Indlela iMida kwiBudlelwane inokuthintela amanqanaba okuxinwa
Ingcamango "yemingcele" ebudlelwaneni yinto edlalwa ngayo kwingingqi yonyango lwentsapho. Abagqithisi abahlukeneyo kunye nabaphandi bangasebenzisa amagama ahlukeneyo ngokubhekiselele kwimida yobudlelwane, kodwa bonke bahlala bethetha ngento efanayo: apho sichaza khona abantu. Imida ingachazwa ngokuthi, "Uphi na ukuphela kunye nalapho abanye beqala khona," okanye "Yeka indlela ekufutshane ngayo ukuvumela abantu bafike kuwe." Ziyodwa umlinganiselo wobudlelwane bezempilo, kwaye unokudibaniswa noxinzelelo xa imida ingacaci.
Indlela Ukusekwa kweMida-mali kukunceda ngayo ukuPhathwa koxinzelelo
Ukubeka imida enempilo ebuhlotsheni bakho buyingxenye ebalulekileyo yokulawula uxinzelelo ngezizathu ezininzi.- Ukugcina ukulingana
Okokuqala, xa singayifaki imida kwizinto esiza kuthi u-ewe kwaye akukho, siyakuthanda ukuthatha uxanduva oluninzi kunokuba sikhululekile, ukuze sikholise abanye. Oku kunokongeza uxinzelelo njengoko sizama ukujonga indlela yokuphila exakeke kakhulu kwinqanaba lethu lokuthuthuzela. (Ngenxa yokuba sisazi ngakumbi kunabo nabani na into eninzi nakweyona nto engekho-ukuba asiyikuyihlonela imida yethu, sinokulindela njani abanye ukuba bawahloniphe, okanye bazi nokuba balalaphi?) Ukubeka imida ephilileyo kusinceda ukugcina ibhalansi efanelekileyo kwiishedyuli zethu nakubomi bethu. - Ukugcina Ingxabano encinci
Ukongezelela, xa sithi ewe kwizinto eza kulungiswa kangcono ngo "cha," sivame ukuvakalelwa emva kwexeshana. Abanye bethu besenokungaqondi ukuba sinesandla kwishedyuli yethu esityebileyo, ngelixa abanye bethu besenokuzikhukhumeza ngokwenza ukuba kwenzeke. Naluphi na ukuqonda kwethu, siyazi ukuba siziva sisicinezelekile, kwaye siyakucaphukisa loo ntliziyo. (Jonga oku ngakumbi malunga nendlela yokuthi cha .)Ukuba sivakalelwa kwaye sisicatshukiswa yimeko esibhekana nayo, okanye siqondise loo mvakalelo ngabantu abaxoshe imida yethu, sinokuphela ukuziva sihlukaniswe nabantu abathile esizama ukubanceda, okanye ukulimaza ubudlelwane bethu sizimisele ukuqinisa. Kwaye sonke siyazi ukuba ingxabano enxulumene noxinzelelo ingabangela! (Ukuba awuyiyo, funda lo uphando malunga nokungquzulana kobudlelwane .) Ukugcina imida enempilo kwenza abanye bazi ukuba bahlala nini na, kwaye kunokusenza sikwazi ukuphepha ukudala ukungquzulana kwimiba yethu ngenxa yoxinzelelo kunye nezinye iimvakalelo ezibangelwa zizihlwempu imida.
- Ukubeka iMimiselo ikhuthaza ukuVala
Iibhere zikhankanya ukuba ukungaqondi kakuhle ngokumalunga nemida yakho kukuba ukugcina wonke umntu ebomini bethu ubude bengalo kufana nokuba nomda onamandla, onempilo. Enyanisweni, ukuvumela abanye ukuba basondele kuthi, ngaphandle kokusiphazamisa, yinjongo yonyani yokumisela imida; Imida ephilileyo ivumela ukuba sibe nobudlelwane obusondeleyo obuhlonipha iimfuno zabo bonke abachaphazelekayo. Abaninzi bethu banabantu abathile ebomini bethu abafuna uhlobo oluthile lwempendulo, kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo kufuneka bagcinwe ubude bengalo (okanye ngaphezulu) kuba abayihloneli imida esiyibekayo, kodwa uninzi lwabantu luya kuvunyelwa ukuba sondela kuthi ngaphandle kokungena ezinzwaneni zethu-ukuba kuphela sibazisa apho simi khona. (Funda oku ngakumbi malunga nokujongana nabantu abanzima .)
Umgca ongundoqo kukuba ukubeka imida efanelekileyo kwimibutho yikhono eliphambili lolawulo loxinzelelo lobudlelwane. Ububele esinokuzenzela thina kunye nabo basondele. Ukuba ukulungiswa kwemida ayikho into esele ukhululekile kunye nayo, kukho ininzi ongayenza ukuphuhlisa umgangatho wokhuseleko kunye nekhono. (Kwaye akungabazeki, uya kuba namathuba amaninzi ebomini bakho ukuzisebenzisa!) Ezi ngcebiso malunga nokubeka imida yakho zinganceda.