Nangona ngamanye amaxesha bekunakunqandwa, iholide yePasika ibonisa ukuba umngeni kumntu osilela ukufa komntu othandekayo. Akunakuphela nje ukuba umntu oshonelwe angakufumani kunzima ukuthobela izithethe, imasiko kunye nemihlangano edibene nePasika, kodwa iholide inokugxininisa nokuba ilungu lentsapho elithandwayo okanye umhlobo alisayikho, ludibanisa iimvakalelo zethu zokulahleka.
Eli nqaku linikeza iingcebiso ezintlanu zokukunceda ukujamelana neholide yePasika xa usihlungu ngokufa komntu othandekayo.
Nika iiNkonzo zakho ze-Easter
Abantu abadala bajonga ukuba iinkonzo ezingekho zonqulo zePasika ziba "yeholide yeholide" kunye nento ephumayo, kodwa ngamnye umzali uyazi nje ukuba kulunge kangakanani ukulungelelanisa nangemva kwemiboniso yokwenza le holide ekhethekileyo kumntwana elindele ukutyelela kwiPasika Bunny okanye umdla wokuzingela amaqanda e-Easter. Ukongezelela, iintsapho ezininzi zidibene ndawonye ngeCawa yePasika kwixesha lekhefu elikhethekileyo, okufuna ukuba lube lukhulu locwangciso, ukuthenga, ukupheka, ukucoca, njl njl.
Ukuba awuziveleli kumzamo ofunekayo ngamasiko akho e-Easter kulo nyaka, okanye ukuba umhlobo wakho othandekayo udla ngokusingatha ezi zinto, ungabi ukwesaba ukubuza amalungu entsapho kunye / okanye abahlobo ukuba bancede . Intlungu ebangelwa ukufa komntu othandekayo ithatha inqobo ngokwenyama, yengqondo kunye nomoya onzima kubantu abafelweyo kwaye, ngenxa yezizathu ezahlukeneyo, unganakho amandla kunye / okanye umdla ekusekeleni "ukuqheleka" kweeholide.
Ngoko-ke, cela abo basondeleyo kuncedo uze unikezele nayiphi na imisebenzi okanye imisebenzi ongenakuziva ukuba unako ukwenza ngoku ngoku - ukuba ngaba uzimisele kwaye uhlala uziva ukuba umntu unokuziva ngathi ulandelayo emva kokufa.
Yeka unqulo lwePasika xa kufuneka
Emva kokufa komntu osondeleyo, abaninzi abantu abasweleyo bayabuza iimfundiso zabo zonqulo / zokomoya kunye nokholo lwabo ngokubanzi.
Ezi mvakalelo zingenzeka xa ukufa kuqiniseke ngokukhawuleza, kungalindelekanga okanye phantsi kweemeko ezibuhlungu, okanye emva kokulahlekelwa ngumntwana osana, usana, umntwana okanye omnye umntu ofayo "ngaphambi kwexesha lakhe."
Ngaphezu koko, intlungu ingabangela utshintsho olukhulu kwiindlela zethu eziqhelekileyo njengoko sizama ukujamelana nokulahlekelwa. Abantu abaqhelekileyo bafune kunye / okanye banandipha inkampani yabanye, umzekelo, banokuziva benomnqweno onamandla wokuhlala bodwa ngaphezu kwexesha eliqhelekileyo, okanye nje abafuni ukuphuma kwindawo kawonkewonke. Sekunjalo, abanye banenkxalabo yokuba abayi kukwazi ukubamba kunye okanye "bagqoke ubuso obomeleleyo" ngenxa yentlungu kunye nentlungu.
Kungakhathaliseki isizathu, ukuba izithethe zakho zePasika ziquka ukuya kwiinkonzo zonqulo, kodwa ungaziveki okanye ungakhathazeki unokwanda kwemvakalelo, uze uziphephe kwaye unqabile kulo nyaka . Kunoko, yenza konke okufuneka ukwenze kule holide ukuze ulungele ukujamelana nentlungu yakho ( bona "Cope Ugly" ngezansi ). Icawa okanye indawo yakho yonqulo ayiyi kuqubuka eluthulini xa ungekho kule nkonzo ethile kwaye unokuqalisa kwakhona ukuhamba kwakho ngokuqhelekileyo kunyaka ozayo ngexesha leeholide lika-Easter ukuba uvakalelwa kuyo.
Ukulindela iHolide / Ukuxhunywa kwexesha
Kwizithethe zamaKristu, iCawa ye-Easter "ukuzalwa kwakhona," oko kukuthi, uvuko lukaYesu emva kokufa kwakhe ekubethelelwe esiphambanweni iintsuku ezintathu ngaphambili.
Kubonakala kwindlela ebonakalayo ebanzi, iholide yePasika ibonisa ukuba abantu abaninzi ngexesha apho iimpawu zentwasahlobo ezibonakalayo zibonakala zibalaseleyo / ezicacileyo, ezibonisa ngokugqithiseleyo ukunqoba kobomi ngaphezu kokufa (entwasahlobo nobushi). Imithi neentyantyambo ziqala ukugquma ngePasika, umzekelo; ikhephu okanye imvula enzima yobusika iqala ukuphazamisa njengoko ukunyuka kwelanga kuphakamisa amaqondo okushisa; lixesha lokuphinda livule amakhaya ethu kwaye kwakhona siqale ukuzonwabisa ngaphandle; njl njl
Ngenxa yezi zizathu kunye nabanye abaninzi, ngokuqaphelayo okanye akunjalo, kuqhelekile ukudibanisa iPasika kunye "nobomi" nokukhumbula izihlandlo zangaphambili ezonwabileyo ezenziwa ngumfi .
