Ukufumana intsingiselo njengoko ujamelana nokugula kwengqondo okanye ukugula
Ngaba ufuna uncedo ekufumaneni intsingiselo ebomini bakho? Abantu abaninzi abaneengxaki zomntu ongekho emngceleni (BPD) balwa nemvakalelo yokungabi nalutho, iingxaki zobungqina , kunye neengqondo ezidandathekileyo . Ngokubambisana, iimpawu zeBPD ziyakushiya ufune intsingiselo ebomini bakho.
Lo mnye umsebenzi owenzelwe ukukunceda ukuba uqonde oko kukuthintela kuwe. Ewe, ukufumana intsingiselo akuyona inkqubo elula, kwaye akukho mntu usebenzayo oza kukufumana khona.
Ukufumana intsingiselo kuthatha umsebenzi kwaye kufezekiswe ngempumelelo ngoncedo lwengcali. Enyanisweni, oku kungaba ngumsebenzi ofuna ukusebenzisana nawo kunye nomgulana wakho.
Ukufumana oko kukuthandayo
Isinyathelo sokuqala ekufumaneni intsingiselo ebomini bakho kukubona iinkalo zobomi bakho ezinentsingiselo kuwe. Lo msebenzi, oguqulwa kwisenzo esivela kwisigqibo sokwamkelwa kunye nokuzinikela (uhlobo oluthile lwenyango yokuziphatha kwengqondo ehambelana nolwazi lwezobuchwephesha lwe-BPD ,) lunokunceda ukuba uvavanye into ebaluleke kakhulu kuwe.
Ukuqala lo msebenzi, thatha incwadana okanye iphepha. Phuma kwicala lasekhohlo lephepha, bhala le mimandla yobomi bakho:
- Ubuhlobo obusondeleyo
- Uzali
- Usapho
- Ubuhlobo / ubudlelwane
- Imfundo / ukukhula komntu
- Umsebenzi
- Lonwabo
- Yokomoya / inkolo
- Impilo yempilo
- Ukunceda abanye
Ngoku ukuba unoluhlu, ecaleni kwento nganye bhala inombolo phakathi kwe-1 no-5 ehambelana nendlela ebaluleke ngayo ukuba ufumane indawo nganye ukuba ibe ebomini bakho, ngo-5 = kubaluleke kakhulu kwaye 1 = akubalulekanga.
Ukuba awuqinisekanga, bhala nje uphawu lombuzo. Khumbula ukuba akukho zimpendulo ezichanekileyo, kwaye akukho mntu uza kulubona olu luhlu. Mane ubhale oko uvakalelwa kubalulekile kuwe, kungekhona into endiyithethayo ebalulekileyo ebalulekileyo kuwe.
Chaza okokuza kukuzisa
Ngoku ukuba ulinganise idilesi nganye kuloluhlu ngokubaluleka kuwe, khetha iifom zimbini ozilinganisile njengento ebaluleke kakhulu.
Ukuba ulinganise yonke i-domain njengento ebaluleke kakhulu njengalowo nawuphi na, buyela emva kwaye ucinge malunga nokuba kukho imimandla enye okanye ezimbini ezibonakala zibaluleke ngaphezu kwezinye, nokuba ziphela nje kuphela.
Kwimihlaba eyodwa okanye amabini owakhethileyo njengobaluleke kakhulu, bhala esinye okanye ezimbini izivakalisi malunga nendlela onokuthanda ukuziphatha ngayo kwidilesi nganye. Oku kubalulekile-oku akukona ukuba ungathanda ukuvakalelwa okanye ukucinga (umzekelo, ndifuna ukuzithemba nokuzithemba.) Kunoko, gxininisa indlela oziphatha ngayo okanye indlela ongathanda ukwenza ngayo kuloo ndawo.
Nasi umzekelo " wesidima sobudlelwane obusondelene ":
"Ndingathanda ukuba ngumlingane onobubele nothando. Ndingathanda ukuthetha izinto ezixhasayo kumlingane wam xa ziziva ziphantsi, kwaye ndifuna ukwenza izinto kubo eza kunceda ukuba ubomi babo bube lula. Ndingafuna ukwenza njengokuba ndixabiseke ngokubambisana nezinto ezifunekayo. "
Kubeka ndawonye
Ngoku-kwindawo enye okanye ezimbini ozikhethile njengeyona nto ibalulekileyo kuwe-jonga oko ubhale malunga nendlela ongathanda ukuziphatha ngayo. Ndiyathemba ukuba ubhale izivakalisi enye okanye ezimbini ezichaza iimpawu okanye izenzo othanda ukuzenza kuzo.
Le yimihlobo yezenzo ezingakunceda ufumane intsingiselo ebomini bakho, iindlela onokuthanda kuzo kwiindawo zobomi bakho ezibaluleke kakhulu kuwe.
Ungamangaliswa ukuba ukufunda iincwadi ezibhaliweyo kukudabukisayo. Mhlawumbi awusebenzi ngendlela onokuyithanda kule mimandla yobomi bakho, okanye mhlawumbi uvakalelwa nendawo apho ungathanda khona ukuba kule ndawo. Umzekelo, mhlawumbi awukho ubuhlobo obusondeleyo nangona kubaluleke kakhulu kuwe.
Thatha ixesha lakho
Ukuba unzima nalo msebenzi kwaye unzima ukuwugqiba, yibeke phantsi uze ubuyele kwenye ixesha.
Oku kunokuba ngumsebenzi onzima, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha kudinga ixesha lokucinga malunga nento yonke, ngoko ke maye uhlale ixesha elithile kwaye uzame kwakhona xa ulungele. Unokuzama ukuthetha naye kunye nomhlobo okanye umgqirha wakho ukuba afumane impembelelo engaphezulu.
Ukuphila Ubomi Ofuna Ukuphila
Ukuba uthe wagqiba lo msebenzi, uthathe isinyathelo esibalulekileyo ekuphileni ubomi obunentsingiselo. Uzimisele ukuba zeziphi iinkalo zobomi bakho zibaluleke kakhulu kuwe, kwaye ubonise izinto ezimbalwa ongazithathayo eziza kukubangela ukuba ube nenjongo ebomini bakho. Ukusebenza akuthathi ixesha elide ukugqiba, kodwa ukuba usebenza ekufezekiseni izenzo ofuna ukuyifumana kwimimandla ethile, unokufumana umphumo ongunaphakade ekuncedeni ukuba uphile ubomi obunqwenela ukuba uphile.
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