Funda Uqhagamshelwano oluQinisekisayo kwiZintlanu ezinqamlezileyo

Unxibelelwano oluxhasayo lunokomeleza ubudlelwane bakho, ukunciphisa uxinzelelo lwengxabano kunye nokunikezela ngenkxaso yoluntu xa ujongene nezihlandlo ezinzima. Ukuhlonipha kodwa "ukuxhomekeka" kwiimfuno ezigqithisileyo kwabanye kuya kukukunceda ukuba ugweme ukulayisha ngaphezulu kweshedyuli yakho nokukhuthaza ukulinganisela ebomini bakho . Unxibelelwano oluxhasayo lunokukunceda ukujongana nobunzima beentsapho, abahlobo kunye nabasebenzi abasebenzisana nabo ngokulula, ukunciphisa umdlalo noxinzelelo.

Ekugqibeleni, ukunxibelelana okuxhasayo kukunika imida ebalulekileyo kwimimandla eya kukuvumela ukuba ufumane iimfuno zakho zidibana nobudlelwane ngaphandle kokuhlukanisa abanye ngaphandle kokuvumela ukucaphuka kunye nentukuthelo. ukuba iimfuno zabo zidibene nazo, kwizinga eliphezulu kakhulu. Ukuqinisekiswa kuvumela abantu ukuba basondele.

Umngeni ngokuthetha ngokubambisana kukuba kuthatha imfundo kunye nento encinane, ngokukodwa kulabo abangazange bafundiswe ukukhulumisana okuxhasayo. Abantu abaninzi baphosisa ukunyaniseka, kodwa ukuqinisekiswa ngokwenene kuphakathi okulinganayo phakathi kobugwenxa kunye nokunyaniseka. Ukunyamezela kukukhokelela ekwenzeni ubuhlungu kunye nobudlelwane obuqhekekileyo, kodwa ukungahambisani nomsebenzi kubangela ukuba uxinzelelo kunye nentukuthelo, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha uphinde udibanise ekupheleni. Ukuthetha kuthetha ngokuhlonipha iimfuno kunye namalungelo omntu wonke - kuquka neyakho-kwaye kukunceda ugcine imida phakathi kobudlelwane xa unceda abanye bazive behlonishwa ngexesha elifanayo.

Ezi zilandelayo zinyathelo zokunxibelelana ezixhasayo zingakunceda ukuba uhlakulele isitayela esinxibelelwano esinempilo kunye nokunciphisa uxinzelelo ebomini bakho kwinkqubo.

Nantsi indlela:

1. Yinyaniso, kungekhona isigwebo, malunga nento ongayithandiyo.

Xa usondela kumntu malunga nokuziphatha ongathanda ukubona ukutshintsha, gcina kwiincwadana ezicacileyo zento ayenzileyo eyakucaphukisa kuwe, kunokuba ibhalile okanye izigwebo.

Nasi umzekelo:

Imeko:
Umhlobo wakho, oqhele ukufika ngokukhawuleza ngenxa yezicwangciso zakho, ubonise imitha engamashumi amabini emva komhla wokusemini.

Engafanelekanga: "Ukhohlakele kakhulu! Uhlala unomphela."
Unxibelelwano oluxhasayo: "Sasifanele sihlangane ngo-11: 30, kodwa ngoku ngu-11:50."

2. Qinisekisa (musa ukugweba okanye ukunyanisela) malunga nemiphumo yale ndlela yokuziphatha.

Ukuba yinyani malunga noko ungathandi kumntu othile (ngaphandle kokugqithisa okanye ukugweba) kuyisiqalo esibalulekileyo. Kuyafana okufanayo xa kuchaza imiphumo yokuziphatha kwabo. Musa ukunyanisela, ilebula okanye ijaji; chaza nje:

Engafanelekanga: "Ngoku isidlo sasemini sonakalisiwe."
UNxibelelwano oluxhasayo: "Ngoku ndingenaxesha elincinane lokuchitha isidlo sasemini kuba ndifuna kwakhona ukuba ndibuyele emsebenzini ngo-1pm."

Sebenzisa "Imiyalezo."

Ukubeka nje, ukuba uqala isigwebo kunye "Wena ...", iphuma njengento engaphezulu kwesigwebo okanye njengokuhlaselwa kwaye ibeka abantu ekuzikhuseleni. Ukuba uqala ngo "Mina," kugxininise ngakumbi kwindlela ozivakalelwa ngayo kunye nendlela ochaphazeleka ngayo ngokuziphatha kwabo. Kwakhona, kubonisa ubuninzi bobunini beempendulo zakho kunye necala. Oku kunceda ukunciphisa ukukhusela komnye umntu, imodeli isenzo sokuthwala uxanduva, kwaye kushukumisele ukuba uguqule kakuhle.

Umzekelo:

"Umyalezo:" "Kufuneka umeke loo nto!"
"Ndimyalezo:" "Ndingathanda ukuba uyayimisa loo nto."

4. Beka konke kunye nale fomyula.

Nantsi indlela enkulu ebeka ndawonye:

"Xa [ukuziphatha kwabo], ndivakalelwa [iimvakalelo zakho]."

Xa zisetyenziswe ngeengxelo ezithe tye, kunokuba zigwebe okanye iilebula, le fomyula inikezela ngendlela engqalileyo, engahlaseliyo, enomthwalo wokuvumela abantu bazi indlela ukuziphatha kwabo kukuchaphazela ngayo. Umzekelo:

"Xa ukhwaza, ndiziva ndihlaselwa."

5. Ukubhala uluhlu, iziphumo kunye neemvakalelo.

Ukutshintsha okuphambili kwile fom kubandakanya iziphumo zokuziphatha kwazo (kwakhona, kufakwa emigqeni yeqiniso), kwaye ibonakala ngathi:

"Xa [ukuziphatha kwabo], ngoko [iziphumo zokuziphatha], kwaye ndivakalelwa [indlela ozivakalelwa ngayo]."

Nazi ezinye izibonelo:

"Xa ufika ngokukhawuleza, kufuneka ndilinde, kwaye ndiziva ndixhalabile."

Xa uthetha abantwana bangenza into endiyithintele, elinye igunya lam njengomzali lithathwe, kwaye ndiziva ndingatshatyalaliswa. "

Iingcebiso:

1. Qinisekisa ukuba umzimba wakho ubonakalisa ukuzithemba: phakamisa ngqo, jonga abantu kwiso, uphumule.
2. Sebenzisa iqhosha, kodwa elihle, ithoni.
3. Ungacingi ukuba uyazi ukuba iziphi izizathu zomntu, ngakumbi ukuba ucinga ukuba zibi.
4. Xa uxoxwa, ungalibali ukuphulaphula uze ubuze imibuzo! Kubalulekile ukuqonda enye imbono yomntu.
5. Zama ukucinga ukuphumelela: funda ukuba unokufumana ingcamango okanye indlela yokuba ufumana iimfuno zakho zidibene.
6. Funda ngokumalunga nokusebenzisa iindlela ezifanelekileyo zokunxibelelana kunye neendlela zokulungisa izimpikiswano ukuphepha .