Ukwamkela kuyimfuneko ukuqalisa inkqubo yokubuyisela
Ukwamkela kuyona nto eyintloko yokwamkela nokuqonda ukunyaniseka, ukwenza utshintsho kunye nokucwangcisa ikusasa. Xa sisesimweni somxholo, ukwamukelwa kuza ngokwemvelo. Kodwa xa sikhathazeka, ukwamukelwa kunokuba nzima ngakumbi kwaye singangena kwiimeko zokukhanyela.
Yintoni ukulahlwa?
Ukulahlwa yindawo apho uphika okanye ukuphazamisa oko kwenzeka ngokwenene. Unokuyihoxisa le ngxaki, unciphise ukukhathazeka kwabantu okanye ukugxeka abanye ngemibandela.
Ngethuba lokulutha , kungakhathaliseki ukuba utywala okanye ukugembula, ukuphika yindlela enamandla yokwenza ukulibazisa ukujongana nenyaniso.
Ukulahlwa kuqhelekile, ngakumbi kulabo abanenkinga yokuziphatha kakubi. Akukho mntu ufuna ukuchonga njengotywala, umxhaphazi weziyobisi okanye ukugembula-umlutha ; ukukhanyela kubavumela ukuba benze ukunyaniseka okukhulu. Ngokwenqatshelwe, umntu unokusebenzisa iziphatho ezahlukeneyo, kuquka:
- Ukunciphisa: Ukuba umlutha uyakhutshwa, loo mntu unokuthatha into enjengokubethelela izinto ngaphandle kwenani okanye ukunyusa. Unako ukuthetha izinto ezinjengokuthi "akuyinto embi" okanye "abantu benza ngendlela engaphezulu kwam."
- Ukulinganisa: Umntu onomlutha uya kulungisa umlutha wakhe, esithi ugxininise kwaye ufuna uncedo oluncinane okanye ufumene umvuzo womsebenzi wakhe onzima.
- Ukuzikhohlisa: Ukuzikhohlisa kuyindlela ephikisayo yokuphika apho umntu eqinisekisa ukuba izinto azikho okubi okanye zinzima njengoko zinjalo.
Izilingo zisebenzisa ukuphika ukwenzela ukuqhubeka nokubandakanya ukuziphatha okuluthayo. Ukuphika okuqhubekayo kunokudala imiphumo ebhubhisayo, ukusuka kwimicimbi yempilo ukuya kubudlelwane obunobungozi.
Indlela yokulahla iyanqoba
Ngelishwa, ukunqoba ukuphika akuyona inkqubo elula. Kubani na umntu onomlutha, ngokuqhelekileyo kuthatha " ukubetha i-rock-down ", okanye ubomi bunzima kangangokuthi umntu unyanzelekile ukuba abhekane neengxaki zeengxaki zakhe.
Leli thuba lokwamkela imeko, qala ukufuna uncedo kwaye uqhubeke phambili.
Kukho ezinye iindlela ezinokukunceda ukuphelisa ukuphika ngokugxininisa ukunyaniseka, njengoku:
- Unyango: Umgqirha wezokwelapha unokunceda abaxhamli bajongane neengxaki zabo
- Ukuhamba ngeendaba: Ukugcina i-journal kwindlela yokuziphatha okuluthayo, nokuba ubhala phantsi ukuba uninzi lwaphuza unomhla okanye imali enokuyisebenzisa kwi-casino, unokunika ubungqina boqobo bokuba umbandela.
- Iziphumo : Imiphumo emibi, efana nokuchithwa kwe-akhawunti yebhanki, ukuphela kobudlelwane okanye ukulahlekelwa ngumsebenzi ngenxa yokulutha kungabakho ikhwelo elikhulu
- Imfundo : Abantu abaninzi abaqapheli ukuba bayamlutha, kodwa ngokufunda izixhobo zemfundo kwizidakamizwa ezithile, banokuqonda iziphathamandla ezithile ngokwabo
Ukulahlwa yindlela enamandla yokwenza umlingo ongasetyenziswayo ukulungelelanisa okanye ukulungelelanisa umlutha wabo. Eli lizwe lingahluka ngexesha; kwezinye, mhlawumbi iiveki ezimbalwa nje. Kwabanye, iinyanga okanye nokuba yiminyaka. Ngaphandle nje kokuba eli lizwe liqhubeka, unyango alukwazi ukuqala ngokunyanisekileyo kwaye luya kuphelisa ngokuphindaphindiweyo. Ngonyango kunye nenkxaso, umlutha unokuqala ukwamkela ukunyaniseka kwaye uthathe amanyathelo okubaluleka okuqala ukubuyisela ngokupheleleyo.
Umthombo:
I-Lancer, D. "Ukusetyenziswa kakubi kweziyobisi: amandla okuvuma". PsychCentral. 2015.