Indlela abantwana bafunda ngayo ukwabelana kunye nokunyamekela
Inani elincinci lokuphuhliswa kwentlalo kunye nomoya lwenzeka ngexesha lokuqala kwasebuntwaneni. Njengoko abantwana bafumana ukuvutha komsindo, ukuguquka kwemizwelo, kunye nehlabathi lezentlalo elandayo, kufuneka bafunde okungakumbi malunga neemvakalelo zabo kunye nabanye abantu.
Iimvakalelo kunye neentlalo zoLuntu lwaseBuntwaneni
Kuyo yonke iminyaka emancinci, ukuvutha komsindo kuqhelekile.
Kukho isizathu esihle sokuba abantu bavame ukubhekisela kweli nqanaba njenge "ezimbini ezimbi"! Abantwana abancinci badla ngokukhawuleza kwemizwa. Ngelixa iimvakalelo zabo zinokuba nzima kakhulu, le mivakalelo ihlala ifutshane. Usenokumangalisa indlela umntwana wakho angaya ngayo ukukhahlazela ngokudlala ngokudlala ngento ethile efuna ukuhlala phambi komabonwakude ukubukela ngokuzenzekelayo umboniso wakhe ozithandayo umzuzu kamva.
Abantwana kule minyaka bangaba nempahla kakhulu kwaye banzima ukuhlanganyela. Ukufunda ukuhambelana nabanye abantwana kubaluleke kakhulu, nangona kunjalo. Kwiminyaka embalwa nje emfutshane, umntwana wakho uya kuchitha ixesha elininzi kunye nosapho kunye nabahlobo abasondeleyo ukuba basebenzise inqwaba yemini yakhe yokusebenzisana, ukufunda nokudlala nabanye abantwana esikolweni.
Enyanisweni, abaphandi baye bafumana ukuphuhliswa kwengqondo kunye nezakhono zentlalo kubalulekile ekukulungiseni isikolo. Imizekelo yezo zakhono zibandakanya ukunikela ingqalelo kumanani abadala, ukuguqulwa lula kwizinto ezithile ukuya kwesinye, kunye nokusebenzisana namanye abantwana.
Ukunceda abantwana bahlakulele izakhono zoLuntu neZemvakalelo
Ngoko unokunceda njani umntwana wakho ukufunda indlela yokudlala kakuhle nabanye? Ubungcali bezentlalo akubandakanyi nje ukukwazi ukusebenzisana noontanga; Kwakhona kubandakanya izinto ezinjengokukwazi ukubonisa uvelwano, ukuvakalelwa, kunye nokwabelana ngokuphandle. Ngethamsanqa, kukho izinto ezininzi onokuzenza ukuze uncede abantwana bakho bahlakulele ezi zinto zibalulekileyo kwezentlalo nezentlalo.
Ukumodareyitha ukuziphatha okufanelekileyo kubalulekile. Ukuqwalaselwa kuthatha indima ebalulekileyo kwindlela abantwana abancinane abazifunda ngayo izinto ezintsha. Ukuba umntwana wakho ebona ulwabelana, ubeka umbulelo, uyamnceda, kwaye ukwabelana ngemvakalelo, umntwana wakho uya kuba nokuqonda okunzulu kwendlela yokusebenzisana nabanye abantu ngaphandle kwekhaya. Unokuyilungisa le mpendulo ekhaya lakho kunye nomntwana wakho kunye namanye amalungu entsapho. Njalo xa uthi "nceda" okanye "siyabonga," ubonisa indlela othanda ukuba abantwana bakho baziphathe ngayo.
Okona kubaluleke kakhulu, qi niseka ukuba unikezele indumiso xa abantwana bakho bebonisa ukuziphatha kakuhle kwezentlalo. Ukuqinisekiswa kungekhona nje kwenza abantwana abancinci bazive bezintle ngokwabo, kuyabanceda baqonde ukuba kutheni iimpawu ezithile zifuna kwaye zifanele ukudunyiswa. Ukunceda abantwana bakho bazive kakuhle ngabo nabo badlala indima ebalulekileyo ekuphuhliseni umuzwa wenceba kunye nolwazi lweemvakalelo. Ngokudala isimo sengqondo esihle apho abantwana bavunyelwe ukwabelana nabo ngeemvakalelo zabo, abantwana baya kuvela ngokukhululekile ukuba babe novuyo kwaye bacingisise.
Ukufundisa Uvelwano kunye nokuBambisana
Abazali banokwandisa uvelwano kunye nokwakha ingqondo engqondweni ngokukhuthaza abantwana babo ukuba bacinge ngendlela abanye abavakalelwa ngayo.
Qala ngokubuza malunga nemvakalelo yakho, ukubuza imibuzo malunga neemeko zobomi bomntwana wakho. "Waziva njani xa ulahlekelwe yinto yokudlala yakho?" "Ili bali lenze njani uzive?"
Xa abantwana beba nezakhono ekuvakaliseni iimpendulo zabo, qalisa ukubuza imibuzo malunga nendlela abanye abavakalelwa ngayo. "Ucinga ukuba uNadia wayeva njani xa ususa umdlalo odlala naye?" Ngokubuza imibuzo enjalo, abantwana bangakwazi ukuqala ukucinga ngendlela izenzo zabo ezinokuchaphazela ngayo iimvakalelo zabo.
Intsebenziswano yinye isakhono esixhamla ngokukhawuleza kumava athile. Ukunika umntwana ithuba lokusebenzisana nokudlala nabanye abantwana enye yezona ndlela ezilungileyo zokufundisa umntwana wakho indlela yokusebenzisana nabanye.
Nangona umntwana wakho unokufumana ukudlala nabanye abantwana bakhe bexakeka ngamaxesha ngamaxesha, ekubeni abantwana bahlala bengenako umonde kunye nokukwazi ukwabelana, izinto ziya kuqala ziphucule ngokudala kunye namava.
Njengoko abantwana badlala kwaye badibanisa, baqala nokuphuhlisa izakhono zokusombulula iingxaki zoluntu. Imizamo yokuqala ingabandakanya ininzi yeengxabano kunye neentandane kunye noontanga, kodwa ekugqibeleni abantwana bafunda ukuxoxisana kunye nabanye abantwana.