I-OCD inokubeka i-damper kubomi bothando, kodwa kukho iindlela zokujamelana nazo
Ukuba unengxaki yokunyanzelisa ingxaki (OCD), uyazi ukuba iimpawu zakho zisoloko zifumana indlela yokuseka nokugcina ubudlelwane bokuthandana. Enyanisweni, abantu abaninzi abane-OCD abangatshatanga, kwaye abo bahlala kunye okanye batshata bahlala bexela ubungakanani obunzima bokuxineka kobudlelwane. Kakade ke, akubona bonke abantu abane-OCD bafana.
Kodwa ukuba iimpawu ze-OCD yakho zibeka umngeni omkhulu kumdla wothando, zikhona iindlela zokuhlangabezana nazo.
Iimpawu ze-OCD ziyakwenza iZithintelo zobudlelwano bobuhlobo
Kukho iindlela ezininzi ze-OCD ezinokufumana ngayo ubudlelwane bokuthandana. Ngokomzekelo, unokuba nemingeni ukugcina ukuzithemba kwakho kwaye unokubandezeleka ngeentloni kwiimpawu zakho, ezinokukukhokelela ekuthinteni ukunxibelelana nabanye.
Ukongezelela, unokucinga ukuba kufuneka ufihle ubunjani bezinto zakho zokunyamezela kunye nokunyanzeliswa ukuba ugweme ukukhishwa ngumntu onokubakho okanye onokuthandana naye. Ukunyamezela okanye ukunyanzeliswa kunokutshintshelwa kunye nomlingane wakho wesithandana, okwenza kube nzima ngakumbi ukubonakalisa uhlobo lweempawu zakho. Kucacile ukuba lo mfihlelo uya kuma endleleni yoluhlobo oluvulekile, oluthembekileyo nolusondeleyo. Iimpawu zokudakumba, eziqhelekanga kwi-OCD, zingenza kube nzima ukuseka nokugcina ubudlelwane obusondeleyo .
Enyanisweni, kubantu abaninzi, ukuthandana ngokwesondo kubaluleke kakhulu kunoma yintoni ubuhlobo bothando. Nangona kunjalo, njengoko usenokuba nakho, iimpawu ze-OCD zingaphazamisa ubudlelwane bezesondo. Ngokomzekelo, unakho ukuvalelwa okumalunga nokuhlambulula (njengokuhlambuluka kwendawo yesini yomlingani wakho) okanye ukuphazamisa imixholo yesondo (njengokuhlaselwa ngokwesondo) okwenza kube nzima kakhulu ukubandakanya ubudlelwane bezesondo kunye neqabane lakho.
Akumangalisi ukuba abantu abane-OCD bahlala bexhatshazwa ngokwesondo kwaye benganelisekanga ngokobudlelwane babo.
Indlela yokujongana nayo
Nangona i-OCD ibangela imingeni emininzi yokwenza, ukugcina, kunye nokuzonwabisa nolwalamano, kukho iindlela zokujamelana nazo , kuquka:
- Ukulawula iimpawu zakho. Ubunzima beempawu ze-OCD zihambelana ngokuqinisekileyo nokungakwazi ukuseka kunye nokugcina ubudlelwane obusondeleyo. Ngaloo ndlela, isinyathelo esibalulekileyo kunye nesimfuneko sokuqala ekusebenziseni uthando oluncinane ebomini bakho kukuphatha kakuhle iimpawu zakho. Qinisekisa ukuhlaziya isicwangciso sakho soonyango kunye nogqirha wakho, ingqondo yengqondo okanye enye ingcali yezempilo yengqondo ukuqinisekisa ukuba wenza inkqubo efanelekileyo kakhulu yokonyango.
- Cinga nge-psychotherapy. Ukongezelela ekulawuleni iimpawu ze-OCD, i- psychotherapy inokunika isakhelo esiluncedo sokusebenza kwiingxaki ezinjenge-low self-esteem, ubunzima bokubambisana, izakhono zentlalo ezihluphekileyo kunye nokungabi nantembelo enokubangela ukuba ukwazi ukuqala okanye ukugcina ubuhlobo obuzinzile, obude.
- Fumana iqabane lakho libandakanyeke. Ukuba usuvele ulwalamano lomtshato, kunokuba luncedo kumlingane wakho ukuba athathe inxaxheba ethe xaxa kunyango lwakho. Igosa okanye ugqirha wezobuchwephesha kungaba yindawo ekhuselekileyo neyengathathi hlangothi ukuxoxa ngeempawu ozijongene nazo, ingakumbi ezo ezinokuhlazisa okanye ukuma endleleni yokuseka okanye ukwakha ubuhlobo obusondeleyo. Ingakumbi iqabane lakho liqonda iimpawu zakho, ngakumbi uya kukwazi ukuthembelana.
- Gcina uxhulumaniso oluvulekileyo nolunyanisekileyo. Ingaba unayo i-OCD okanye ayikho, ukuthetha ngokuvula nangokunyanisekileyo kuyisiseko salo naluphi na ulwalamano lomtshato. Oku kubaluleke ngakumbi xa iimpawu zakho ziqinisa okanye zitshintshile. Iqabane lakho lifuna ukwazi oko uhlangabezana nalo. Ukungazi kakuhle imingeni ojongene nazo kunokukhokelela ekungaqondani (njengokuthi "akafumani ndiyakheke") efumana indlela yokwakha isondlo kunye nokwethemba.
- Joyina iqela lokuxhasa. Amaqela enkxaso yoluntu kwi-OCD ingaba yimithombo efanelekileyo yenkxaso yoluntu kwaye inike ithuba lokuva indlela abanye abajongene ngayo neemvakalelo zokuzihlalisa okanye ukuhlazeka. Nangona kunokuzama ukumelana nomntu odibene naye ngokusebenzisa iqela lokuxhasa, qhubeka uqaphele. Amacandelo amanxaso amaninzi anemithetho ekhuselekileyo yokukhusela imfihlo yabemi kunye kwaye angakhuthaza kakhulu ubudlelwane (nokuba ngabahlobo abangaqhelekanga) ngaphandle kwendawo yokubeka iqela. Ukuba ufumana iqela lokuxhasa ukuba lixabiseke kwaye ubuhlobo buphela, kunokuba nzima ukuba omnye okanye bobabini ukuba ubuyele kwiqela.