Yakha Ukuxhaswa Kwakho kunye Nokunyanelana Nezakhono Ngezi ngcebiso
Ukuxhaswa kubhekisela kwindlela onokujamelana ngayo kunye nokubuyisela emuva kwiingxaki zobomi. Kungathetha umahluko phakathi kokusingatha uxinzelelo kunye nokulahlekelwa okupholileyo. Abantu abanomdla bavame ukugcina isimo sengqondo esilungileyo kunye nokujamelana nokunyamezeleka ngempumelelo. Uphando lubonise ukuba ngelixa abanye abantu bebonakala beza ngokuzinzileyo ngokwemvelo, ezi ziphatho ziyakwazi ukufundwa.
Ingaba uhlala kwixesha elinzima ngoku okanye ufuna ukulungelelanzela elilandelayo, nangobuchule obu-10 ongayigxininisa ukuze uzinze.
1 - Fumana iinjongo zeNjongo ebomini bakho
Emva kokuba intombi yakhe eneminyaka engama-13 ubudala ibulawe ngumqhubi onxilisayo owayesandula ukuphuma ejele ngebheyili enye yengozi yokuqhuba umqhubi ophuze, uCandace Lightner wasungula uMama olwa noDrunk Driving (MADD). Ukucaphukisa isigwebo somzila, umkhanyisi wagqiba ekubeni agxininise amandla akhe ekudaleni ulwazi ngeengozi zokuqhuba umqhubi. "Ndazithembisa ngomhla wokufa kukaCari ukuba ndiza kulwela ukwenza oku kubangelwa kokubulala ngokungenasiphelo kwinto enokuzayo," kamva wachaza.
Xa ubhekene neengxaki okanye intlekele, ukufumana ingcamango yenjongo kunokudlala indima ebalulekileyo ekuphumeni kwakho. Oku kunokuthetha ukubandakanyeka kuluntu lwakho, ukuhlakulela ngokomoya, okanye ukuthatha inxaxheba kwimisebenzi enenjongo kuwe.
2 - Yakha iinkolelo ezintle kwizakhono zakho
Uphando lubonise ukuba ukuzithemba kwakho kuthatha indima ebalulekileyo ekujonganeni noxinzelelo kunye nokubuyiselwa kwiziganeko ezinzima. Khawukhumbule ngamandla akho kunye nokufezekisa kwakho. Xa uva izimvo ezingalunganga entlokweni yakho, qhelanisa ukutshintshela ngokuthe tye, ezinjengokuthi, "Ndiyakwenza oku," "Ndingumhlobo omkhulu / umama / iqabane," okanye "Ndingumsebenzi kum. "U Ukuba nethemba ngakumbi kwizakhono zakho, kuquka ukukwazi kwakho ukuphendula nokujongana neengxaki , kuyindlela enhle yokwakha ukuzinza kwexesha elizayo.
3 - Ukuphuhlisa iNethiwekhi yeNtlalo enamandla
Kubalulekile ukuba nabantu abanokuzithemba nabo. Ukunyamekela, abantu abancedisayo abakwenzayo njengento yokukhusela ngexesha leengxaki. Ngelixa uthetha nje ngomcimbi kunye nomhlobo okanye othandekayo akuyi kubangela ukuba iingxaki zakho zihambe, kukuvumela ukuba wabelane ngemvakalelo yakho, ufumane inkxaso, ufumane impendulo engqinayo, kwaye ufikelele kwisisombululo kwiingxaki zakho.
4 - Yamukela utshintsho
Ukunyaniseka kuyindawo ebalulekileyo yokuqina. Ngokufunda indlela yokuzilungelelanisa, uya kulungele ukuphendula xa ubhekene neengxaki zobomi. Abantu abasweleyo basoloko basebenzisa ezi ziganeko njengethuba lokungena kwiindlela ezintsha. Nangona abanye abantu banokutshatyalaliswa ngenguqu ephazamisayo, abantu abanokuzimelela banokukwazi ukulungelelanisa nokukhula.
