Imilenze ekhunileyo, intliziyo ephazamisayo, isisu esiswini. Ukuvakalelwa, ukuthuthumela, ukukhathazeka, ukudideka, nokungakholelwa. Yintoni eye yabangela le nkalo yeempendulo zomzimba nezemvakalelo? Ukuhlawula. Ukutshatyalaliswa kwenzeka emtshatweni xa kukho ukungathembeki, ukuxhaphazwa, ubuxoki, ukungabikho kwenkxaso, izithembiso eziphukile, ezifihliweyo, ezitshiweyo okanye ukuba. Nazi ezinye iziphakamiso zokuqala inkqubo yokuphulukisa ngenkxaso, izithembiso eziphukileyo, izifihliweyo ezixeliweyo, ukuxela okanye ukuba. Nazi ezinye iziphakamiso zokuqala inkqubo yokuphilisa.
1 - Jongana nemizwa yakho
Musa ukuyihoxisa iimvakalelo zakho. Oko uvakalelwa kukuqhelekileyo. Bhala phantsi iingcamango zakho neemvakalelo kwiphephancwadi yangasese. Ukuba ufumanisa ukuba zichaphazela ubomi bakho ngeendlela ezimbi, funa ukululekwa ngeengcali.
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2 - Zizinakekele
Yidla ukutya okunempilo. Phuza amanzi kulo lonke usuku. Ukuzivocavoca emoyeni omtsha. Ukulala rhoqo. Yenza into eyokwenza uhlekise okanye uphakamise usuku ngalunye. Awukwazi ukwenza izigqibo ezinika ubomi xa uvumela umzimba wakho uhlupheke.
3 - Ukuthetha
Ukuthetha. Yenza iqabane lakho liyazi kakuhle indlela ozivakalelwa ngayo kunye nemiphumo yokungcatsha. Ukuba ungacingi ukuba ungasichazela ngokuzithethayo konke okufuneka ukwenze, ubhale ileta ebonisa iingcamango zakho neemvakalelo zakho. Musa ukubuyisela nto. Kwenze konke.
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4 - Musa ukuthembela kuwo wonke umntu
Kuyinto engokwemvelo ukuba uqaphele kwaye uqaphele, kodwa zama ukuxosha abanye kude nawe kuba iqabane lakho likukhaphele. Kungenxa yokuba umntu omnye uphula umthetho wakho, akuthethi ukuba abanye baya. Ngaphandle koko, unokuba ngumsindo, onomsindo, onolungelayo.
5 - Zithembele
Kubalulekile ukuba ungalahlekelwa yithemba kuwe okanye kwizigqibo zakho.
6 - Yenza isigqibo
Ukuba uthe wagqiba ekubeni usebenze ngomtshato wakho, ngoko uya kufuneka wenze isigqibo sokuba uthembele kwakhona. Iqabane lakho liza kufuneka libonise ukuqonda into oye waziva ngayo kunye nolwazi, kwaye kufuneka uqinisekise ukuba uyamxolela ngokwenene, uzimisele ukutshintsha iimpawu zokuziphatha, kwaye usebenzela ukufumana ithemba lakho kwakhona. Umtshato wakho awukwazi ukunyaniseka ukuba akukho ntembelo phakathi kwabo bobabini.
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I-7 - Yeka Ukuhamba Nomsindo
Oku akulula, kodwa ukuthwala umsindo kunye nobutsha entliziyweni yakho njengokwenyama kunye nefuthe emoyeni njengoko uphatha iibhakethi ezinkulu zamanzi emahlombe akho yonke imihla. Ukungafuni ukuyeka ukulimala, okanye ukugqiba ukunyamezela nokungaxoleli, kunene kakubi kunokuba ubuhlungu kumlingane wakho.
8 - Hambisa Ubomi Bakho
Ukuba ukungcatshiswa kwakunomonakalo, okokuba, emva kokunika ixesha kunye nengcamango, ugqibe ukuqhawula umtshato, ngoko kubalulekile ukuba uchithe ixesha elithile ucingisisa ngale meko. Thembeka ngokuzibuza imibuzo malunga nokuba unokwenza okanye mhlawumbi ufanele wenze ngendlela eyahlukileyo. Nangona kunjalo, ungangeni kumdlalo wokuzigweba. Akukho mntu ufanelekile ukuba athengwe.
9 - Susizi
Qaphela ukuba kulungile, nokuba kuyimfuneko, ukuba uhambe kwinkqubo yokudabuka ngenxa yokulahlekelwa yithemba kunye nomoya wokungcatshiswa. Ukulila ezi lahleko kuya kukunceda uvalise ixesha elibuhlungu ebomini bakho. Yamkela ukuba le nkqubo ithatha ixesha.