Ukugcina izilinganiso: Gwema ukungalingani ebomini bakho
Kukho ininzi ye-buzz malunga nokugcina ibhalansi okwangoku. Kubalulekile ukwenza. Ngokufanelekileyo, sonke sifanele sigcine ukuxuba komsebenzi kunye nokudlala, izinto esiza kuyenza kunye nezinto esizifuna ukuzenza, izinto ezisondezayo kunye nezinto ezisondlayo. Kwakhona kufuneka sizenzele ixesha elaneleyo lokulala, ubudlelwane obusisigxina, ukuzivocavoca, ukutya okunempilo kunye neminye imisebenzi yokuqinisekisa impilo ( ubulili !) Ebomini bethu ukuze singabi sigxina emsebenzini kunye nemisebenzi yodwa.
Kodwa ukujonga ukulinganisela kubonakala ngathi?
Ngamanye amaxesha ukugcina imilinganiselo kunokuhlambalaza. Nokuba xa sifumana ibhalansi ngokubanzi ebomini bethu, kuya kuba namaxesha apho sithwele kakhulu, amaxesha xa siqaphela ukuba kufuneka sidibanise, kunye namaxesha apho singakwazi ukuhlawula khona kanye, kodwa sinokusebenza kumlinganiselo ophezulu elizayo. Ukuba uzifumana kuloo ndawo, ungaxineli ngako; okuyingxenye yokugcina umlinganiselo, ngokunjalo.
Ukubonisa indlela yam, zama ukulinganisa kwelinye inyawo. (Ngokukhawuleza, uzame ngoku ngoku.) Uyabona ukuba ngamanye amaxesha ufumana uxhomekeke kwelinye icala kwaye, ukuze ungawa, kufuneka uzilungele ngokwakho ngokuxhomekeka kwindlela echaseneyo? Ukuba uhlala uhlale uhleli kakuhle, uya kuwa. Ukugcina ibhalansi kungekhona ngokuhlala ngokugqibeleleyo; ngoku malunga nokuqonda xa uphuma ngaphandle, kwaye uzilungele. Rhoqo.
Ndikwenza oku ebomini bam kwaye, ngokunyanisekileyo, kukho amaxesha apho ndifuna ukulungelelanisa ukuba ndibuyele ngokulinganisela, kunye namanye amaxesha xa ndifuna ukulungelelanisa.
Kukho amaxesha apho ndiziva ndifumana umlomo onzima kwaye ndiqonda ukuba umzimba wam undixelela ukuba kufuneka ndibuyele ngokukhawuleza okanye ndiza kugula. Ndiphulaphule umzimba wam kunye neemvakalelo zam, kwaye ndenza utshintsho olufunekayo ukuze ndihlale ngilinganise (okanye ndiphulaphule izihlobo ezizilumko ezikhuthaza ukuba ndiyenze njalo).
Ukuhlala ngokulinganisela kubonakala kumntu wonke, njengoko sonke sineemfuno ezahlukeneyo zokulinganisela, ukuhluka okuhlukileyo esisebenza nabo kubomi bethu, amanqanaba ahlukeneyo okunyamezela ukungalingani, kunye nezibonelelo ezahlukeneyo ezikhoyo kuthi, phakathi kwezinye izinto. Ngezantsi ziingcamango ezimbalwa ezahlukeneyo zokufumana ibhalansi ukukunceda ekulondolozeni ibhalansi, ngoko unokuzilungela xa ufumanisa ukuba kufuneka uphinde ubuye kwiziko lakho lokulinganisela.
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Yithi Cha
Cinga ngezinto zonke omele ukwenze. Yiziphi na ofuna ukuzenza, kwaye kufuneka uyenze ntoni na? Ngokufanelekileyo, kufuneka kube nokudibanisa kokubili.
Xa usebenza ekugcineni ukulinganisela, unokwenza izinto ezimbini ezibandakanya ukuthi hayi , kwaye zombini unako ukwenza impembelelo enkulu. Okokuqala, khangela ukuba kukho naziphi na 'kufuneka' izinto onokuwela ngazo uluhlu lwakho. (Cinga ngokwakho intle, kwaye uzama ukwenza ukhetho olufanelekileyo.) Okwesibini, qiniseka ukuba zonke 'izinto zakho' ziyakukuvuyisa kwaye zondle ngokomoya. Ukuba ngaba 'bahlobo' baxabise ixesha, bawela kwaye baqale ukwenza into efanelekileyo kakhulu ixesha lakho. Xa ixesha linciphile, yenza yonke imizuzu ibale.
Indlela Yokunqunyulwa Ngezibophelelo Ezibangela Ukuxinezeleka
Cela Usizo
Ngamanye amaxesha kunokuba lula kumntu ongaphandle-umntu ongeyena-ukuba ungaboni kuphela xa uphuma ngokulinganisela, kodwa qaphela oko ungakwenza ukuze ubuyele kwimali.
Yonke into kwisitokethi sakho esicathakambileyo ibonakala ibalulekile (kwaye ngamanye amaxesha kunjalo) kodwa ukuba kukho into enokuthi ivumeleke ukuba ihambe, kaninzi umhlobo omhle, isihlobo esiseduze, okanye umlingane onokukunceda uqaphele oko. Ukuba unalolo hlobo lomntu oxhasekileyo okanye abantu ebomini bakho, kunokufuna ukufumana uncedo oluvela kumqeqeshi, mhlawumbi ukusuka kumqeqeshi wokuphila okanye, kwiimeko ezininzi ezixinzelelekileyo, ugqirha.
Amanyathelo alandelayo
Ezi zicwangciso ezintathu zingasebenzisa izimangalisa kulabo abasele baqhekeza kwaye kufuneka bahlangane. Nangona kunjalo, xa ufumana ukulinganisela kwindlela yakho yokuphila, okanye ukuba ungeva ukuba ungeyinkxalabo kodwa kodwa ungathanda ukuwuphepha, kukho izicwangciso eziqhubekayo ezinokuqhutywa rhoqo imihla ezinokunceda njengoko kakuhle. Ezi zicwangciso zingezantsi zinokukunceda ugcine ukulinganisela kwangaphakathi kwemizwelo kunye nokulinganisela ebomini bakho.