Izinto ezenza Ukuphelisa Umlutha Wakho Ucelomngeni
Uqaphele ukuba unenkinga - ukuba ukuziphatha kwakho okuluthayo kukuchaphazela ezinye iindawo zobomi bakho-kwaye ufuna ukwazi indlela yokuyeka umlutha. Amathuba kukuba awulindele ukuba ube ngumlutha xa uqale. Mhlawumbi ucinga ukuba udibanise kwaye unokuyeka nanini na. Abantu abaninzi abahlakulela izidakalo bayamangaliswa ukuba kunzima kangakanani ukufumana ukuzama kwabo kokuqala ukuyeka, kwaye bagqibe ukubuza, Kutheni ndikwazi ukuyeka?
Iindaba ezilungileyo kukuba unako ukuyeka, nangona kuyinkqubo enzima. Kukho izinto ezininzi, ezempilo, ezingqondweni, nangokomzwelo, ezenza ukuba kunzima. Yingakho abaninzi abantu befumana unyango oluncedo ukubakhokela kwinkqubo eyinkimbinkimbi yokuyeka - nangona abantu abaninzi baphumelela ukuyeka.
Ukuqonda ukuba kutheni kunzima ukuba kuncede kuncede ubone ukuba wonke umntu olwa nomlingo uya kuhamba ngendlela efanayo. Akunjalo ukuba unobuthakathaka-unqwenela okanye ulahlekelwa nantoni na. Xa ufumana ucinga, uvakalelwa, okanye usebenza ngendlela ethile echasene nesigqibo sakho sokuyeka, unokuba novelwano ngokwakho, kwaye uqhubeke uzama.
Ukunyamezela
Ukunyamezela kunye nokuhoxiswa yimpawu ezibalulekileyo zokuxhatshazwa. Zixhomekeke ngamandla kwaye ziyizona nkqubo eziphambili ezenza utywala kwindawo yokuqala.
Ukuba abantu abazange bavelise ukunyamezela kunye nokuhoxiswa, mhlawumbi baya kufumana lula ukuyeka.
Ukunyamezela kuyinkqubo yomzimba kunye nengqondo. Xa ufumana isilathiso okanye ukuziphatha okuluthayo okokuqala, kunokuba kunqabile, kungathandeki, nokuba kube mnandi kwaye kuyanandipha. Ukuba isiphumo siziva sisomelele, unokuba uzive kungekho nengozi yokuba ufuna ukuyithatha.
Ukuba ilula, inokubonakala ingenakonakala kwaye ingenacala.
Ngamaxesha amaninzi ukuziphatha okuphindaphindiweyo, ubunzulu obunalo, kunye nokunye okufuneka ukuba ube nomphumo ofanayo. Iziyobisi, ezinjengotywala kunye ne-opiates, zisebenza kwiindawo ezithile zobuchopho, ukudala ukunyamezela ngokomzimba. Iimpazamo, ezifana nobulili kunye nokugembula, zivelisa iimvakalelo zentlalo ezithinteka ngakumbi kwixesha. Njengoko ukunyamezela kukhula, unokufuna ukwenza okungakumbi iziyobisi okanye ukuziphatha ukuze ufumane impembelelo efanayo.
Ukurhoxiswa
Njengoko uba ngumlutha, unokufumana uxolo xa ungenako ukwenza umlutha wokuziphatha. Iziganeko zokuhoxiswa ngokomzimba, ezinjengokugubha, ukuva, ukukhathazeka kwesisu , kunye / okanye ukukhutshwa kweengqondo, ezifana nokuziva uxhalabile kwaye uxinezelekile . Ezi lula zizinze ngokusetyenziswa kwezinto ezinomlutha okanye ukuziphatha.
Ukuhoxiswa komzimba kotywala kunye neziyobisi kunokunqotshwa ngokukhawuleza, nangona kubonakala kungathandeki kwaye kuyingozi. Ukuba unqumle ukuyeka, kuhle ukuba kwenziwe phantsi kolawulo lwezonyango. Xoxa ngokuhoxiswa ngokomzimba kunye nogqirha wakho ngendlela engcono yokuthetha nale nto. Emva kokuba usuphelile, kukho iinkqubo ezingundoqo zengqondo ezenza kube nzima ukuhlala "kwinqwelo."
Iibhloko zokushiya: Ukuxabana kunye nokuxhamla
Xa ukuziphatha kwakho okuluthayo kukugqithiseleyo kwinqanaba lokudala ingxabano, kungabikho kwemali kunye nezinye iindawo zobomi bakho. Ingquzulwano ingenzeka ngaphakathi kwakho - ufuna ukuqhubeka nokuziphatha kwakho ngelixa, ngexesha elifanayo, unxuleka kakhulu ukuba ukwenze. Ingquzulwano iphinda iyenze nabanye abantu: ingaba bafuna ukuba uyeke okanye ufuna ukuba ujoyine ukuziphatha komlutha.
