Chiara, 2000). Abaphandi uPetererson & Vaidya nabo bafumanisa ukuba kwezinye iimeko, ukucinga ngokuthe ngqondweni kunokukhokelela ekungaphantsi kwemingcipheko echaphazelekayo kwisigqibo esithile (2003).
Iingcebiso Zokucinga Ezifanelekileyo
Nangona awukho othembekileyo wendalo, kukho izinto onokuzenza ukuze ufunde indlela yokucinga okulungileyo . Enye yezinyathelo zokuqala kukugxila kwisigxina sakho sangaphakathi kwaye ubeke ingqalelo kwi-intetho yakho. Cofa ezi zilandelayo ziqhagamshelwano ukuze ufunde ngakumbi malunga nokuba ungumcebisi mhle kwaye wabelane njani nezicwangciso zakho zokucinga ezilungileyo.
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