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Ukuziphatha okuchaseneyo kubantwana kuphazamisayo kwaye ukuphikiswa ngokuphindaphindiweyo ngexesha elide kunokubacaphukisa abazali. Uninzi lwabazali baya kuphendulwa ngokuzenzekelayo kwinkqubo yokuchasana ngokusebenzisa isijeziso sokumisa, kodwa oku akusoloko kuyindlela ephumelelayo-ngokukodwa kumntwana obandakanyekayo-ukusilela kwengxaki / ingxaki yokuxhatshazwa (ADHD) kunye nokuchasana.

Enye ingxaki kukuba isijeziso sodwa asifundanga ukuziphatha okusha. Ifundisa oko akufanele ukwenze, kodwa ayifundisi umntwana wakho ukuba enze ntoni.

Michael Manos, Ph.D. uyintloko yeziko lezeMpilo yeZempilo kwi-Cleveland Clinic Iibhedlele zezingane zokubuyiselwa kunye nokusekela umlawuli weprogram kunye ne-Adult ADHD kwiSikolo soVavanyo kunye noTyango kwiCliniki yaseCleveland. Usebenze iminyaka engaphezu kwe-25 kwimpilo yengqondo, imfundo ekhethekileyo, kunye nengqondo yengane kunye nentsha. UDkt. Manos ukwabelana ngoluvo lwakhe malunga nokuhlwaywa nokubonisa iindlela ezisebenzayo zokunceda umntwana wakho anciphise ukuziphatha okuchaseneyo.

Iindlela zokusebenza Abazali basebenzise ukuhlawuliswa

Ukholo lukaManos uthi: "Kukho iindlela ezithandathu abazali abavame ukusebenzisa ngazo njengezohlwaywa ekhaya. Buza nayiphi na umzali, 'Ndixelele indlela oqeqesha ngayo umntwana wakho ekhaya,' kwaye banokuthi bathethe enye yeendlela ezi sixandathu, "kuquka:

1. Yell okanye ukugxekwa ngomlomo
2. Ukufunda okanye ukuxoxa
3. Sebenzisa isohlwayo se-corporal (spank)
4. Sebenzisa iindleko zokuphendula (thatha izinto kude)
5. Sebenzisa ixesha lokuphuma
6. Ukugqithisa (banike umsebenzi owongezelelweyo njengemisebenzi eyongezelelweyo)

Isohlwayo seMeyile ingabakhokelela ekuphikeleni

Ngelishwa, ukuziphatha okungahloneliyo kubangele ukutsala ngokugqithiseleyo ukusetyenziswa kwamagcisa, oko kukuthi, ukusebenzisa imiphumo yokugweba kaninzi ukuyeka ukuziphatha.

UDkt. Manos uchaza ukuba ukutshiza, ukukrazula kunye nezinye iindlela ezibonakalayo zingabonakala zisebenza kwithuba elifutshane kodwa azikuthinteli ukuziphatha okuchasayo, ekuhambeni kwexesha, ngokukhawuleza kubangele iingxaki ezongeziweyo. Oku kungenxa yokuba esinye isiphumo esisecaleni sokusetyenziswa rhoqo sohlwaywa kukuchasa. "Ngoko xa usebenzisa isijeziso kumntwana, qagela into eyenziwa ngumntwana? Ulwaphulo-mthetho. Baya kuba ngabachasayo xa bebuya, "kuchaza uDkt. Manos. "Futhi isijeziso esinokugqithiseleyo sinokuqeqesha ngokuchasene nokuziphatha okubi. Ufundisa umntwana ukuba ahlawule njani. "

Isohlwayo seMeyile ingabangela ukuba ugweme

Yintoni enokuthi yenzeke ngokujeziswa ngumntwana wakho angase aqale ukubandakanya ukuphepha okanye ukuphepha ukuziphatha. "Cinga nje ngomntu ongathandiyo. Xa uyazi ukuba baya kwindawo ethile, unokuphepha loo ndawo, "kusho uDkt. Manos. Uyabona behamba ehholo, ujika enye indlela ukuba ubalekele ekuhlangabezaneni nabo. Okanye ukuba uthetha nabo, uzama ukuphuma kwintetho ngokukhawuleza njengoko unako. "

Isohlwayo seMeyile ingabakhokelela ekuDysregulation ngokomzwelo

Isijeziso sinemiphumo emibi ngaphezu kokuphepheka kunye nokuchasa. Enye yezi zibuhlungu zengqondo.

Ngamanye amagama, isijeziso sinokubangela ukuba bobabini abachaphazelekayo, bathukuthele, bangonwabi, baze bavelele okanye bahlukane.

Isohlwayo Ngamana Ingakhokelela Ekuziphatheni

Isiphumo esongezelelweyo esingathandekiyo sesohlwayo esiqhubekayo kukuba sinokunciphisa into enokuthi ungayifumana. Iyanciphisa amandla omntwana wakho wokuqhubeka nokusebenza ngokufanelekileyo. Abanye abantu bathi ukuzithemba, "kuchaza uDkt. Manos. "Kodwa kunene kakhulu kunokuzihlonipha, njengoko kungekhona nje ukwenza umntu azive kakubi ngaye kodwa okokubalulekileyo okuthethayo ngento eyenza umntu angafuni ukwenza okanye ahlanganyele kwezinye iindlela zokuziphatha eziphumelelayo .

Ukusetyenziswa okungapheliyo isohlwayo kwenza umntu angathandabuzeki ngokwazi kwakhe ukwenza umehluko. "

Zininzi ezinye izicwangciso ezidwelisweyo, ezifana nokuthatha izinto kude / ukulahlekelwa kwamalungelo, ukuphuma kwexesha, kunye nomsebenzi owongezelelweyo, akuyi kusebenza nokuba ngaba zisetyenzisiwe xa utyhafile. Kwaye ukuba zisetyenziswe ngokungahambisani, aziyi kusebenza.

Amacandelo asebenzayo

Ngenxa yokuba isohlwayo asizange ifundise ukuziphatha okutsha kwaye ifundisa kuphela into engayenziyo, esinye sezicwangciso ezicacileyo kubazali basebenzise ukufundisa umntwana ukuba benze ntoni. Xa utshela umntwana wakho ukuba ayeke ukwenza into, mqeqeshe umntwana wakho ukuba enze ntoni endaweni yoko, uzinike ukuziphatha okunye kwimilinganiselo yokugweba. Oku kungenziwa ngokusetyenziswa kwe- 4 WHATS , okubandakanya ukubuza umntwana wakho imibuzo emine malunga nokuziphatha kwakhe, kuquka:

1. Wenzeni?
2. Yintoni eyenzekayo xa wenza njalo?
3. Yintoni onokuyenza endaweni yoko?
4. Yintoni eyenzekayo ukuba uyenzile loo nto?

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_{Michael Manos, PhD. I-intetho yocingo / incwadi ye-imeyile. Disemba 8, 2009 noJanuwari 18, 2010}