Musa nje ukuxinezeleka: Vumela Ukuhamba Ngeengxaki Ezingathandekiyo kwaye Ukuqonda Iisombululo ezintsha
Ngaba uke wafumana ukukhathazeka ngento engafanelekile eyenzekayo kuwe, kwaye ufumane ngakumbi nangakumbi, kodwa uzive ungakwazi ukuwuyeka? Ukuba kunjalo, uye wafumana ukuhluthwa , kwaye awunabo yodwa - le ndlela eqhelekileyo yokucinga. Kwakunomxholo ocinga kakhulu, nangona kunjalo. Enyanisweni, xa abantu bexhamla ngezinto ezintle ezenzeke ebomini babo, bavame ukuziva bexinekile ngabo xa bengenakuvakalelwa.
Ukuhluthwa kunokuba nzima ukuchasa, nangona kunjalo, ngokukodwa xa kuba yinto yokungazi; oko kunokuqala njengomzamo wokwenza iimvakalelo ezingekho phantsi okanye ukufumana isisombululo kwingxaki kunokukhawuleza ibe yinto engafanelekanga yokucinga okungekho nto. Kunzima ukufumana isisombululo kwingxaki okanye kwinkqubo yeengqungquthela ezijikeleze ngaphandle kokucinga malunga neengxaki, nangona kunjalo, kunzima ukufumana ukulinganisela phakathi kokungazibali iingxaki kunye nokukhanyisa ngabo . Yiyiphi inkohliso yokuba sikwazi ukucinga ngxaki ngaphandle kokuvumela ukuba idle wena kunye nomoya wakho omhle? Ezi zikhokelo zilandelayo zinokukunceda uhlole ubomi bakho kunye neengxaki ngaphandle kokuba uzive "unabo" - ukuchukumisa iimvakalelo ngaphandle kokuwela kumgibe wokuhlambalaza.
Ukuhamba Ngexesha Eligqibeleleyo Lokuphela
Izifundo ezininzi ziye zavumelanisa ukuba ukupapashwa kuyisicwangciso esisebenzayo sokulawula uxinzelelo kunye nokuchukumisa imizwa . Nangona kunjalo, iphephancwadi lingasetyenziselwa ukuhluthwa nje ngokulula njengoko omnye umntu angasetyenziselwa le njongo-ngokulula, kwiimeko ezininzi, kuba akukho mntu utshela umntu okhanyayo ukuba le ngcamango embi ukugxininisa kwimiphefumlo yokuphazamiseka ngonaphakade .
Unokusetyenziswa njani kwiphepha? Enye indlela ukuhamba ngeemeko ezimbi, uhlolisise iimvakalelo, kodwa uqiniseke ukuba uphelele kwinqaku elihle: xubusha into oyifunayo kwimeko, oko uzuzile ngokukhula kobuqu, kunye nento othemba ngayo kwikamva.
Ukuhamba ngaphandle kweeHeroes okanye i-Villains
Thetha ngeemeko ezidlulileyo kwaye ujonge ukuba kutheni izinto ezithile zenzeke, kodwa sebenzela ukuxolela abo bantu kunokuba uzizonde; ukuxolela ngokwakho, ngaphandle kokungazihoxisi indima owayidlalayo (ukuze ufunde) Thatha uxanduva malunga noko ubonileyo ukuza, kwaye Bhala malunga nento oyithandayo ukuba kwenzeke, kodwa ubhale nezinto ezintle eza kwenzeka ntoni ukuba fumana oko ufunayo.
Bhala malunga namaxesha adlulileyo apho ufumene into oyifunayo, kodwa iphendulwe ngokuhlukileyo kunokuba wawukulindele, kunye namaxesha awungafumani nto oyifunayo, kodwa unento engcono.
Zama Ukubonga Ukuhamba
Qala iphepha lokubonga- lisiza ukukhunjuzwa ngezinto ezilungileyo ebomini, kwaye zikho izinto ezilungileyo ezinokukhunjulwa kwaye zithandwa. Ukwenza njalo kunokunceda amazinga akho enempilo kunye nolonwabo. Qalisa u kucamngca. Oku kukuvumela ukuba uzidele kwiingxaki zakho, uphinde uphonononge indlela ojongana ngayo neengxaki zakho (ngaba unganxulumene nokuziphazamisa okanye ukuphazamiseka kwengqondo?) Uze ufinyelele kwiingcinga ezingcono.
Zinike Iphulo
Ziphazamise ngento enokuzonwabisa eyenza iphakamise imvakalelo yakho (jonga eli nqaku "kwizinto ezonwabisayo" iingcamango). Kungabonakala ngathi ukunamathela kwi-band-aid kwisandla esaphukileyo, kodwa ukufumanisa umgama phakathi kwakho kunye nezixinzelelo zakho, uze ugcwalise le ndawo ngemisebenzi oye uyayazi iza kukukwenza uzive ungcono kuboniswe ukudala amanqanaba amaninzi yolonwabo amanqanaba oxinzelelo. Yisebenzise!