Izibalo kunye nemibono yokukhwabanisa emtshatweni
Kukho ihlaya elidala elithetha ngamaphesenti angama-98 abo bonke abantu ukuba baphathe i-masturbate - kunye neepesenti ezi-2 ezithi ngenye indlela zixoki. Kodwa ngovavanyo lwama-2009 yiYunivesithi yaseChicago, loo manani ahamba ngendlela - ubuncinane ukuba ngaba abaphenduliweyo bathetha inyaniso. Inani lalingama-61 ekhulwini kumadoda kunye nama-38 ekhulwini kwabasetyhini kuloo ndlebe. Ngokuqinisekileyo, kwaqhutyelwa kumntu-kwaye akukho nkcazelo enikeziwe malunga nokuba ngaba ngabaphenduliweyo batshatile, ngobudlelwane obuzimeleyo okanye abangatshatanga.
Ngako-ke baninzi abantu ababethatywayo?
I-website ethi TheMarriageBed yathatha ucwaningo olungacwangciswanga ngo-2013, kubuza ukuba ngabaphi abaphenduliweyo bahlala "ekuzivuseleleni kwi-orgasm ngelixa kungengomlingane wakho." Phantse ama-85 ekhulwini lamadoda aphendulwayo athi abenomzimba wokuhlambalaza phantsi kwemiqathango kwiinyanga ezintathu ezedlule. Kuphela malunga neepesenti ezili-15 kuphela becinga ukuba abafazi babo bayazi malunga nalo, ngelixa iipesenti ezingama-17 okanye ngokunjalo babenokuqiniseka ukuba abafazi babo babengenanto.
Yintoni eyingozi?
Ngaba lo msebenzi unobungozi kumanyano womtshato? I-Psychology namhlanje ibhekisele kuyo kwaye ifunyenwe inxalenye yokuba i-masturbation izalisekile xa elinye iqabane okanye elinye lingathandi okanye lingenakukwazi ukusebenzisana ngokwesondo. Nangona kunjalo abatshatileyo abangabandakanyeki kwisigxathu sokungcola kungakhathaliseki ukuba baxhamle xa befumanisa oko iqabane lawo liye lafikelela kulo. Bajwayele ukuzitshintsha, nangona kungenjalo ngendlela ongayilindela ngayo. Esikhundleni sokubangela ukuba i-masturbation yabo ibe yinto yokungafuni okanye ukungakwazi ukulala ngesondo, bathambekele ekucingeni ukuba iqabane okanye iqabane lakhe lixhalabile okanye alibi nabo.
Nangona kunjalo i-Psychology namhlanje ikhankanya uphando olubonisa ukuba ukugcoba ngesondo kubudlelwane obuphilileyo . Akunjalo "indawo engenamandla," kodwa kunoko ukukhawuleza ukwenza umsebenzi wobulili obuninzi, ubuncinane kwimitshato apho elinye iqabane elingaxhatshali ngenxa yesinye isizathu. I-WebMD icaphuna uDavid Schnarch, Ph.D., umlawuli weNkundla yoMtshato kunye neZiko lezeMpilo kwi-Evergreen, eColorado, njengoko ichaza.
"Kwabanye abatshatileyo, kuphulwa. Kwabanye, akunjalo."
Yintoni Enhle Ngayo?
I-Prevention Magazine ithi ukuhlaziya i-masturbation kunciphisa uxinzelelo kwaye kukhuthaza ukwaneliseka, kwaye zombini unokuba negalelo ekutshatweni komtshato onolonwabo ngakumbi . Eli phephancwadi lixhasa ngokupheleleyo le ndlela, ebonisa ukuba ayikuchaphazeli kakubi i-libido kodwa kunokuba ivuselele. Ingakhokelela ekufunyaneni ukuzifumana, into engadlulela kwiintlobano zesini zesini.
Kuthekani malunga nazo zibini ezingezantsi kwiphepha elifanayo xa kuziwa ekufuneni ubukhulu besondo? Yintoni eyenzekayo xa uthatha ingqiqo yokungcatsha kuyo? I-Prevention Magazine ithi ukuphelisa isisu kunokuthi kube yimpendulo egqibeleleyo kweso simo esinzima ngenxa yokuba umlingani wokuhlambalaza akayikukopela. Uyigcina ekhaya, kwaye yinto enhle.
Kwaye sijamelane nalo, ngubani ongenakuphucula emva kokugonxwa ngesondo, nokuba kungumntu oyedwa okanye oyedwa? Ukuba isusa iingxaki zesini kunye neengxaki emtshatweni womtshato, loo nto ingaba yinto entle. Ngenxa yokuba le ngcamango kunye nophando oluphikisanayo, kungenzeka ukuba konke kuya kumbono womntu.