Naphezu kokuzibophezela ukuyeka, kunye nokuhamba kwesigaba sokurhoxisa, iingxabano azihambi nje. Izinto ezilindelwe ziphezulu kunanini ngaphambili. Enye into owaxhomekeke ekujonganeni noxinzelelo - ukuziphatha komlutha - ngoku kungagqithwanga.
Yingakho kubalulekile ukuba nezinye iindlela zokujamelana ngokuqinile, ngokufanelekileyo ngaphambi kokuyeka. Udokotela uya kukunceda ngale nto. Ngaphandle kwezicwangciso zokujamelana neendlela, unokufumana uncedo oluqinileyo lokubuyela kumzila wokulutha "elinye ixesha." Ukuxhaswa kobudlelwane kunokuncedisa ukujongana nokuphepha iingxabano ngaphandle kokusebenzisa ukuziphatha kwakho okuluthayo ukuze uthuthuzele kwaye uphume.
Ukunyaniseka, iimvakalelo ezixubeneyo zombini ezifuna ukuqhubeka nokuziphatha kakubi kunye nokufuna ukuyeka, ziyinxalenye yenkqubo yokuluthayo nakwiimvavanyo zokuqala. Ngokuqhelekileyo, oku kuvezwa ngokubhekiselele "kokunene" kunye "nokungalunganga," ukuziphatha okubi, ngakumbi ngokubhekiselele kwisenzo sokuziphatha ngokwesondo nokuziphatha kakubi. Kwezinye iimeko, iimvakalelo zecala zifanelekileyo; kwabanye, azinjalo.
Ukuthotywa nokulungiswa
Ukungathandeki kwezi mpawu zecala xa ukuziphatha kwakho kungahambelani nemilinganiselo yakho yokuchaneka nokuchanekileyo kunokubakhuthaza ngamandla ukwenza utshintsho. Ngamanye amaxesha kunokusebenza kunye nawe, kukubangela ukuba ulungele ukuziphatha kwakho wena nabanye abantu. Oku kungangena endleleni yesigqibo sokuyeka.
Ezinye izizathu eziqhelekileyo zilandelayo:
- Ukulahla : "Akuyona ingxaki."
- Ukunciphisa okanye ukunciphisa: "Ndiye ndiqhelile ."
- Ukuchithwa: "Ungcoliseko luyingozi." "Uncle Ted usela kakhulu kunoko."
- Ukunyaniseka: "Ndingathanda ukuphila ubomi obufutshane kwaye ndivuyiswe kunokuba ndiyeke kwaye ndibe nosizi."
- Ukuziqonda: " Ndiyindlela endixhamla ngayo xa ndisela."
- Ukulinganisa: "Andizange ndibiwe ukuze ndixhase umkhwa wam," "Andizange ndibethe umfazi."
- Umncinci wezinto ezimbini ezimbi: "Kungcono ndenze oko kunokuba ndikwazi ukuhlala kunye."
- I ngcaciso engalunganga: "I-Cancer ayifuni kwintsapho yam." "Inokusetyenziswa kwemithi, ngoko kulungile." "I-tsholeta yonyango kuphela lwe-PMS."
- Ukuthatha ukuziphatha ngaphandle komongo: "Kwezinye iimeko, isithembu siyamkeleka."
- Ukuqhayisa: "uKumkanikazi uVictoria wayehlala ..." "Oobukhokho baseTestamenteni Elidala babebafazi abaninzi." "Waphuza iwayini."
Ungayiyeka njani?
Unyango lunokukunceda ukwazi ukujamelana neemvakalelo ezingenakukhathazeka kwaye kukuncede uhluthe iingcamango ezingenangqiqo ezigcina utywala. Ukuyeka ukulula akulula okanye kuchanekileyo, kodwa inkqubo yonyango entle iya kunceda ukufezekisa xa ulungele. Nangona unyango luya kwenza inkqubo yokuyeka ukulula, akubalulekanga - abaninzi abantu bayeke ukuxhatshazwa kwabo okanye basebenzise izibonelelo zoncedo.
> Imithombo:
> I-American Psychiatric Association. I-Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Disabilities (5th Ed.) EWashington, DC: uMbutho wezeMpilo waseMerika. 2013.
> Canning M. Lust, Intukuthelo, Uthando: Ukuqonda ukunyaniseka kwezesondo kunye neNdlela yokuSondeza impilo. I-Naperville, IL: Imithombo yeencwadi. 2008.