Ukuba awuzange ufumane umlutha , kunokuba nzima ukuyiqonda. Yintoni ebangela ukuba umlutha ulandele umlutha wabo ngaphandle kweendleko? Amava omntu ngamnye womlutha ahlukile. Eli nqaku lijoliswe ekukhuthazeni ukuqonda abantu abanezilingo , kungekhona ukumela okanye ukugxeka umntu okanye amaqela.
Uvakalelwa Ngaphandle
Khawucinge ngomzuzwana, ukuba awuzange uzive ukhululekile kunye nobani.
Kungenzeka kukuba awuphumelelanga kuyo yonke into owazama ngayo, okanye ngenxa yokuba awuzange unelisekile kwinqanaba lempumelelo oyenzile. Kungenzeka ukuba ube neengcamango neemvakalelo ezenza uzive uhlukile kwabanye abantu, ingakumbi ukuba unomuvo wokuthi awunjani okanye uthandeka njengabanye. Okanye mhlawumbi uxelelwe, okanye uboniswe, ukuba awukho into enhle, ongenalutho, okanye ukuba ukhona nje ukuhlangabezana neemfuno zabanye.
Akukho nanye kwizinto abantu abazungezile bazive benomdla malunga nokuziva bekuncomele kuwe, nokuba ngaba wawunqatshelwe, okanye ngenxa yokuba amava ayengenangqondo kwaye enganeliseki ngandlela-thile.
Ukuthoba
Khawucinge ukuba unamava - uyaphuza , uthathe isiza , uzuze ukubheja okanye umdlalo, ube namava ezesondo , utywala kakhulu, okanye uzithengele into ethile, kwaye ngokukhawuleza, yonke into ivakale. Uziva ngathi impumelelo ilula kwaye ilungile kuwe, mhlawumbi abanye abayiqondi, kodwa ngoku kulungile ukuba uphile.
Kukho ekugqibeleni unokuxhomekeke ekubeni uzive ulungile.
Kungenzeka kube lula ukufumana oko kuvakalelwa kakuhle-ukufumana umlutha wokutya , ukuhamba ngokukhawuleza kwivenkile kunye needola ezimbalwa kunokuzalisa iimpahla zakho ze-M & M - okanye kunokuba nzima, ngokuba umlutha we-heroin ubiza imali eninzi, ingozi, kunye nokusebenzisana nabantu ongenakuzithemba.
Kodwa xa kuthelekiswa nokungabi nalutho kwinto owaziva ngayo ngaphambili, ukutshala imali kwithuba lokuba unokuziva ulungile malunga nawe kwaye ngokuphila kuyinto ebalulekileyo.
Ukufumana ukuhlala kunye nokufumana iziphumo
Ngokuqinisekileyo, abanye abantu abaziqondi. Kodwa oko kwenza ukuba ufune ukuchitha ixesha kunye nabantu abaqondayo, ababethathakazo babo babenza bazive kakuhle ngendlela oyenzayo. Akunakuze ufune ukuthetha ngayo nabo - phakathi kwakho, sele sele uqonda. Ngoko ngoku awuzive ngathi ungaphandle, uzive ngathi ungaphakathi, ilungu lebhunga lemfihlo.
Ewe, kukho ixabiso lokuhlawula. Ungagqoba okanye ulahlekelwe isisindo, ufumane iingxaki zempilo okanye ulahlekelwe yimali eninzi, izinto okanye ubudlelwane. Kodwa akukho nto yenza ukuba ujabule nantoni na, kwaye, ubuncinci ixesha elifutshane, umlutha wakho.
Xa abantu banokugxeka, ngakumbi ufuna ukuthuthuzelwa kweso sinzo esihle esivela kumlutha wakho. Xa abanye befundisa wena malunga noko ufanele uyenze nobomi bakho, uqinisekile ukuba ungazi ukuba baxoxa ntoni na. Ngokuqinisekileyo, unqwenela oko bathethayo kuyinyani, kodwa ngaphantsi, uyazi ukuba ubomi obuqhelekileyo abuzange bube yinto yakho.
Ngaphandle kokuba ulangazelela ubomi obuqhelekileyo.
Unqwenela ukuba unako ukwaneliseka kwizinto ezibonakala ngathi zenza abanye abantu banolonwabo, njengokugqweswa, umsebenzi kunye nosapho. Kodwa ukuba ufumane ezo zinto, okanye ukuzifumana ngendlela othanda ngayo, kufuneka ukholelwe kuwe kwaye ukuzithemba kwakho bekukusoloko kukuphephile.
Ufuna Ukunyanga Nokuzizwa Ukunyuka
Uninzi umlingo ulwabalalisa ubomi obini. Uzama ukugcina imfihlo yakho yobungozi kubantu abaninzi, ininzi yexesha, nangona kubonakala ngokucacileyo kwabo bajikelezayo. Unzima kunzima ukuzivuma ukuba ukuba ngumlutha kuyinkinga kuba kungakhathaliseki ukuba kuphephe kangakanani, umlutha wakho ukunika loo mzuzu wento yonke ilungile.
Ufuna unyango oluza kuthatha umlutha wakho kodwa aluyi kukubuyisela apho uqalisile khona, ngayo yonke ilahleko oye wakha xa usuhlobo lomlutha.
Kwaye kukho ukonyango kunokwenzeka zonke izilwanyana. Kodwa ithetha ukuba ubhekane neengxaki ezibangele umlutha kwindawo yokuqala, ukunganeliseki ngokukodwa kunye nobomi bakho, kwaye uthatha uxanduva malunga nendlela ukuziphatha kwakho kuchaphazela ngayo abanye abantu. Kuthetha ukufunda indlela yokufumana ulungelo olumnandi lwezinto ezincinci ebomini kunye nokujongana nemingeni nemingeni ebomini, ngaphandle kokubuyela emlonyeni wakho.
Oko kuthetha ukuthatha ukuba ngumntu, njengawo wonke umntu.