Le ntlanganiso yeholide / yonyaka ingabangela okanye ikhuphe ukuvakalelwa kwakho ngePasika, ngoko kubalulekile ukuba baqonde kwaye baqikelele le nxu lumano ukuze ukwazi ukujamelana neentlungu zakho.
Thetha Umntwana Wakho
Ukuba ufumana nzima ukujamelana nePasika kulo nyaka kwaye unomntwana, iholide inokubonisa ukuba kunzima kumntwana wakho emva kokulahlekelwa ngumntu osondeleyo. Ukuthetha nabantwana malunga nokufa akunakulula, kodwa umntwana udla ngokuqonda okanye intsingiselo (kwiiyure ezihlukeneyo) ngaphezulu kunabantu abaninzi abadala bayaqonda emva kokufa komntu othandekayo. Nangona ungathethi malunga nokulahlekelwa kwiintsana zakho, banokuthi bathathe iingcamango ezingabonakaliyo ezibonakalisiweyo, ezifana nokudabuka, iinyembezi okanye ukuxinezeleka, ezinokuchaphazela isimo sengqondo kunye / okanye ukuziphatha komntwana wakho.
Ngelishwa, abanye abazali / abagcini banokukholelwa inyelelo okanye ininzi yeengxaki ezinxulumene nentlungu malunga nabantwana nabaselula, njengabantwana abancinci abangazibuhlungu, baya kubuyiselwa ngokukhawuleza ekulahlekeni, okanye ukuba kungcono ukuba bangabandezeli abantwana ngokuthetha ngokufa. Ukuba unesiqiniseko malunga nokuba umntwana wakho uyaphila kakuhle, okanye ukuba "uyazi" okanye uqonda kangakanani, ikhefu lePasika linika ithuba elihle lokunceda umntwana wakho aveze intlungu yakhe ngokufunda incwadi ekhethekileyo kunye, ukulima umthi wesikhumbuzo okanye isikrubh, okanye nje ukuba nencoko evulekile, evulekileyo ngeemvakalelo zakho. Ukuthatha ixesha lokuvavanya nokuqonda impendulo yengxaki yomntwanakho akuyikunceda kuphela indlela yokulahleka ngendlela ephilileyo, kodwa iya kugcizelela into yokuba akukho namnye kuwe odwa yintlungu yakho .
Cope Ugly
Njengeminwe yethu yeminwe, indlela esabela ngayo ekufeni komntu othandekayo ihlukile. Njengoko kuchazwe ngasentla, intlungu kunye nesijwili kuthatha ingxaki yomzimba, yengqondo, kunye neengxaki emizimbeni yethu, iingqondo, iintliziyo kunye nemiphefumlo, kodwa akukho bantu babini abafumana ilahleko ngendlela efanayo. Ngethuba xa abanye abalilayo, beza kufuna inkxaso evela kwiqela elixhasayo, abanye bayazama ukujamelana nokulahlekelwa ngoncedo kunye nohlobo lwabahlobo okanye amalungu omndeni, okanye yedwa, ngaphakathi nangasese. Sekunjalo, abanye baya kuzama ukulawula ngokuzilahleka kwiprojekthi, inzondelelo okanye umdlalo; ngokuzithandela ukunceda abanye; ngokuthatha uhambo ukuze babalekele izikhumbuzo zomhlobo wabo; njl njl
Ingongoma kukuba njengoko ulwalamano lwakho kunye nomntu oshonile lwaluyinto efanayo, ngokunjalo ukuphendula kwakho intlungu. Azikho "izigaba" ezingenakulinganiswa; akukho mqondiso phakathi "kohambo" olubonisa indlela oye waphumelela ngayo okanye ukuba ungakude kangakanani na. Okubaluleke kakhulu, akukho ndlela echanekileyo okanye eyiyo yokulila ukufa komntu omthandayo . Ngako oko, hlonipha nayiphi na isiluleko esilungileyo okanye iziphakamiso ezivela kwalabo abajikelezile ukuba ungacingi ukuba kuya kukunceda; Musa ukuphulaphula ilizwi elincinci "ukuxelela ukuba kufuneka wenze oku, okanye kukuve unetyala xa ungenzi oko.
Kunoko, yenza konke ocinga okanye ukuvakalelwa kunokukunceda ukujamelana nentlungu yakho namhlanje, okanye kwiiyure ezimbalwa ezizayo, okanye kwimizuzu embalwa elandelayo . Ukuba ucinga ukuyothenga, okanye kwi-spa, okanye ekuhambeni kuya kunceda, yenze njalo. Ukuba uvakalelwa ukuya kwiinkonzo zonqulo lwe-Easter okanye intsapho yakho yokudibana kunye neeholide iya kunceda, yenze njalo - ngaphandle kokuba ungaziva ngathi okanye ucinge ukuba akuyi kukunceda. UGeorge Bonanno, Ph.D., waqulunqa igama elithi "ukuxhatshaza" ukugxininisa ingcamango yokuba indlela esijamelana ngayo nentlungu / ukuxhwaleka "akufuneki ukuba yinto enhle; kufuneke ukuba kwenziwe umsebenzi."
Iinqaku ezidibeneyo ezinokunceda:
• Amanqwanqwa okuPhucula ukuKhuselwa kweNdwendwe
• "Igama lomdlalo" elenza abantwana bavakalise ubuhlungu
• Yintoni ongayithetha kumzali onomsindo
• Iindlela eziSebenzayo zokunceda umntu osizileyo
Imithombo:
" Ubunono boLuntu lokuPhumelela ekubhekiseleleni kweso sikhwazo " nguGeorge A. Bonanno, Ph.D., no-Anthony D. Mancini, Ph.D., ngoFebruwari 2008. www.pediatrics.aappublications.org . Ibuyiselwe kuMatshi 10, 2016. Iqoqo lombhali.