Iingcebiso zokukhuthaza ukuzithoba komntwana wakho
Ngenxa yobambano obucacileyo phakathi kokuzithemba okuphantsi kunye noxinzelelo lwengcinezelo, abaphandi abaninzi baye babuza ukuba okanye ukungaxineki kunye nokuzithemba ngokwenene kuyinto efanayo.
Bobabini ukuzithemba kunye nokudandatheka kucinga ukuba kusebenze uhlobo oluthile lokuqhubeka, okanye ukulinganisa, ukusuka kwizinga eliphezulu ukuya kwi-self-esteem, kwaye akukho zibonakaliso zokudandatheka ekudambiseni iimpawu ezixinzeleleyo .
Sibanzi
Ukuzithemba yindlela ozijonga ngayo, iimpazamo, iimpawu ezilungileyo kunye nazo zonke. Kuphuhliswa ngamava akho, iingcinga, iimvakalelo kunye nobudlelwano. Ukuba umntwana wakho unokuzithoba, ngokuqhelekileyo uza kujonga njengento ephosakeleyo, acinge ngeengcamango zakhe kunye neengcamango kwaye akhathazeke ukuba akafanelekanga. Kwakhona unokuba nzima ukufumana impendulo emihle aze abone wonke umntu ophakathi kwakhe kangcono kunokuba.
Ukudakumba kunokugqithiseleyo nje ukuziva uhlungu. Iphosa amandla akho, yenza imisebenzi yansuku zonke ibe nzima kwaye iphazamise ukutya kwakho kunye neendlela zokulala. I-Psychotherapy kunye / okanye amayeza anempumelelo kakhulu ekuphatheni uxinzelelo. Kukho iintlobo ezininzi zeengxaki zokudandatheka, kuquka ukudakumba okukhulu , ukukhathazeka okuqhubekayo, ukuxinezeleka kwengqondo, ukuxinezeleka kwangemva kwesithuba kunye neengxaki zonyaka (SAD).
Fanayo
Ukuzithemba okuphantsi kunye nokuxinezeleka kubandakanya ezininzi iimpawu kunye neempawu ezifanayo, kuquka:
- Ukuziphatha okungenamsebenzi
- Ukuthatha ingozi ngesondo
- Ukusetyenziswa kwezinto nokusetyenziswa kakubi
- Ukuhoxiswa kwezenhlalakahle kunye nokuphepha
- Ukuhla kwezemfundo
- Ukuziphatha okubi (umsindo, ubundlobongela)
- Ubunzima nobudlelwane obunxulumene
- Ukuzimela
Ukungafani
Nangona ukufana okubonakalayo phakathi kokuzithemba nokuxinezeleka, uphando luxhasa imbono yokuba, ngokwenene, iingcamango ezahlukileyo kunye ezahlukeneyo.
Ekuphononongweni kweengxelo, abaphandi bafumanisa ukungqinelani okubonakalayo phakathi kokuzithemba nokuxinezeleka. Bachaza ukuba ukuzithemba kuhlale kuzinzile, okanye kungatshintshi, ngaphezu kwexesha elizeleyo, ngelixa ukudandatheka kungokwemvelo, okanye kushintsho rhoqo, ukususela kwimihla ngemihla kunye nonyaka.
Nangona kukho ukufana, kunokwenzeka ukuba ukuzithemba okuphantsi kukuyingozi yokudakumba kwabantwana, kunokuba beyinto efanayo, abaphandi baphetha.
Ukuthintela Ukudandatheka kwabantwana
Nangona umntwana onesidima esincinci angasengozini yecala elidandathekileyo, akuthethi ukuba uthe waxinezeleka ngoku. Ukufumana oku ngundoqo kukunika ithuba elikhethekileyo lokufuna unyango lokuqala lokukhusela umntwana wakho. Ukunyanga okukhuselekileyo kuboniswe ukuba kuphumelele ekunciphiseni iimpawu zokudandatheka kubantwana abasengozini yokudandatheka.
Ukuba umntwana wakho ubonisa iimpawu zokuzithemba okanye ukucindezeleka, xelela udokotela wezilwanyana okanye ezinye iingcali zempilo yengqondo ngokuchanekileyo kunye nokukhetha unyango oluchanekileyo .
Indlela Yokukhuthaza Ukuzimela Kwemntwana Wakho
- Mnike ukhetho. Ukwenza iinqunto zakhe kwandisa ukuzithemba kwakhe, kodwa ukuba zininzi izigqibo ezinokubangela ukuba zinqabile, yenzani le ngqiqo.
- Mxelele ukuba uyamthanda. Ngaba ubonakala ephendula ngokugqithiseleyo ukukhukula, amazwi okukhuthaza, uphawu lokubonga, ukutya okuphekwe ekhaya okanye ixesha elilodwa nawe? Ukubonisa oko kwenza ukuba azive esithandwa kakhulu kwaye uqinisekise ukuba ubonisa uthando lwakho rhoqo.
- Khuthaza ukunxibelelana. Ukuthetha naye malunga noko kwenzekayo ebomini bakhe kubonisa ukuba ungumntu obalulekileyo, onomdla ofanelekile ixesha lakho.
- Yiba ngumphulaphuli omhle. Nangona ungayithandi into echazwa ngumntwana wakho, zama ukukhumbula indlela ozive ngayo xa uneminyaka yakhe kwaye uphendule indlela ofuna ukuba umntu omdala aphendule ngayo kuwe. Ukuzibeka ezicathulweni zomntwana kunokukunceda uhlale unembono kwaye umkhuthaze ukuba abuyele ngeengxaki, imibuzo okanye nje ukufuna ukuphuma.
- Ukuxhasa nokukhuthaza amandla akhe. Ukuba ulungile kwi-basketball, yiba ngowona mdlali omkhulu. Ukuba ubonisa ukufaneleka komculo, mfumene ezo zixhobo zegitare afunayo.
- Yibanenceba. Abantwana, nangaphezulu kunabantu abadala, abaphenduli kakuhle ngomsindo, ukugxeka kunye nobutshaba. Khetha amagama akho ngokucophelela.
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