Abantu abaninzi abaneengxaki zomntu ongenamkhawulo banqabile unyango
Kuqhelekile ukuba abantu abaneengxaki zempilo yengqondo baxhathise ingcamango yokufuna unyango. Ubungozi bomntu obuthathaka obuninzi (BPD) buya kunyangwa kakhulu, kodwa abantu abaninzi abane-BPD banqabe ukuba banenkinga okanye baphephe ukufumana uncedo.
Kutheni Umthandwa Wanga Akafuni Ukuncedwa Xa Ubandezeleka Ngokucacileyo?
Kukho izizathu ezininzi zokuba abantu banqabe ukufumana uncedo.
Abaninzi bayesaba ukunyaniseka kwimiba yempilo yengqondo . Abanye bacinga ukuba abakwazi ukukwenza ixesha kunye / okanye iimali ezifunekayo ukuze zibandakanye unyango. Abanye bangenakho ukuvuma ukuba baneengxaki kwindawo yokuqala, okanye abanokucinga ukuba unyango luya kubasebenzela (nangona kukho ubungqina obucaceleyo bokuphanda ngokuchasene nalo; ngoku sele sinamachiza athile asebenzayo kwi-BPD kwaye nezinye iimeko zempilo yengqondo ).
Kungakhathaliseki ukuba ziphi izizathu, ukuba ngumntu othandekayo womntu obandakanyekayo ekuziphatheni okubi , ukulimaza nokuxhaphaza abanye ngokukhukhumeza nokunyaniseka kwabo, kwaye ukwenqaba ukuthatha amanyathelo ekutshintsheni kunokubangela ukunyamezela, ukunqoba, kunye namava . Kule ndawo, abathandekayo abaninzi banomuva wokuba benze into eyokwenza ukuba abo bathandekayo bafumane uncedo-ngenxa yaloo mntu kunye nabo.
Inyaniso kukuba, ukuba umthandayo ungumdala, awukwazi ukulawula oko akwenzayo okanye akwenziyo ekupheleni kosuku.
Ukuntuleka kolawulo ngokuqhelekileyo kushiya abaninzi abathandekayo baziziva bexhalabele kwaye bengenakunceda-kodwa akudingeki. Ingaba ngumlingane wakho, umntwana, umzali, umntakwabo, okanye umhlobo obonisa iimpawu ze-BPD, kukho amanyathelo onokuthatha ukubeka imida ebuhlotsheni bakho kwaye uphucule umgangatho wakho wobomi, nokuba umntu ongeyena BPD akalungele ukuqonda ingxaki.
Kulo xesha, unokuqhubeka ukhuthaza umthandayo ukuba afune uncedo lobuchwepheshe.
Indlela Ongayixhasa Ngayo Ukuthandwa Kwamntu Oyithandayo-kwaye Zikhusele
Kukho izinto ezininzi ongayenza ukuxhasa umyeni wakho omthandayo, kwaye ezininzi zazo ziquka ukubeka imida yakho kwaye ungenzi ukuziphatha kakubi komntu omthandayo. Nazi ezinye iingcebiso:
- Yenza kucace iintlobo zokuziphatha ongeke uzibekezele, ugxininise ngokwakho. Usenokuthi, "Ukuba awukwazi ukuthetha ngokuzinzileyo / ukuyeka ukuthetha kakubi ngoku, ndiya kusususa kwingxoxo."
- Yiza yonke intsapho kwingxoxo malunga nokubeka imida kunye nomthandayo. Ukuba umntu ophethe i-BPD uvukela okanye aphethwe yintsholongwane kunye naluphi na kuni, vumelani ngamanyathelo oya kuyenza yonke loo meko, njengokuhamba ngaphandle kwegumbi.
- Ukuba ukholelwa ukuba umthandana wakho uthatha inxaxheba ekuziphatheni okubi okanye esemngciphekweni wokuzibulala, ungawashiyi wedwa-kwaye ubize umthandi wakho othandekayo, 911 okanye iNational Prevention Prevention Prevention 1-800-273- TALK.
- Musa ukunyamezela ukuxhaphazwa ngamagama okanye udlame lomzimba. Ukuba umhlobo wakho uzama ukukulimaza, biza amapolisa.
- Joyina amaqela enkxaso kwaye ufune izixhobo kubathandekayo babantu abaneBPD . Ukubandakanyeka kula maqela nokuzifundisa ngentsingiselo kunokukunceda ukuba uqonde ngakumbi i-BPD kwaye wenze ukhetho malunga nendlela ofuna ukuhlala ngayo ubomi bakho ngokumalunga nomthandayo wakho we-BPD. Amandla akho mhlawumbi asetshenziswe kangcono kule mi sebenzi, eyokulawula kwakho, kunokuba utshintshe ukuziphatha komthandayo, okungekho ekulawuleni kwakho.
- Khumbula ukuba, nakuba uthanda ilungu lentsapho yakho kakhulu, ukhuseleko lwakho kunye nokuzinyamekela kwakho kufuneka kube yinto ephambili kuyo. Ukuba wakho umthandayo uyaqhubeka ewela imida okanye enze uzive ungaphephile, unokufuna ukufumana enye ilungiselelo lokuphila okanye, ukuba ungahlali ndawonye, gcina kude nomntu. Ukuvumela ukusetyenziswa kwabo gwenxa kuqhube kunobungozi obungaphezu kokulungileyo-kwaye kungekhona nje kuphela kuwe kodwa nakwabo.