Ngaba abantu abatsha abanenkxalabo bacinga ngazo zonke ixesha?
Umntu onobudlova, u-introspective, u-self-conscious and self-absorbed: Ngaba oku kuve ngathi ufana nomntwana wakho onenkxwaleko ? Nangona abaninzi abaselula kunye nabaselula banokubonakala bezinye izinto, uphando luxhasa uxhulumano phakathi kokudandatheka kunye nokuzinyanya.
Abantu abaxinezelekileyo, ngokuqhelekileyo, bathambekele ekuzicingeni, bahlolisise ubuqu babo, baxhamle iimvakalelo zabo baze babuze iimfuno zabo ngaphezu kwabantu abangacinezelekanga.
Indlela Ukuziqonda Ngayo Ukubonakalisa Kubantwana
Nangona kubonakala kungenakucatshulwa ukuba umntu olwa nexinzelelo uya kuba yedwa, ukunyaniseka kukuba abantu abadandathekileyo banokuba nengqiqo yokuzimela.
Ukuzimela, okanye ukungazi kakuhle, kunokunyusa amazwi angathandekiyo, njengokhathazeka, ukungathembeki okanye umsindo, kwaye kubangele ukuba umntu agxininise kwiingxaki kunye namava ambi ebomini, njengamazinga ahluphekileyo kwiimvavanyo okanye ukungavumelani nomhlobo.
Imoya ecinezelekileyo ingaba nzima ukuba umntwana aphunyuke. Iingcamango ezingathandekiyo, ukuzincama, kunye neemvakalelo ezimbi zihlala zijikeleza, zikhokelela kwiingcamango neemvakalelo ezingekho phantsi kweyona nto - oko kutheni abantwana behlala befuna uncedo lokubuyela kwixesha elidandathekayo. Ukuba nomntwana ogxininisekile ukufumana isiluleko kunokunceda anqobe lo mqondo wengqondo okanye ahlangabezane nayo ngendlela encinci eyingozi.
Xa Ukuzinyamekela Kuyimpawu Yokudandatheka
Kubalulekile ukwazi ukuba akubona bonke abantwana abazinzileyo okanye abazimeleyo baxinezelekile. Enyanisweni, abaninzi abantwana banamaxesha apho ngokuqinisekileyo bazincama baze bazimelele. Esi sisigaba sokuqhelekileyo sokukhula kwabantwana. Nangona kunjalo, kubalulekile ukufuna uncedo kumntwana wakho ukuba ukholelwa ukuba iziqwenga zakhe zokuzimela zizinzileyo okanye zihlala zihlala ixesha elide.
Oku kungabonisa ukuba umntwana wakho, ngokwenene, uxinzelelo.
Iimpawu eziqhelekileyo zokudakumba kwabantwana
Ukuba awuqinisekanga ukuba umntwana wakho unengxaki yempilo yengqondo, hlola iimpawu ezilandelayo zokudakumba kubantwana . Umntwana wakho unokubonisa kuphela ezinye zeempawu, kodwa ukuba ukhathazekile ngengqondo yakhe, unganqikazi ukubonisana neengcali zempilo yengqondo.
- Ukuhla kwezemfundo
- Ukunyaniseka okukhulu
- Izimpawu ezingenakuchazwa kwaye ezingachazwanga
- Ukudakumba okukhulu
- Ukuhlaliswa koluntu
- Ukuguquka kwendlela yokulala kunye nesondlo
- Uziva unetyala
Ukuba ucinga ukuba umntwana wakho ucinezelekile, ungazami ukuxilonga imeko. Xoxa nodokotela wezilwanyana okanye abanye ababonelela ngempilo yengqondo malunga nokuvavanya . Ukuxilongwa nokuchaneka ngokuchanekileyo kubalulekile ekubuyiseleni ukuxinezeleka kubantwana.
Imithombo:
UJonathon D. Brown. I-Self. ENew York: i-McGraw-Hill; 1998
Ingram, RE Ukuzixhalabisa ngokuzenzekelayo kwiinkliniki zokuphazamiseka: Ukuhlaziywa kunye neModeli engqiqo. I-Psychological Bulletin . 1990; 107 (2): 156-176.