Ukubonelela ngokuqinisekileyo ngokweqhinga kuphela Kuwenza Iingxaki Zibi
Enye yezinto iintsapho kunye nabahlobo babantu abachaphazelekayo ngengxaki yokunyanzela (OCD) abafumanisa ukuba yinkxalabo ekujonganeni nomntu wabo othandekayo kukufuna ukuqinisekiswa okugqithiseleyo oku kuhamba rhoqo kunye ne-OCD.
Yintoni eqinisekisayo yokufuna?
Ukufuna ukuqinisekiswa okugqithisileyo kubandakanya ukujonga kunye nelungu losapho, umhlobo okanye nokuba ngumfokazi ngokuphindaphindiweyo ukuqinisekisa ukuba yonke into ilungile ngokubhekiselele kwinkxalabo ethile okanye ukunyaniseka.
Ukufuna ukuqinisekiswa okugqithisileyo kuya kuphakama xa amanqanaba okuxinwa aphakamileyo kunye / okanye xa umntu eziva ekwazi ukunyamezela ukungaqiniseki. Makhe sibone imizekelo embalwa.
Umzekelo 1:
UJane ufumana iimvakalelo ezinxulumene nokubetha umntu xa eqhuba imoto yakhe kwaye engayiqondi. Xa eqhuba ngemoto yakhe, ucela umyeni wakhe ukuba akhangele kwisibuko esilandelayo ngokuphindaphindiweyo ukuze aqiniseke ukuba akazange agijime umntu ngaphandle kokuyiqonda. Nangona wayecaphukile, umyeni wakhe akafuni ukuba azive exhalabile, ngoko ukhangele kwisibuko xa ebuzwa aze amxelele yonke into ifanelekile.
Umzekelo 2:
URahim unesifiso sesondo ngokuphathelele ukudlwengula umntu ongaziwayo. Nangona uRahim efumana ezi ngcamango ezixinzelelekileyo kwaye engafuni ukuba nazo, uyaqiniseka ukuba ezi ngcamango zithetha ukuba u-molester. Uhlala embuza umzalwana wakhe ukuba ngaba u-molester nokuba ngaba wakhe wambona ehlambalaza umntu. Umzalwana wakhe wenqaba ukuxubusha umcimbi obangela uRahim ukuba acinezeleke kakhulu.
Umzekelo 3:
UDonna ukhathazeke kakhulu ukuba uya kukhwelisa isifo sesifo socansi esivela kwiindawo zokusebenzela. Emva kokuhlamba izandla, uya kucela umhlobo, okanye umfokazi ukuba ukuxhalaba kwakhe kuphakame ngokwaneleyo, nokuba izandla zakhe zibukeka zicocekile okanye ukuba zimele zikhathazeke ngokufumana isigulo.
Nangona bemxelela ukuba akufanele akhathazeke, ucela inani "kodwa kuthekani ukuba" imibuzo aze aqiniseke ngokupheleleyo ukuba izandla zakhe zihlambulukile. Abahlobo kunye nosapho ngoku bayeke ukuhamba naye kwiindawo zoluntu ngenxa yokuziphatha kwakhe.
Umzekelo 4:
UZhang unesifiso esichasene nomlingane wakhe ofa engozini. Uyakuthi wambize ngokuphindaphindiweyo emisebenzini ukuqinisekisa ukuba uyaphila kwaye ngamanye amaxesha uya kuba nomsindo xa engakwazi ukuthetha naye. Abasebenzi bomfazi wakhe baqalise ukuxhalabela ngamanani amaxesha awamthiya emsebenzini kwaye ukhathazekile ngempembelelo yale mpawu kwimisebenzi yakhe.
Kutheni Ukuqinisekiswa Okugqithisileyo Kufuna Ukulimaza?
- Luhlobo lokunyanzeliswa. Ukufuna ukuqinisekiswa okugqithiseleyo kuyisenzo esenziwa ngokuphindaphindiweyo ngeenjongo zokunciphisa uxhalaba oluhambelana nokunyaniseka.
- Inika ukuqinisekiswa kokugqithisa. Njalo xa umntu ophethe i- OCD enza inyanzelekile, inceda ukuqinisekiswa kokubandezeleka okanye ukunyaniseka. Emva koko, kutheni ufuna ukuqinisekiswa ukuba akukho nto inokukhathazeka ngayo?
- Ikhuthaza ukuphepha. Ikwaqinisekisa kwakhona ukuba umntu akakwazi ukujamelana nokungaqiniseki okanye uxinzelelo oluhambelana nokugqithisa kwaye ukuphepha kukuphela kwendlela yokujongana nayo. Ukuphepheka kunobungozi ngakumbi kwimeko ye- OCD njengoko igcina umntu engaboni ukuba ukwesaba kwabo kungabi nasisiseko. Ngaloo ndlela, nangona ukuqinisekiswa okugqithisileyo kwenza ukuba umntu azive engcono kwixesha elifutshane, kwixesha elide lisebenza kuphela ukuqhubela phambili iimpawu ze-OCD.
- Inobungozi kubuhlobo. Ukongezelela, abahlobo kunye namalungu entsapho, abahlala bevela kwimithombo yenkxaso yentlalo, bacaphukisa baze bahoxise kumntu ochaphazelekayo, osebenza kuphela ukuphakamisa amanqanaba abo oxinzelelo. Enyanisweni, uxinzelelo lubangelwa yimpawu ze-OCD kunye neemfuno zokulawulwa ngokufanelekileyo .
Iyiphi indlela engcono kakhulu yokujongana nokufuna ukuqinisekiswa okugqithisileyo?
- Qondani ukuba ngokukodwa iminyanzeliso efuna ukuncitshiswa okanye yokupheliswa. Oku kunokwenziwa ngokuthe ngempumelelo kwiintlanganiso zeentsapho eziququzelelwe ngumboneleli wezempilo yengqondo okanye umphathiswa we-OCD .
- Vumelana ukuyeka. Kwimeko yonyango lwe- OCD , izigulane, iintsapho kunye nabahlobo ngokufanayo kufuneka bavume ukuba ukucela / ukubonelela ngokuqinisekileyo ngokweqile kufuneka kume. Oku kunokuba nzima njengoko amalungu entsapho athile afuna into engakumbi kunokuba umthandi wabo abe nexhala elincinane, ngoko ke baya kuthi bancede baqinisekiswe. Nangona kunjalo, xa amalungu entsapho eqonda ukuba ukufunwa ngokuqinisekileyo ngokuqinisekileyo kuyindlela yokunyanzeliswa, abaninzi banako ukuyeka.
- Iithagethi ngundoqo. Ngokuqhelekileyo luncedo kwizigulane kunye namalungu entsapho ukuchonga imiba emininzi apho umntu efuna ukuqinisekiswa kwaye aze abhale phantsi impendulo yokuqinisekisa, njengokuthi "izandla zakho zihlambulukile kwaye zingenasifo" kwikhadi lokunyamezela ukuba isiguli singakwazi kuthwala nabo. Nanini na xa isigulane sikhathazekile, kuvunyelwene ukuba baya kukhupha ikhadi lekhawu kwaye bafunde impendulo kunokuba bacele ngqo ilungu losapho okanye umhlobo. Nangona oku kumelela ukunyanzeliswa , kunciphisa ubunzima phakathi kwentsapho kwaye kuphucula ubudlelwane nabanye.
Ngokumalunga nokunciphisa ukuqinisekiswa okuzifunayo ngokwayo, esinye sezicwangciso ezinempumelelo kakhulu kunokufundisa umhlobo wakho kunye neendlela ze- OCD zokujongana nokungaqiniseki .