Ininzi yethu ayithandi ukucinga "ngamandla" xa sicinga ngobudlelwane. Ubuhlobo obusondeleyo bubandakanya ukwabelana kunye nentsebenziswano - kodwa kuthatha amabini ukwabelana kunye nokusebenzisana. Kuthiwani ukuba iqabane elinye lingathandi?
Nabani na ofuna ubuncinci ubudlelwane banamandla amakhulu. Umzekelo obalaseleyo walo mgaqo uqhawulo lomtshato. Kuthatha nje umntu omnye ukuphelisa ubudlelwane.
Akunandaba nokuba omnye umlingani ufuna umtshato usebenze.
Lo mgaqo-siseko ungabonwa kwiintsebenziswano ezincinane. Ukutya isidlo kunye ne-movie? Kuphela ukuba zombini amaqabane afuna. Ngesondo? Oko kusebenza ngokusemandleni xa kuqhathaniswa kunye nokusebenzisana. Ngokuqinisekileyo, ukwabelana ngesondo akunjalo rhoqo, kodwa ulwalamano aluhlali ixesha elidlulileyo emva kokudlwengulwa komtshato okanye ezinye iintlobo zesini esingavunyelwanga ngesondo.
Yintoni eyenza ukungenzi kwemvume njengesixhobo esinamandla? Akugcini nje ukubeka umntu ongeyena mvume kwisimo somenzi wesigqibo, kodwa uthumela umyalezo ocacileyo othi "iminqweno yam ibaluleke ngaphezu kweyakho." Kuba iqabane elithandayo ngaphezulu ukusuka kulwalamano, oku kungaba ngumyalezo owonakalisayo wokufumana. Ibonisa ukuba ngelixa elizayo, iqabane elingenalo imvume liya kukhetha ukhetho okanye ukunika intsebenziswano, uthando kunye nenkxaso-ngaphandle kokuqwalasela iimfuno okanye iimfuno zelinye ilungu lolwalamano.
Ukuphendula ukungabambisene nobudlelwane
Kukho kuphela iimpendulo ezintathu ezenzekayo ekungabandakanyeki kwintsebenziswano.
- Owokuqala ukwamkela isigqibo somntu ongeyena mvume, nokuba yintoni enokuba nayo, ukuze kugcinwe ubuncinane ubambiswano kunye nentsebenziswano. Olu khetho, ngelixa liyakwamkeleka ixesha elide, ukulawulwa kweenkede ngokupheleleyo. Kwabaninzi abantu, akusiyo isisombululo sesikhathi eside.
- Okwesibini kukulwa nentsebenziswano - ukhetho oluyingozi kumntu onqwenela kakhulu ubudlelwane.
- Ingxenye yesithathu ukuhamba, isithi - inyaniso - "Ukuba ukhetha ukungancedi okanye udibanise nam, ndiya kuhamba yedwa okanye ndifumane omnye umntu ukuba andinike inkxaso okanye intsebenziswano endiyidingayo." Nangona le nketho ibonakala ngathi iyona nto ithembayo, inokuba yinto enzima kakhulu kumntu oncike kulwalamano olukhoyo kunye nokuzithemba .
Ukuba ngaba kunjalo, ubuhlobo buhlala njani? Ithemba liyinxalenye ebalulekileyo. Xa sithemba iqabane lethu, ngokwenxalenye, sithemba ukuba abayi kuhamba. Sithembela ukuba iqabane lethu liya kuqwalasela iimfuno kunye neminqweno yethu xa senza izigqibo eziya kubachaphazela abo babini amaqabane. Eli themba lenziwe ngokuthe ngcembe. Ukuba umntu uqinisekisa ukuba uthembeke ngeendlela ezincinci sithatha ingozi yokubathemba ngakumbi.
Ubudlelwane boluntu buninzi malunga namandla. Olu lwalamano lu malunga nolwalamano , ubuhlobo, uthando , inhlonipho, inzululwazi, ukwaneliseka, ukwabelana, ukunxibelelana kunye nokunye. Nangona kunjalo, kusenyanisweni ukuba nabani na ofuna ubuncinci ubudlelwane banamandla amakhulu. Ebudlelwaneni obuhle, amandla ashintshana emva nangaphambili, njengoko iqabane ngalinye liqwalasela iimfuno zomnye kwaye lithatha okanye lenze amandla ngokufanelekileyo.