Unokumnceda njani umntwana othembisa ukuba akunakunceda
Ufunde ukungenakuncedo kukuba imeko xa isilwanyana siphindwa ngokuphindaphindiweyo kwisisombululo esingazibaleki. Ekugqibeleni, isilwanyana siyeka ukuzama ukuphepha ukuvuselela nokuziphatha njengokungathi akunakunceda ukutshintsha imeko. Ngaphandle kokuba amathuba okubaleka afundiswe, oku kufunyanwa ukungenakunceda kukuthintela nayiphi na inyathelo okanye iqhinga kwisilwanyana.
Nangona le ngcamango idityaniswe kwi-psychology yezilwanyana kunye nokuziphatha, inokusetyenziswa kwiimeko ezininzi ezibandakanya abantu. Xa abantu banomuvo wokuthi abanakho ukulawula imeko yabo, banokuqala ukuziphatha ngendlela engenakunceda. Oku kungenzi nto kunokukhokelela abantu ukuba bangawuboni amathuba okuphucula okanye utshintsho. Kwaye abantwana abanokuzivikela?
Okokufunda Ukungancedi Kubonakala Kuyabantwana
Ukufunda ukungancedi kunokuqala ekuqaleni kwangoko ubomi, kwinqanaba lesana. Iintsana ezisemgangathweni, kunye nabantwana abahlukunyezwa ngumama okanye abangenayo ngokwaneleyo, banomngcipheko wokufunda abangenakunceda ngenxa yokungabikho kwempendulo yabantu abadala. Kwakhona kunokwenzeka ukuba oomama abazive bengenakunceda ukuba badlulise le mfanelo kubantwana babo.
Ukufunda ukungancedi kunokukhokelela ekukhathazeni kunye kunye / okanye ukudandatheka . Umntwana wakho unokuhlakulela ukulindela ukuba iziganeko ezizayo ziya kuba zingalawulekiyo njengoko zidlulileyo.
Okubalulekileyo, umntwana wakho unokuziva ukuba akukho nto angayenza ukutshintsha isiphumo somcimbi, ngoko uyazixelela ukuba akayi kuzama.
Ngokomzekelo, ukuba umfundi ufunde ukuhlolwa kwaye ufumana isigaba esihluphekileyo, unokuziva ukuba akanakho ukulawula ukusebenza kwakhe, ngoko unokugqiba ukuyeka ukuthatha inxaxheba nokufunda ngokupheleleyo.
Unako ukuvelisa le mvakalelo kwezinye iinkalo zobomi bakhe aze alahlekelwe yimpembelelo yokuphumelela, njengoko ekholelwa ukuba impumelelo yakhe ayiyikulawula.
Iimpawu zokufunda uncedo zingabandakanya:
- Ukungahambi
- Ukuncama
- Ukucinga ngaphambi kokuba usebenze
- Ukunciphisa amandla okuxazulula iingxaki
- Ukukhungatheka
- Ukuzithoba
Ithemba lokuncedwa ukungaziqondi
Kwisifundo esithile sokufunda okungenakunceda, abathathi-nxaxheba abafumana ukungenelela kokunyanga emva komsebenzi ongenakulinganiswa, banokuphumelela ekugqityeni umsebenzi olandelayo wokulandelelana kunokuba iqela elingazange lifumane ukungenelela kwonyango.
Abaphandi bacebisa ukuba ukungenelela kwonyango kuncede ukuba abathathi-nxaxheba babe neempendulo ezaneleyo malunga nokusebenza kwabo kokuqala ukutshintshisa imiphumo emibi yokufunda abangenakunceda kwisilingo sesibini.
Ukufumana Uncedo Lokufunda Uncedo
Kubalulekile ukwazi ukuba bonke abantwana abasabela kwisiganeko esingalawulekiyo kwaye bafunde ukungazinzi okanye ukudandatheka . Izinto ezithile zezinto eziphilayo kunye nengqondo zingandisa ukwanda komntwana wokufunda uncedo kunye / okanye uxinzelelo.
Ukuba ucinga ukuba umntwana wakho unokuxinezeleka, okanye ubonisa iimpawu zokufunda ezingenakunceda ngaphezu kweeveki ezimbalwa, kukulungele ukuba ahlolwe ngumqeqeshi ukuba ahlolwe kakuhle kwaye unyango.
Kukho abasebenzi bezempilo yengqondo abakholelwa ukuba kunokwenzeka ukubuyisela ukungenakunceda ukufunda "nokufunda ukuzithemba" usebenzisa iindlela zokwenza unyango. Ezinye iindlela ezikhoyo ziquka ukufundisa umntwana wakho ukuphikisa iingcamango zabo ezimbi kunye nokukhuthaza iingxaki zabo zokusombulula iingxaki nezentlalo.
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