Ulwaphulo olujoliswe kwi-EFT (i-EFT) lixesha elifutshane (iiseshoni eziyi-8 ukuya kwe-20) kunye nendlela ehlelwe ngayo kwizonyango zonyango ezenziwe yiDkt. Sue Johnson noLes Greenberg ngawo-1980. Kusekelwe kuphando ngelixa lijolise kwiipatheni zokunxibelelana ezintle kunye nothando njengesibophelelo soqhagamshelo.
Ikhonkco yoQinisekiso
"Isinamathiselo" phakathi kwabantu ngokubonelela kunika indawo ekhuselekileyo: ukufuduka kwihlabathi kunye nendlela yokufumana induduzo, ukhuseleko kunye ne-buffer against stress.
Isinamathiselo sinika nesiseko esilondekileyo, kukuvumela ukuba uzive ukhuselekile xa uhlola umhlaba kwaye ufunde ulwazi olutsha. Ukubunjwa kwalo kuqala ebuntwaneni kunye nomncedisi oyintloko, njengomzali. Abo baqala, iipateni zenziwe ziqhubela phambili zibe ngabantu abadala. "Umnakekeli ongenakuthola" udala uxinzelelo kwintsana ehambelana "nomlingane ongenakufumana" ukudala uxinzelelo kumntu omdala. Iingqinisiso zokuncedisa zibonelela nge-"car map" kwiprogram yokuxinezeleka, iimvakalelo kunye neemfuno phakathi kwabalingani.
Isiseko seSayensi
Ngokuya kwiwebsite ezinikezelwe kwi-EFT, www.ICEEFT.com, iqela elikhulu lophando elichaza ukusebenza kwalolu unyango. Ngoku sele ithathwa njengenye yezona zininzi (ukuba akunjalo kakhulu) iifom ezenziwe ngokuchanekileyo zonyango. Uphando olwenziweyo lufumene ukuba i-70-75% yezibini ezithatha i-EFT ziphume ngokuphumelelayo kwixinzelelo zize zenzeke, kwaye malunga ne-90% ibonisa ukuphucuka okukhulu.
Ukubuyiselwa kwakhona kuzinzile kwaye kuhleli, kungabikho ubungqina obuncinane bokubuyela kubuhlungu.
I-EFT isetyenziselwa ezininzi iintlobo ezahlukeneyo zezibini ezizimeleyo, iziko loqeqesho lweyunivesithi kunye neekliniki zebhedlele. Kwakhona luncedo nakwiqela leenkcubeko kwihlabathi lonke.
Izibini ezixinzelelekileyo ezinokuzuza kwi-EFT ziquka ezo ziqabane okanye zombini amaqabane abhekene noxinzelelo, umlutha, ukuphazamiseka kwesifo sengxaki kunye nokugula okungapheliyo, phakathi kwezinye iingxaki. I-EFT iboniswe ukuba yindlela enamandla yezibini ezithatha ukungathembeki okanye ezinye iziganeko ezibuhlungu, zombini ezikhoyo kunye nezidlulileyo.
I-neuroscience nayo inqanda i-theory kunye ne-EFT. Uphando olutshanje olwenziweyo lwe-MRI lubonisa ukubaluleka kokuqhotyoshela okukhuselekileyo. Izikhonkco zethu zinamandla, kwaye ubuchopho bethu bubafaka "njengokhuseleko." Ngokutsho kwinqaku e-EFT kwiNtlalo yomSebenzi namhlanje , naluphi na umgama owaziwayo okanye ukwahlukana phakathi kobudlelwane bethu obusondeleyo buchazwa njengengozi. Ukulahlekelwa ukuxhomekeka kumntu othandekayo kusongela ingqiqo yethu yokhuseleko. Uloyiko olungqalileyo luyaqhubeka, kwaye lukhuphe i-alamu kwinxalenye yengqondo ebizwa ngokuba yiyo, eyaziwa ngokuba yiziko loyiko. Emva kokuba i-amygdala isebenze, ibangela ukuphendula kwethu ukulwa-okanye-nendiza . Xa ulwazi olungenayo luqhelekile, i-amygdala izolile. Nangona kunjalo, ngokukhawuleza ukuba i-amygdala ihlangene nokusongela okanye ulwazi olungavamile, landisa inqanaba lokuxhalabisa kwengqondo kwaye ligxininise ngengqondo kwimeko esheshayo. Abantu baya kwimodi yokulondoloza, besoloko benza oko benzayo ukuba "basinde" okanye bajamelane nobuntwaneni.
Esi sizathu sokuba sishukunyiswa njengabantu abadala ngobudlelwane bethu besithandane, kwimizekelo efanayo yokuphinda (kunye neyingozi) kwiminyaka yethu yokwenza. I-EFT inokukunceda ukuphazamisa ezi mpendulo ezenzekelayo, ezithintekayo.
Ukuxhasa ukuxhomekeka kwezempilo
I-EFT inikeza ulwimi ukuxhomekeka ngokusemgangathweni phakathi kwamaqabane kunye nokujonga kwizinto eziphambili kunye nezihlandlo ezichaza ubudlelwane bokuthanda abantu abadala. Injongo ephambili yomzekelo ukunyusa nokuhlaziya kwakhona iimpendulo zomzwelo zeso sibini. Ukulandelelana okutsha kweentsebenziswano zokubambisana kwenzeka kwaye kuthathe indawo yamandulo, iipatheni ezinjenge-"ukuphishekela-ukuhoxisa" okanye "ukugxeka-ukukhusela." Le mijikelezo emitsha, emihle ibe yinto yokuziqinisa nokudala utshintsho.
Ubudlelwane buba yindawo yokuhlala kunye neendawo zokuphilisa kuzo zombini amaqabane.
Ukudala iBond ekhusekileyo
Inkqubo iyanciphisa intlanano yabalingani ngelixa idala isibophelelo esiphezulu sengqondo. Ababini bafunda ukubonisa iimvakalelo ezinzulu, eziphantsi kweendawo zokungakhuselekanga nokucela iimfuno zabo ukuba zidibene. Abalingani baqala ukujonga ukuziphatha okungathandekiyo (oko kukuthi, ukuvalela okanye ukunyuka komsindo) "njengengqungquthela yokuqhaqha." Ababini bafunda ukuba babe neemeko zengqondo, baxoxe kwaye bahlanganyele kunye, kuqiniswe isibophelelo soqhagamshelo kunye nendawo ephephile phakathi kwabo.
I-EFT inamandla amaninzi njengemodeli yokwelapha. Okokuqala, kuxhaswa uphando olunzulu. Okwesibini, kubambisana kunye nokuhlonela abathengi. Itshintsha iimboso zeengxaki zesibini kwiimeko ezimbi phakathi kwabo, endaweni yezibini ngokwazo (okanye amaqabane). Ekugqibeleni, inkqubo yokuguqulwa imephu ibe yinkqubo ecacileyo echazwe ngamanyathelo ayisithoba kunye neziganeko zenguqu zintathu ezikunceda ukukhokela uphando kunye nokulandelela inkqubela phambili. Ukuba ukhangele uncedo ngolwalamano oluxinzelelekileyo, u-EFT oqeqeshiwe ogqithisileyo uza kuba yinto ekhethileyo.
Ukufumana i-EFT therapist, yiya kwi-www.EEEFT.com kwaye nqakraza kwi-"thola i-trap" ithebhu. Kwiinkqubo ezisekelwe kwi-EFT ezikolweni ezibini, nqakraza kwi "Thixo wam".
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