Ngaba Iintsana Ziya Kucinezeleka?

Nangona ingazange iqinisekiswe ngophando lwezobugcisa, abaninzi abaqeqeshi bempilo yengqondo bayakholelwa, ngokusekelwe kwizifundo zonyango kunye namava eokliniki, ukuba iintsana zinokukwenza kwaye zixineke.

Ungayibona Njani Ingcinezelo Ngomntwana?

Ngokweengcali, enye yezona ndlela eziphambili zokubona ukudakumba kwintsana yintliziyo yakhe. Ukuze ulinganise oku, zibuze le mibuzo elandelayo:

• Ingaba uvakalisa uluhlu oluvakalayo? Okanye ubonakala ezolile aze anqobe?
• Ingaba ibonakala ihoxiswa, mhlawumbi ihlala iqhamuka kwindawo?
• Ngaba kunzima ukumenza ukuba akwazi ukusebenzisana nawe entlalweni?
• Ngaba isibonakaliso sakhe sobuso sibonakala sibuhlungu kwaye akafaneki athobe?

Nangona iintsana ezahlukileyo ziza kubakho ubuntu obuhlukeneyo kunye nezimo, ukuba le ndlela imele ithathe utshintsho ekuziphatheni komntwana wakho, ingaba luphawu lokuba uxinezelekile. Kunoko ke, ngokumangalisayo kukuba, ukukhala akuyena umqondiso wesana odandathekileyo. Enyanisweni, isana esicindezelekileyo singabhalwa ngokuba ngumntwana "olungileyo" kuba akalili okanye aphikisana kaninzi.

Umntwana Wakho Unokuthatyathwa Njani Ngexinzelelo?

Nangona kubonakala ngathi umntwana wakho ubonisa iimpawu zesimo esixinezelekileyo, oku akuthethi ukuba uthe waxinezeleka. Ngokwemiqulu ebizwa ngokuba yiNgcaciso yokuThengiswa kweMpilo yengqondo kunye neNtlupheko yokuPhuhliswa koBantwana kunye noBantwana bokuqala (i-DC: 0-3R), eyapapashwa ngo-2005 yintlangano engenzi nzuzo ebizwa ngokuba yiZero kwiThathu, le miqathango mihlanu ifanele ibe wadibana ukuze ufumane ukuxilongwa koxinzelelo olwenziwa kwintsana:

• Umzekelo wesimo sengqondo nokuziphatha kufuneka umele utshintsho kwizinto eziqhelekileyo kumntwana;
• Imvakalelo ecinezelekileyo okanye ecasulayo kufuneka ibe khona imihla ngemihla, ngenxa yentsuku yosuku, ngaphezu kweeveki ezimbini;
• Impawu ezixinezelekileyo kufuneka zenzeke kwimisebenzi engaphezu kweyodwa kunye nobudlelwane obuninzi;

• Iimpawu kufuneka zenze ukuba umntwana angakhathazeki, angonakalise ukusebenza kwakhe kunye / okanye aphelise intuthuko yakhe;
• Iimpawu akufanele zibangelwe imeko yonyango jikelele, unyango okanye i-toxin yokusingqongileyo

Ekubeni umntwanakho sele ejongene nale mpawu kwiintsuku ezimbalwa, mhlawumbi uhamba ngokukhawuleza okuhambelana nokungabikho kwakho okuza kudlulayo ngokukhawuleza njengoko elungisa ukubuyela kwenkqubo yakho yesiqhelo. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba uyaqhubeka enenkathazo, unokuba unqwenela ukwenza inqununu nomntwana ongumntwana oswele umntwana okanye abanye abaneengcali zempilo yengqondo abanamava abasebenza nabantwana abancinci. Nangona amayeza kunye neyeza azinakunyulwa kubantwana ngoko mncinci, isifo sengqondo singasebenza nawe ukukunceda uqonde ngakumbi kwaye uzalise iimfuno zakho zentsana ukuze uzive ekhuselekileyo kwindawo yakhe.

_Imithombo:

_{"Ukuqala Kwamava Okuqala: Ukuphuhliswa Kwentliziyo Kukuqala Ukuqala Kokuzalwa, Kuququzelela uRoss Thompson, Ph.D." Izingane Ezincinci, Imibuzo Ephakamileyo: I-Parenting Period Series ukusuka ku-ZERO KWESITHATHU. ZERO KWESITHATHU.}

_{Zeanah, uCharles H., ed. Incwadi Yengqondo Yengqondo Yengane Yengane 3 ed. INew York: I-Guilford Press, ngo-2009.}

_{Zero kuThathu. UkuHlanywa koLwazi lweMpilo yengqondo kunye neengxaki zokuPhuhliswa koBantwana kunye nabantwana abaselula: i-Updated Revised . IWashington: ZERO KWI-THREE Press, ngo-2005.}