Abantu abane-BPD bahlala bexhatshazwa ngokunyaniseka
Ukuba nolwalamano nomntu onomngcipheko wobuntu (BPD) unokuba yimeko ephazamisayo neyikhathazayo. Naluphi na ubudlelwane obuya kuba kunye nokuhla kwayo, kodwa imiba enxulumene ne-BPD iyanciphisa iingxaki zobudlelwane obuqhelekileyo.
Nangona kunjalo, ukuba nomntu onomntu ongeyena-BPD akuthethi ukuba ulwalamano lwakho lujolise ukuba lwenzeke. Abantu abaninzi banxulumano olunzulu nabantu abaneBPD, kodwa abanye abantu banobungozi obubi phakathi kwe-BPD nokungathembeki.
Ngaba abantu abane-BPD ngakumbi Kunokwenzeka ukuba bakhohlise?
Okwangoku akukho phando olubonisa uxhulumaniso phakathi kwe-BPD kunye nokwanda okwenyuka kokukhohlisa. Ixabiso lokungathembeki kulabo abane-BPD lingalingana nabanye abantu.
Nangona kunjalo, uphando kwi-propagence yokukhohlisa lubonisa ukuba amadoda angama-70% amadoda nabesetyhini abatshatileyo baye bakhohlisa amaqabane abo, ngoko kuya kwenzeka ukuba abanye abantu abane-BPD baya kukhohlisa. Ngenxa yeemeko kunye neempawu zabo, imiba yolwalamano kunye neemvakalelo ezibuhlungu ezibangelwa ukungathembeki zingaba nzima.
Ubuninzi beempawu eziphambili zomntu ongenamkhawulo zingxaki kwiintsebenziswano kunye neengxaki ngokuziphatha okungachukumisi ; le mpawu ingenza ukukopela kwimeko engakumbi nangemiphumo emibi.
Abantu abane-BPD bahlala benesidingo esinzulu sokuba bazive bebathandekile kwaye bamkelekile, kunye neendlela ezininzi zokuhlawula ubudlelwane babo. Kwaye, xa bevalelwa belahliwe okanye balahliwe, banokubandakanyeka ekuziphatheni okungenangqondo okanye ezizimeleyo.
Oku kuthetha ukuba banokwenza izinto ngaphandle kokuqwalasela imiphumo yezenzo zabo, ukuba "bazive bebhetele" ngexesha elifutshane. Ngokuqinisekileyo, ukungathembeki kungawela kulolu hlobo.
Ngaba abantu abane-BPD bacinga ukuba abahlobo babo bayakhohlisa?
Nangona abo abane-BPD banamathuba afanayo okukopela njengabanye, banakho amathuba amaninzi okrekrela amaqabane abo akopela.
Inxalenye yeempawu zeBPD zicinga ukuba zibi kakhulu kwabanye. Ngenxa yokuzithoba, banengxaki yokukholelwa ukuba umntu angabathanda kwaye ahlale ethembekile kubo. Ngaloo ndlela, banokucinga ukuba iqabane labo liya kubaphatha kakubi ngandlela-thile.
Ngenxa yokwesaba ukulahlelwa, abo abane-BPD banokungxolisa kunye nokungathembeki. Bangaba yinto ehamba phambili, becinga ukuba amaqabane abo ahamba emva kwawo.
Ngenxa yoko, oku kuchaphazela kakubi abo bathandekayo kunye nolwalamano lwabo. Ukuba iqabane lakho kunye ne-BPD likugxeka ngokungalunganga ngokukopela, mhlawumbi unomsindo, uchukumisekile kwaye usenokucinga nokuphelisa ubuhlobo. Ngaloo ngqiqo, i-BPD inokudambisa intsebenziswano yimiba yobudlelwane kuba ukuziphatha ngokwenene kukhuthaza ubudlelwane ekupheleni.
Nangona i-BPD ingenako ukwandisa umngcipheko wokungathembeki, i-BPD ingaba ngumngcipheko omkhulu kubudlelwane bobabini abathintekayo. Ukuba wena okanye wakho umthandayo unzima neempawu ze-BPD, qha ga mshelana nomboneleli wezempilo okanye umphathiswa . Nangona nabani na abane-BPD bangazuza kwiinkatho, baya kwonyango ngaphezu koko isibini sinokukunceda ukuba usebenze ngokubambisana kunye nokuqonda apho umlingani wakho ne-BPD evela khona. Ngeeseshoni zenu, nonke niza kufunda uqeqesho olubalulekileyo kunye nezakhono zokujamelana nazo ezinokukunceda ngamaxesha amanzima kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo ulomeleze ulwalamano lwakho.
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I-Kreger, R. "I-Magical Fantasies ye-Borderlines ne-Narcissists". I-Psychology namhlanje , ngo-2012.