Indlela yoKhusela isiselo ngaphandle kokuphazamisa umphathi wakho okanye umhlobo
Kungaba nzima ukuthetha utywala ngotywala kunoma ubani, kodwa kunzima kakhulu kulabo abayeka okanye banciphise utywala. Unokuphephelela indawo apho iziphuzo zenziwe khona, ukuya kwindawo ethile. Nangona kunjalo, ekugqibeleni, uya kunikwa isiselo ngomntu owaziyo, okanye kwindawo yoluntu apho ungaqhelani nawo wonke umntu okhoyo. Kule meko, awufuni ukusoloko ufuna ukuchaza ingxaki yakho yotywala okanye umnqweno wokuphepha ukusela utywala kwabanye, ngakumbi ukuba uyayiqonda ukuba abayiqonda.
Oku kuyaqondakala ngokupheleleyo. Awunayo nayiphi na inkcazo malunga nokuba kutheni ungakhethi ukusela, kodwa kunokuba luncedo ukufumana impendulo engapheliyo ukuze uphephe imibuzo eminye.
Iindlela ezilungileyo zokuthi hayi zizinto eziqhelekileyo, iimpendulo ezihloniphekileyo kwisibonelelo, esinika isizathu sokungaboni ngaso. Nazi iindlela zam ezintlanu eziphezulu zokuthi hawu utywala, ngaphandle kokucaphukisa umphathi wakho, uziva uhlazekile okanye uveze ibali lakho lokubuyisela umlutha.
I-I-Driving
Esi sizathu sokugqibela. Abanye abantu abayeka ukuvolontiya kotywala ukuba abe ngumqhubi otyunjwe ngokuchanekileyo kwesi sizathu - bafuna ukuchitha ixesha nabahlobo, kodwa abafuni ukusela. Le mpendulo nayo indima enkulu kwabanye, kwaye yongeza kwimozulu yemeko yokwamkelwa kokuhlala engqondweni emva kwesondo. Nabani na oncinezela ukuba uphuze emva kokunika le mpendulo akufanelekanga ukuphulaphula. Ingozi yokusela kunye nokuqhuba imoto zibhalwe kakuhle ukuba akusekho kuluntu olwamkelekileyo ukuqhuba emva kokusela utywala. Nangona abanye abantu bafuna ukusela xa besithi "bangaphantsi komda," nangona beyinyani ngokwenene, basengakwazi. Funda malunga nomxholo wengotywala yegazi ngolwazi olungakumbi malunga nokuba ulwahlulo oluthile lotywala lunokukuchaphazela njani.
2 - Hayi, Ndiyaphelile kuphela
Into endiyithandayo malunga nale mpendulo yilapho isweleka kwixabiso lexabiso malunga nokusela ukuba akukho mntu unokumangalela ngokukhupha okanye ukushumayela. Indlela oziva ngayo emva kokuba uphuze umcimbi othile, kwaye ukuba awufuni ukuba omnye atywe kwangoko, konke oku kuthetha ukuba imida efanelekileyo yodwa iyakuthuthuzela. Kwakhona kubonisa ukuba awuyena umtywala wokunyanzela, kwaye ubeka iitoni kwabanye ukunyusa ukusela kwabo. Nangona kunjalo impendulo iquka into yokuba usenokuba uphuze xa uvakalelwa njengomnye, ngoko oku kusebenza kakuhle nangempendulo yoluhlobo lomntu okhuphayo aze ahlasele abo baphila. Ngoxa le nto ingenakuba yinto enxulumene ngayo nomhlobo, ngamanye amaxesha awunakukhuselwa kwimeko yoluntu. Aba bantu abanakuphikisa ukuba kufuneka uphinde uphuze ngokukhawuleza emva kokugqibela kwakho, kwaye ukuba bayakwenza, bafumana nje ukuba baxhamle kwaye banxila.
I-3 - NdineMida Yami Ngobusuku
Le mpendulo engcono kakhulu xa usela rhoqo nabantu abafanayo, ufuna ukulawula ukusela kwakho, kwaye ubeke umda ngokusekelwe kwiinkxalabo zegazi . Abanye baya kufunda malunga nexesha lokuba uya kusela kuphela inani elithile lophuza ngaphakathi kwexesha elithile, ngoko banokuzonwabisa ngokunxila kunye nawe kwimida. Ukusela okulawulwayo kunenjongo kubantu abaninzi abaneengxaki zotywala . Abanye abantu abaku-pushy bangakuxinzelela ukuba ube nokunye, kodwa umele umgangatho wakho. Musa ukusabela kwisicinzelelo esinjalo. Emva kwakho konke, unelungelo lokumisela kwaye unamathele kumda wakho, kwaye umda wakho usekelwe kububungqina benzululwazi, kungekhona kwiimvakalelo zakho okanye nakwezinye izinto.
4 - Ndifuna ukugcina iNtloko ecacileyo
Ukutshintsha kule mpendulo kukuba, "Hayi, ndiyabonga ngomso," "Hayi, ndiyabonga, ndinokuqala kwasekuseni," okanye "Hayi, ndiyabonga, andifuni ukufumana ingozi." Le ndlela yindlela enkulu yokuvumela abantu ukuba utywala alulawuli ubomi bakho, kwaye awuyi kuvumela ukuba uphazamise usuku lwakho lokusebenza ngosuku olulandelayo. Oku kubaluleke kakhulu kubantu abanokuchaphazeleka kakubi ngolu suku ngokusela kakhulu, njengabafundi ngexesha lokuvavanya. Khumbula kwakhona ukuba kunokuthatha iiyure zokusela utywala ukuba ususwe kwinkqubo yakho, kwaye abantu abasela kakhulu ubusuku busenokuxinwa ngentsasa elandelayo, ngamanye amaxesha kubangelwa iingozi. Ukugcina intloko ecacileyo kungabalulekanga kubo bonke abaphuza, kodwa kufanele kube kuwe.
5 - Andiyiphuzi
Le mpendulo ithatha inkalipho, kwaye iyona nto ihlala ihambelana neemfuno zeenkcazo. Ngokufanelekileyo, kufuneka ivalwe nayiphi na enye ingxoxo, nangona kufanele ulungele ukuba unokuthi ulungele ukunyamezela xa unokubuza ukuba unayo ingxaki yokusela , unokuba nobunzima bakho okanye unomdlalo onokuzonwabisa, okanye unokuba xelelwe ukuba, "Unako ukusela." Kodwa ke impendulo engcono kakhulu kuyo nawuphi na umntu onzulu kakhulu malunga nokuphulukana nokusela utywala , okanye ngubani ofuna ukuphelisa ukungabikho kwengcinezelo yontanga ukusela utywala. Ekugqibeleni, abantu baya kufunda ukwamkela ukuba utshintshile, kwaye wena ngokwakho uya kuba ngumzekelo phakathi kweontanga.