5 - Yiba nethemba
Ukuhlala nethemba ngexesha elimnyama kunokuba nzima, kodwa ukugcina ithemba liyingxenye ebalulekileyo yokuqina. Ukucinga okulungileyo akuthethi ukungawutyesheli ingxaki ukuze ugxininise kwiziphumo ezilungileyo. Kuthetha ukuqonda ukuba izithintelo zisesigxina kwaye unezakhono kunye nezakhono zokulwa nemingeni ojongene nayo. Into ojongene nayo ingaba nzima, kodwa kubalulekile ukuhlala nethemba kwaye ulungile malunga nekamva eliqaqambileyo.
6 - Zikhusele
Xa ugxininisekile, kunokuba lula kakhulu ukungazinaki iimfuno zakho. Ukulahlekelwa isondlo sakho, ukungayihoyi umsebenzi, nokungafumani ukulala ngokwaneleyo kukho konke ukuphendula kwimeko engxaki. Gxininisa ekwakheni izakhono zakho zokuzixhasa, nangona xa unenkxalabo. Yenza ixesha lemisebenzi oyithandayo. Ngokunyamekela iimfuno zakho, unako ukukhulisa impilo yakho yonke kunye nokuqina kwaye ulungele ngokupheleleyo ukujamelana nemingeni yobomi.
7 - Ukuphuhlisa i-Skills-Solving Skills yakho
Uphando lubonisa ukuba abantu abakwazi ukuza nesisombululo kwingxaki banokukwazi ukujamelana neengxaki kunabo abangenako. Nanini na xa uhlangabezana nomngeni omtsha, yenza uludwe olukhawulezileyo lweendlela ezinokuthi unokusombulula ingxaki. Zama ngamalinge ahlukeneyo kwaye ugxile ekuphuhliseni indlela enengqiqo yokusebenza ngeengxaki eziqhelekileyo. Ngokusebenzisa izakhono zakho zokuxazulula iingxaki rhoqo, uya kukulungele ukujamelana nayo xa kunzima umngeni omkhulu.
8 - Misela iinjongo
Iimeko zengxaki ziyingozi. Basenokubonakala bengenakuthenjwa. Abantu abancedisayo bayakwazi ukujonga ezi ngxaki ngendlela efanelekileyo kwaye babeke iinjongo ezifanelekileyo zokujongana nale ngxaki. Xa ufumana ukuxinwa yimeko, thabatha isinyathelo sokumane uhlole oko kukuphambi kwakho. Qinisekisa izixazululo ezinokwenzeka, uze uwaphule phantsi kwamanyathelo alawulayo.
9 - Thatha isenzo sokuSombulula iingxaki
Ukulinda nje ingxaki ukuba uhambe ngokwalo yongamela ixesha leengxaki. Endaweni yoko, qala ukusebenzela ukulungisa isigqibo ngokukhawuleza. Nangona kungenakho isisombululo esheshayo okanye esilula, ungathatha amanyathelo ekwenzeni imeko yakho ibe bhetele kwaye ingaphantsi kwengcinezelo. Gxininisa kwinkqubela phambili oyenzile ngoku kwaye uceba amanyathelo akho alandelayo, kunokuba udangeleke ngemali yomsebenzi efuna ukufezwa. Ukuzibandakanya ekusebenziseni izisombululo kuya kukukunceda uzive ukhululekile, kunokuhlala phantsi uze uvumele ubomi bube khona kuwe.
10 - Qhubeka Usebenza Kwizakhono Zakho
Ukuhlaziya kungathatha ixesha lokwakha, ngoko ungadikibala xa usenzima ukuhlangabezana neemeko ezinzima. Wonke umntu unokufunda ukuzinza kwaye ayibandakanyi nayiphi na isethi yokuziphatha okanye izenzo. Ukuhlaziya kungahluka ngokubanzi ukusuka kumntu omnye kuya kwesilandelayo. Gxininisa ekusebenziseni ezo zakhono, kunye neziganeko eziqhelekileyo zabantu abakhawulezayo , kodwa ukhumbule nokwakha kwiimpawu zakho ezikhoyo.
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