Uphando lubonise ukuba ukuzithandela kunokunciphisa uxinezeleko
Ngokwenzululwazi yonyaka evela kuMbutho we-American Psychological Association, uxinzelelo luyinto eqhelekileyo kakhulu kwaye sininzi kakhulu esinokuziva sicinezelekile ngaphaya kwamandla ethu okulwa. Phakathi komsebenzi, iingxaki zemali, uxinzelelo lwentsapho kunye nezinye izibophelelo, kunokulula ukuzivakalela, ukukhungatheka nokutshiswa . Ngexesha loko unokwenza iindlela zokunciphisa uxinzelelo olufana no-yoga okanye ukucamngca , unokufumanisa ukuba ukubanceda abanye, ngelixa kunokwenza ishedyuli, kuyindlela enamandla yokukhululwa kwengcinezelo enokusenza uphucule impilo yakho yempilo.
Xa ugxininisa ingqalelo kwiimfuno zomnye umntu, amanqanaba akho oxinzelelo aqinisekisiwe kwisayensi. Oku kunceda ukunciphisa impembelelo yoxinzelelo emzimbeni wakho, ukuphucula impilo yakho kunye nempilo yakho yengqondo. Uphando lubuyisela oku.
Impembelelo yoxinzelelo kwiMpilo
Uphononongo luka-2015 olupapashwe kwi-Clinic Psychological Science journal uthi kufumaneka ukukhupha impembelelo yengqondo kwimpilo kunokufezekiswa ngokuncedisa abanye.Nakuba kwakuyincwadana encinane, iziphumo zayo zazivule amehlo. Abantu abadala abangama-77 abaphakathi kweminyaka eyi-18 no-44 bathathe inxaxheba kwisifundo. Ngobusuku bonke, bafumana isimemo ngokuzikhumbuza ukukhumbuza ukuba bazalise imibuzo yemibuzo yemihla ngemihla.
Le mibuzo inemibuzo malunga neziganeko ezixinzezelayo zemihla , ezifana nokuhamba, umsebenzi kunye nemali. Kwakhona kwalandelwa ukuziphatha okulungileyo kunye nezenzo ezincinane zobuntu kunye neemvakalelo ezibangelwayo. Abaphandi bafumanisa ukuba abo benza izenzo ezininzi zemihla ngemihla babenomdla wokuba bacinezeleke.
Ngeentsuku xa bengenakwenza nantoni na inceba, babika uxinzelelo kunye nokungahambi kakuhle. Uphononongo lubonisa ukuba sinokukunceda ukulawula uxinzelelo kwaye sizive ngcono xa senza izinto ezilungileyo kwabanye abantu.
Uphando olongezelelweyo luya kufuneka lwenziwa ukuba luhlalutye le ngqungquthela, kodwa luthembisa impembelelo kulabo abanamaqondo aphakamileyo oxinzelelo.
Izenzo ezincinane zobubele zokunciphisa uxinzelelo
Akudingeki ukuba ube nobutyebi obukhulu okanye ube neetoni zexesha lokukhulula ukuze ufumane izibonelelo zokuba uncedo. Nokuba imithwalo emincinci, njengokuba ubambe umnyango womntu ongaziwayo, yayinokukwazi ukunciphisa uxinzelelo . Nazi ezinye izenzo ezimbalwa onokuzenza ukuze uncede abanye kwaye unokunciphisa amanqanaba oxinzelelo lwakho:
- Yihlawule Ngaphambili: Xa usesidleleni-ngefestile, unokuhlawula imoto emva kwakho. Xa befika kwiwindow, kuya kuba yinto engalindelekanga kubo kwaye ifuna imali encinci kuphela.
- Yabelana nabanye: Bhaka ikhekhe okanye enye i-dessert uze uyifake kwi-ofisi yokumisa iofisi ukuze wonke umntu ahlanganyele. Osebenza nabo baya kuvuya. Okanye misela nje ngokunye okufutshane kunye nawe xa upakisha izinto. Ukuzisa ii-earplugs ezongezelelweyo kwi-konsathi, izicubu ezongezelelweyo ngexesha lokubanda kunye nexesha lomkhuhlane, okanye ukwabelana nantoni na ongayinceda yindlela elula yokunceda abanye.
- Cima i-Closet: De-clutter yakho i-closet okanye isiseko kwaye unikele ngempahla endala, amathoyizi kunye neencwadi kwiindawo zokukhusela ezikufutshane. Uza kunceda abantu abadinga le mpahla xa behlengahlengisa ikhaya lakho. Uyakukhunjuzwa ukuba unani na kwaye unenhlanhla ukuba ube nayo.
- Ivolontiya: Ukuzithandela izakhono zakho kwingingqi engekho inzuzo. Enoba ungumfoto wezithombe, umyili we-web okanye umpheki, ongekho inzuzo uhlala efuna uncedo lwabaqeqeshi kwaye uya kuxabisa uncedo. Okanye, unako ukusebenzisana ngokuthe ngqo nalabo abasweleyo ngokuzithandela kwiindawo zokukhusela ezingenamakhaya, ukuhlangula kwezilwanyana okanye ikhitshi yesobho. Ukuba oku kukuzibophelela kwexesha kunokuba unako, unokuhlala unika nje ukutshintsha kwakho utshintsho xa usuka kwindawo yokuthenga ukutya, okanye uncedo ngeendlela ezincinci ezinje.
- Yabelana Ngothando: Izinto ezintle ebomini zikhululekile, kwaye oku kusebenza kwimfesane, ukugcoba kunye nezinye izenzo ezibonisa ukuba unomdla. Akudingeki ukuba wenze ixesha lakho okanye imali ukwenza into enomnye umntu. Ukululazela kumagxala kunokuvumela abantu bazi ukuba ubaxhasa kwaye unomdla.
Awudingi ukwenza imiqondiso emikhulu ukuze wenze umehluko kwaye uncede impilo yakho. Izenzo ezincinane zenceba ezenziweyo emva kwexesha zingavuna umvuzo omkhulu wokuphila kwakho.
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