Ubomi bentsapho bunokuba buhlungu kwaye bunzima xa unomntwana ovame ukubonisa iimpawu ezichaseleyo zokuziphatha. Kodwa kukho iindlela zokwenza ngcono imeko. Isibalulekileyo kukuqonda apho ukuziphatha kuvela khona kwaye ukulungele ukuphatha izenzo ezinobundlobongela okanye ezinqabileyo.
Izifundo ziye zafumanisa ukuba ukusuka kwi-45% ukuya ku-84% yabantwana kunye nabantwana abaselula kunye ne- ADHD bafumana imigaqo epheleleyo yokuxilongwa kwi- Oppositional Defiant Disorder .
Aba bantwana banako ukungahloneli abazali, benze izinto ezinobundlobongela baze babe nefuthe. Bahlala bebunzima ukulawula nokulawula iimvakalelo kwaye babe lula ukukhungatheka kunye nomsindo.
Ukuze bakwazi ukujongana nale mihla yokuziphatha, abazali kufuneka balungiselele. Ngale ndlela unokuphendula ukunyaniseka komntwana wakho ngendlela eluncedo kunokuba uphumelele kwaye ungakuphepha ukuthetha okanye ukwenza nantoni na eya kukunyusa inzondo phakathi kwakho nomntwana wakho.
Ngezantsi unamanyathelo athile onokuyithatha ukukunceda ukunciphisa iimpawu zokuchasana nomntwana kunye nokuphucula ubuhlobo bakho bomntwana nomntwana.
Ukuzinakekela
Kungabonakala kungavumelekanga ukubeka unyameko kuqala kuloluhlu lwamanyathelo ekuphuculeni ukuziphatha komntwana wakho, kodwa umzali onomntwana onomntu okhuselekileyo angakushiya uzive uphelelwe amandla, ugxininisekile okanye ucinezelekile ukuba awuzinyamekeli. Kwimeko leyo, unokukwazi ukuphendula kumntwana wakho ngendlela eya kwenza imeko ibe yimbi.
Ngokuzigcina uqinile, uya kuba sesikhundleni esingcono ukunceda umntwana wakho.
Ukulahla ukuphendula kwakho
Ukuziphatha okukhohlakeleyo kunokuthatha umonakalo kweso sigulo sabantu. Ngexesha lokukhungatheka, kunokuba lula ukuthetha into esizozisola ngayo. Kunoko, yiba nomkhwa wokuthatha umoya ophezulu kunye nokubala ukuya kuma-10 (okanye ngaphezulu!) Ngaphambi kokuphendula.
Sebenzisa ukulibaziseka ukuze uqokelele kwaye uqaphele ngenyameko indlela yokuphendula kwimeko. Xa unyana wakho okanye intombi esebenza ngaphandle kokulawulwa, kufuneka ukuba ube nokuzola kwisiqhwithi.
Bamba Umntwana Wakho Ulungile
Yenza indlela yokuziphatha komntwana ngokudumisa. Mthathele ukuba "ulungile." Bhala iimilo eziphathekayo ozibonayo ("Siyabonga ngokubambisana."). Ukubeka iinkqubo zokuvuza eziqinisa ezo ziphatha kakuhle. Ihlala isebenza ngokuphumelelayo ukusebenzisa imivuzo kunye nezikhuthazo ngaphambi kokuhlwaywa . Yazi ukuba kumntwana one-ADHD, unokufuneka usebenzise imivuzo emikhulu, enamandla kakhulu ukwenzela ukukunceda. Unokufuneka uguqule umvuzo ngexesha elizeleyo ukuze ugcine umntanakho unomdla.
Yiba Nomonde nokuqonda
Ngamanye amaxesha abantwana abaye bafumana ukuphazamiseka okuphindaphindiweyo okanye ukungaphumeleli baya kuqala ukukhawulela kwiimeko apho bayesaba ukuba baya kuphinda bahluleke. Kule meko, kuba ngumtsalane ngokuzenzekelayo umntwana ukuba aphendule nenkcaso ukuze aphephe ukulimala okungakumbi. Qaphela isicwangciso esichukumisayo kwaye uqaphele ukusebenza ukuze unikeze umntwana wakho ngamathuba okuphumelela. Ngamanye amaxesha imisebenzi ebonakala ngathi elula kuthi kunzima kakhulu kumntwana one-ADHD.
Ukuvuza umsebenzi onzima, umzamo kunye nenkqubela, kunokugxila kuphela kwisiphumo.
Ukunikezela okukhethiweyo
Ukunikezela okukhethayo kuvumela umntwana wakho umgangatho othile wokulawula kwiimeko kwaye uncede ukukhuthaza ukuthotyelwa. Ukuba ucinga ngako, luninzi lomhla womntwana luzaliswe izikhokelo kubantu abadala. Xa umntu ehlala exelelwa ukuba enze ntoni - ingakumbi umntwana ohlala echasene nendawo yokuqala - unokuziphendulela ngokuzenzekelayo ngempikiswano. Khangela iimeko apho unako ukuxhobisa umntwana wakho ngokunika ukhetho esikhundleni somyalelo. Ngoko endaweni yokuthi, "Yisikhathi sokwenza umsebenzi wakho wesikolo okwangoku," zama: "Ungathanda ukuqala umsebenzi wakho wesikolo ngoku okanye emva kokuba une-snack?"
Cacisa okulindelekileyo
Yiba nemithetho ecacileyo kunye eqinisekileyo kwaye uqinisekise ukuba ziqondwa ngumntwana wakho. Thetha indlela ozijonga ngayo ukuba ungaboni ukuziphatha okubi.
Ukugcina iiRoutines zemihla ngemihla
Bonke abantwana basabela kakuhle kwiindlela eziqhelekileyo, kunye nezingane ezine-ADHD, ukuhlala rhoqo kwimihla ngemihla kubalulekile ekubeni ukwazi ukuba kuya kwenzeka ntoni emva koko kukunceda izinto ezinokuqikelelwa kwaye zingenasiphelo.
Ishedyuli Isihlandlo esisodwa ngeNye
Njengabazali, sisoloko sisebenza kwinxaxheba, kodwa kubalulekile ukuba sizakhele ixesha eliqhelekileyo ukuba sibe kunye nabantwana bethu - ukuphulaphula nokuzonwabisa kunye nokuphumla kunye. Yenza umgudu wokuhlela ixesha elikhethekileyo. Ngokuqhelekileyo abantwana abane-ADHD bafumana ukusebenzisana kwentlalo engalunganga ngenxa yokuziphatha kwabo okuchasayo. Imisebenzi emihle ngakumbi kuwe ingaba nefuthe elinamandla kwimpumelelo yabo yonke.
Xoxa noDokotela weNtsapho yakho
Ukuba iimpawu zokuchasa ziba yingxaki, qiniseka ukuthetha nodokotela wengane yakho. Kubalulekile ukufikelela ekuncedeni uncedo nenkxaso, ngakumbi xa izinto ziqala ukuziva ngathi zingabonakali. Ngenkxaso, unokuqalisa ukwenza utshintsho, ncedise umntwana wakho ukuba athole impumelelo enkulu, kwaye enze ubomi bentsapho buyanelise ngakumbi!
Umthombo:
URussell A. Barkley, PhD. Ukunyanzelisa i-ADD: I-Guide Complete, Authoritative for Parents. Guilford Press. 2005