Inzuzo kunye neNgxowa yeNcwadi yokuThengisa phambili
Izivumelwano ezine: Isikhokelo esiSebenzayo kwiNkululeko yoMntu , nguDon Miguel Ruiz, yincwadi ebalulekileyo yokulawula uxinzelelo kunye nokukhula komntu. Kubhaliwe ngolwimi olulula kodwa lujongene nezihloko eziyinkimbinkimbi ezinokukunceda ukuletha utshintsho olubalulekileyo ebomini bakho.
Enye impendulo kule ncwadi kukuba ezinye zezivumelwano zigqithise kakhulu kwaye, ukuba uzithatha ngokoqobo, zingabangela iingxaki ezongezelelweyo ebomini bakho ukuba zithathwe ngaphandle kwesonka seetyuwa.
Nangona kunjalo, kunye nokulinganisela kwemilinganiselo kunye nesimo sokuvuleka, ezi zivumelwano ziyakwazi ukuguqulwa kunye nokuxininiswa kwengcinezelo . Nantsi ingcaciso yesinye sezivumelwano ezine.
Isivumelwano soku-1: Yiba nengqiqo ngeLizwi lakho
Oko okubandakanya: Esi sivumelwano sixoxa ngokuphepha ukuhleka, ubuxoki, izithembiso ezingenanto kunye nezinye iindlela esenza ngayo iingxaki ngamagama ethu. Yithetha kuphela oko uthethayo, kwaye uqaphele ukuba unokwenza umonakalo ukuba awuqapheli nento oyithethayo.
Kufuneka uqaphele: Abantu abaninzi abaqapheli amandla abo ngamazwi kwaye aboni umonakalo onokubangelwa ngokuthetha ngokungakhathali, ngokungacingi, okanye ngokukhawuleza. Uninzi lwethu uyazi ukuba ukumemeza komntu kunokubacaphukisa kubo, kodwa kungabonakali nto encinci kubo, okanye ukuhleka emva kwemva yabo, kunokubangela abanye ubuhlungu ngaphezu kokuba siyiqonda, kwaye xa sibaphatha kakubi, siyazilimaza. Nangona kulungile ukuba sibe nesisa malunga nendlela esisebenzisa ngayo amagama ethu, le mvumelwano ingaba nzima ukuyilandela ngokupheleleyo.
Injongo enkulu yokufuna, nangona kunjalo, kunye nesilathiso esihle sokusebenza kuyo, nangayiphi na imeko.
Isivumelwano sesi-2: Musa ukuthatha nayiphi into
Oko okubandakanya: Le ngcamango ijongene nokuqonda indlela abanye abantu abaziphatha ngayo kubonakalisa bona kuphela. Xa umntu esinika impendulo malunga nokuziphatha kwethu okanye ngathi ngathi ngabantu, kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuba akukho mbono enenjongo ngokwenene; sonke sinezizathu zethu, izihlunu zethu apho sibona ihlabathi.
Ngenxa yoko, akufanele sithathe enye imbono yethu okanye izenzo zethu njengechanekileyo ngokupheleleyo. Xa umntu uthetha okuthile ngathi, bathetha okuthile malunga nabo kunye nendlela abajonga ngayo ihlabathi.
Kufuneka uqaphele: Le ngcebiso efanelekileyo ekuncedeni ukuba ube ngumsebenzi ongaphantsi, okhuselayo, nokuziphindezela, kodwa ugcine ngokulinganisela. Nangona wonke umntu eneengxaki zakhe kwaye akukho nto efana nokunyaniseka, ngokungakhange uthathe nantoni na , ungakwazi ukukhawuleza ukukwazi ukujonga iipatheni zakho ezimbi kunye nokucinga okucingileyo kwaye usebenze ekuphuhliseni iipateni ezinempilo kunye nokucinga okucacileyo. Njengoko uMnu. Scott Peck athi kwiNdlela engaphantsi , wathi: "Ingxaki yokuhlukanisa oko sikukho kunye nento esingajongene nayo kule bomi ingenye yeengxaki ezinkulu zobomi babantu." Nangona kubalulekile ukuyeka ukukhathazeka kwethu kweminye imibono yabantu, ezinye iimpendulo maziqwalaselwe kwaye iimfuno zabanye nazo kufuneka zihlonishwe. Ungayeki emsebenzini woxanduva lokwahlula, okanye ugqibe ukudala uxinzelelo olude ngexesha elide.
Isivumelwano sesi-3: Musa ukwenza izigqibo
Oko okubandakanya: Uninzi loxinzelelo lunokuyilwa xa ucinga ukuba unjani abanye abantu abaye bacinga ngaphandle kokujonga nabo.
Ukuqonda ukuba abanye abantu banokuba nezizathu ezahlukileyo zezenzo zabo, nokuba bahluke kakhulu kwiimbono zehlabathi ezivela kwakho, kwaye ukhumbule ukuba uzame ukuqonda abanye kwaye uxoxe ngalezi zizathu ngaphambi kokuba ufikelele kwizigqibo malunga nokuziphatha kwabo, unokuhamba ixesha elide ekuthintela ukungquzulwano phakathi kwabantu.
Kufuneka uqaphele: Ukuthatha le ngcebiso kwixesha elibi kunokubangela ukuba ungayihoyi i-intuition yakho ngabantu okanye ingqiqo ngokuziphatha komntu okukulimazayo kuwe. Inokukuvula kwakhona ukunyanzelisa xa uqeqesha ukuba ukholelwe ingcaciso yomntu wokuziphatha okubi ngaphandle kokugweba ukuziphatha ngokwakho.
Ngokomzekelo, ungakholelwa ukuba ukhohlisiwe xa iqabane lakho libonisa ukuziphatha okungahambiyo kunye nemiqondiso yeklasi yokungathembeki, kodwa uyayiphika ngokunyanisekileyo into engalunganga. Esi sivumelwano sisiluleko esihle kodwa simele sihluthe ukuhlakanipha kwangaphakathi nokuqonda.
Isivumelwano sesi-4: soloko usenza okulungileyo
Oko kubandakanya: Ngalokhu, i-Ruiz ithetha ukwenza okusemandleni akho nawuphi na umzuzu kwaye awuyi kuzisola. Kweminye intsuku, into enhle ayifanelekanga njengenye imihla, kwaye kulungile. Ngethuba nje ubeka umgudu onyanisekileyo ebomini, awuyi kuba neentloni, kwaye awuyi kuzingca ngaphezu kokusebenza okungaphantsi kwe-stellar kwi-retrospect.
Kufuneka uqaphele: Le ngcebiso efanelekileyo kunoma ubani kwaye unokukunceda ukufezekisa inkqubela phambili kwiinjongo zakho, kunye nokuthintela iimvakalelo ezingadingekile zokuzisola.
Isishwankathelo
Nangona ngamanye amaxesha izivumelwano zigqithisileyo, oku kuseyona ncwadi encinci kunye neengcamango ezinzima. Ukugxila kwiyiphi na yezi zivumelwano kunokuphucula kakhulu ubomi bakho kwaye kunciphise uxinzelelo; kugxininisa kuzo zonke ezine ziyakwazi ukuguqula ubomi kubantu abaninzi. Ukuba ilandelwa ngokubanzi kwaye ingabonakali, ezi ngcebiso zinokukunceda ukunciphisa uxinzelelo olukhulu ngokukunceda ukuphepha iingcinga kunye neendlela zokuziphatha ezidala ukukhungatheka, ukugxeka, ukuvakalelwa, kunye nezinye iimvakalelo ezimbi .