Eyaziwa nangokuthi "nguPeter Pan," "umntwana womntwana" ngumntu onqaba ukukhula. Mhlawumbi uyazibuza ukuba kutheni akayi kukhula kwaye uqhubeke, wathini na ukuba uthandane nalo mntu. Umoya wakhe wengqondo kunye nengqondo yinto yentsha. Ungumntwana omdala, ongenakuziphendulela kwaye ongathembekiyo. Usebenza ngokugqithiseleyo, uxanduva olunzulu kunye nokugqithiselela ukulahlekelwa kwakhe.
Ekuqaleni, wakhwela kuye ecinga ukuba uyamnandi, ayikhathalele kwaye abuyele. Njengoko kulunge okokuqala, ukhule, waba ngumntu omdala, kwaye akazange ayenze. Ngoku ufanele wenze konke okusemandleni ukugcina ukumbamba.
Ukuthintela okuMntu-oMntu
- Unengqondo ebuthakathaka kakhulu. Ngokwenene uyakholelwa ukuba akanalo imithwalo yemfanelo okanye intsapho engasebenzi. Ulwalamano lwakhe olude. Ngoku uyazi ukuba kutheni engazange abe nolwalamano olude ngaphambi kwakho.
- Ucinga ukuba iziyobisi zokuzonwabisa, ikakhulukazi ibhodlo, zilungele ukusetyenziswa. Akenzi ubunzima kwimiphumo yempilo, ingqondo enobuqili, okanye impembelelo engalunganga ukuba bakhethando olubi luya kubakho abantwana bakho abancinci. Uthumela ii-imeyile ezifundayo ezithi ukubhema ibhodlo akukonakalisi kwaye ukusela utywala kunokuphilisa. Uhlala ebonakala ehlolwe ngaphandle kodwa ubiza ngokuthi "ukhululekile." Ukhawuleza ukubonisa indlela "uphakamise" ngayo, kwaye kufuneka usebenzise kwakhona.
- Akaqeshwanga "kumsebenzi." Unokuphuma emsebenzini ukuya emsebenzini okanye uzame ukuphepha ukusebenzela konke. Uhlala ekhona, kwaye mhlawumbi esenjalo, uyasinda kwinkxaso yezemali yabazali bakhe abakwenzayo. Ukuba usebenza, nguye ogqwebayo, okhononda ngayo yonke imithetho, ethatha ixesha elide lokusiya okanye ukufihla kwindawo yokudlala edlala nefowuni yakhe.
- Izinto ezithandwa nguye ziquka i-electronics. Unokuba ngumlutha kwiimidlalo zevidiyo kunye / okanye imidlalo engummangaliso awadlala ngayo iiyure. Unobungozi bokusebenzisa umzimba.
- Akayithandi umthwalo ekhaya. Akenzi nto ukupheka, ukucoca okanye ukuhlamba. Ukuba umcela ukuba ancede, wenza njengento enkulu. Kufuneka uncedise ukugqoka kuye nayiphi na ithuba elihle kuba ama-sneakers kunye ne-T-shirts zi-95% ze-wardrobe yakhe.
- Akakwazi ukuzithethelela ngokomoya. Akukho "ukukhangela" xa kuyimfuneko. Azikho iingxoxo eziza kubangela ukuxazulula iingxaki. Ukhononda, utyhafa kwaye ucinga ukuba yonke into ayilunganga. Uncinci kwaye ugcina amanqaku. Unokude ulahle yonke intukuthelo. Uyakuhlala uhlala ubeka iindaba ezibalulekileyo kwingxoxo. Ulungile xa ezenza ngathi akukho nto iphosakeleyo.
- Bonke abahlobo bakhe baziphatha ngendlela efanayo. Kusenokwenzeka ukuba udibanise nabanye kwixesha elidlulileyo elibonakala likhulile kwaye lixanduva, kodwa abasayi kuphinda beze bajikeleza. Xa uphuma kunye nezinye izibini, uziva uhlazekile ngenxa yokuziphatha kwakhe okanye ukungabikho kokufezekisa.
Uyazi ibali: emva kwayo yonke into uPeter Pan yiWendy. Umntu-umntwana ekuqaleni wayebonakala enzima. Iimvakalelo zakho zoomama zikhange zibe ngaphezulu. Ukhawuleza ukumthabatha phantsi kwephiko lakho uze uncede kumkhokele. Ngoku ungadluli kwiimeko ezikhoyo zomtshato wakho. Umnqweno wakho wesini ngesondo kuye. Wenzani ngoku? Ngaba lo mntu uya kukhula?
Yintoni Okufanele Uyenze?
Kumele uyeke ukuziphatha kwakho okunika amandla kunye nokungasebenzi ukuba uphume kule mandla enzima. Kufuneka uqaphele ukuba unengxenye yesizathu sokuba iqabane lakho liyaqhubeka lenza ngendlela ayenzayo.
Cinga kwakhona ebuntwaneni bakho. Ngaba uyenziwe ukuba ukhule ngokukhawuleza okanye ube noxanduva oluphezulu? Mhlawumbi ufanele unakekele umzali onxilisayo okanye ongenamdla. Ngaba wawunomthwalo wabantakwabo bakho abasebancinci? Kungenzeka ukuba unamathele kwindima enjalo, kwaye wenza ukuziphatha kwakho kokunyamekela ekubeni ngumntu omdala, kubandakanye ubuhlobo bakho bokuthandana.
Umtshato Wakho Kumntwana Womntwana
Imilinganiselo yokusinda yale michato kaPeter Pan / Wendy ye-syndrome ayikho enkulu. Yisihlandlo sokuyeka ukukhwela le ndoda. Kuya kubaluleka ukuba udale imida ephilileyo. Xa uyenzile, akuqinisekanga ukuba ekugqibeleni uya kukhula.
Ukuba akayiyo, uncedo lobuchule luyimfuneko. Kumele aqonde ukuba ukufaneleka komtshato kuxhomekeke kuwe kokubili utshintsho oluqinileyo owenziweyo. Ukuba nonke nikulungele ukwenza utshintsho olufunekayo ukuze nimvumele ukuba akhule, kuphela ngoko unokufumana ulonwabo oluye lungafunwa.