Ukuchaza ukudakumba nokuxoxa ngeendlela zokonyango uncedo
Xa uthetha nentombazana yakho malunga nokudakumba , uya kufuna ukuqwalasela apho uphuhliso kwaye oko kubalulekile kuye okwangoku.
Umntwana osemdala okanye umntwana osemtsha uqala ukuhamba kunye nentsapho yakhe kwaye achaze kunye noontanga bakhe. Uzama ukufumanisa ukuba uyenazisi kwaye usebenze ukuzimisela kubazali bakhe. Ngoko, xa uxoxwa ngokudandatheka, uya kufuna ukujongana nale miba.
Olunye uphando luye lwabonisa ukuba abantwana babazali ababambe iqhaza elisebenzayo kunyango lwabazali banakho ukuthobela unyango , okwandisa amathuba okuxolelwa .
Ukuchaza Ukudandatheka Kwintsapho Yakho
Ukuqhathaniswa nokudakumba kwesinye isifo sezokwelapha esiyaziyo umntwana wakho kunokumvumela ukuba aqonde ukuxinezeleka njengesigulo, iimpawu zakhe, ukubaluleka kokonyango kunye nokuphepha ukuziva engavamile. Abantwana abakhulileyo kunye nabantwana abaselula banomdla ngakumbi xa beziva behlukileyo okanye bengaphandle.
- Ngomzekelo: "Ukudandatheka kukuhlobo oluthile lwezifo ezibizwa ngokuba yingqondo yengqondo. Kufana nezinye izifo ezifana nomkhuhlane ngendlela anokukwenza uzive utyinekile okanye unentloko. ukuziva uhlungu, unesizungu, udidekile, unomsindo okanye ukwesaba. Yiyiphi imibuzo onayo malunga nokudandatheka? "
Ukuthetha Ngonyango Ngomntwana Wakho
Umntwana wakho okhulayo unakho ukuthobela unyango ukuba uyayiqonda oko kukuthi, uyazi ukuba ulindele ntoni kwaye unokukwazi ukuthetha kuyo.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, akusoloko kunokwenzeka ukuvumela umntwana wakho ukuba azilungiselele unyango lwakhe, kodwa ukuba unokumvumela ukuba enze isigqibo esincinci (njengokumisela ukuqeshwa kwakhe okulandelayo), kunokukwenza ukubahluko omkhulu ekumvumele ukuba azive lawulo.
- Ngomzekelo: "Uya kufuneka uthathe amayeza imihla ngemihla kwaye uya kwonyango kanye ngeveki ukwenzela ukuba uzive ungcono. Kulo unyango, uya kuthetha noDkt Smith ngasese malunga neemvakalelo zakho nemisebenzi yakho, ubuze imibuzo. unemiphumo emibi evela kwiyeza, njengokuba uziva ukhathele ngakumbi okanye udizzy, kodwa kufuneka uhambe ngokukhawuleza. Yingakho uza kubona ugqirha kanye ngenyanga.Uya kubuza malunga nendlela amayeza akwenza uzive ngayo kwaye uya kuqinisekisa ukuba kukunceda ntoni. Ucinga ntoni ngale nkqubo? "
Ukukhuthaza ubudlelwane bokuxhasa
Nangona abantwana asebekhulile bechonga ngakumbi kunye neontanga zabo, ukuxinezeleka kunokubangela ukuba umntwana ahoxise kuwo wonke umntu. Ukuba nolwalamano oluxhasayo kubalulekile kubo bonke abantu, kodwa kunokuba luleke ngakumbi kubantwana abadandathekileyo abaziva benesizungu okanye bodwa . Ukuba nomhlobo omnye okanye umntu omdala oncedisayo ukuthetha naye unokunika inzuzo enkulu kumntwana wakho. Memezela inkxaso yakho kunye nokufumaneka kumntwana wakho, kwaye umkhuthaze ukuba axhumane okanye adibanise kunye nabahlobo aze abelane ngeemvakalelo zakhe.
- Ngomzekelo: "Ndihlala ndilapha ukuthetha nawe malunga nantoni na, ungathanda ukucinga ngokuthetha nabanye bakho ngabahlobo bakho ngeemvakalelo zakho.Ukuba uxhasayo kunye nokukhuthaza abantu ukuba bancike kubalulekile. Ukuthetha ngeemvakalelo zakho kunokukwenza ixesha elinzima kancinci lula. Yiyiphi yabahlobo bakho ocinga ukuba unokukwazi ukuthetha nayo? "
Ukujongana neengqungquthela
Abantwana abakhulileyo banokuqhelana nentlalo yesifo sengqondo okanye baye bakuva abanye bathi izinto ezihlaselayo malunga nokugula ngengqondo. Unokufuna ukujongana nalo nomntwana wakho ukuze angabi ngathi ufuna ukufihla okanye ukuba neentloni ngokuxilongwa kwakhe.
- Ngomzekelo: "Usenokuba uvile abantu bethetha kakubi okanye izinto ezingalunganga malunga nabantu abanezifo zengqondo okanye ukuxinezeleka. Ngezinye iinkcukacha, xa abantu bengayazi ngezinto, baya kuthetha into enobungozi okanye benze izigwebo ezingafanelekanga. kufuneka uzifihle, kodwa kufuneka wenze isigqibo sokuxelela abanye ngokudandatheka xa kwaye ufuna. "
Kucinga ngephutha ukuba ukuthetha ngokuzibulala kungatshala iingcamango kumntwana. Enyanisweni, ukujongana nesihloko kunokumnceda ukwazi into enokuyenza ukuba unengqondo yokuzibulala okanye iimpawu zokuzibulala .
Khumbula, nangona kunjalo kubalulekile ukuba ufune unyango oluphuthumayo xa umntwana wakho eneengcinga zokuzibulala okanye iimpawu zokuzibulala.
- Umzekelo: "Ukuba uvakalelwa ngathi ufuna ukuzilimaza okanye uthanda ukuhlala, nceda undixelele, okanye ungabiza ugqirha wakho ngokukhawuleza. Ukuzibulala kuyasigxina kwaye iimvakalelo azikho .Siyakunceda ukuba usebenze ngeemvakalelo zakho. Ngaba unayo nayiphi na imvakalelo yokufuna ukuzilimaza? "
Kunzima ukukhathazeka ngokuthetha into "efanele" kumntwana wakho malunga nokudandatheka kwakhe - kodwa ukumvumela ukuba azi ukuba uyamthanda kwaye uyamxhasa uthetha umthamo.
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