Nceda! Umtshato Wanga Umyeni Obucelwe Ukuba Uqhawulo

Nantsi indlela yokungaqhubeki amathuba akho okubuyisela izinto kwi-track

Ingaba kubonakala ngathi "ngaphandle kohlaza okomhlaza" okanye ukuyiqonda ixesha elide, kuyothuswa isihogo xa iqabane lakho lifuna ukushiya. (Ngendlela, ayikaze "ngaphandle kwebala," kodwa enye inqaku). Mhlawumbi kweli nqanaba, uza kwenza nantoni na ukugcina umtshato ... nokuba yonyango . Nangona kunjalo, kuthekani ukuba lakho iqabane lithi "Ndiphelile?"

Njengoko ilizwi lihamba-akupheli 'de lide liphele.

Ukuba unomnqweno wokugcina umtshato wakho, kukho izinto ezininzi omele ukuzenza (kwaye akufanele) ukuba wenze.

Izinto ezi-10 eziphambili AWAKHO UKUBA UKUBA WENZA Ukuba Umfazi Wakho Othanda Ukukushiya kwaye Ufuna Ukugcina Umtshato Wakho:

1. Musa ukucela, ukucela, ukuphishekela, okanye ukwenza izicelo. Oku kuya kuba nempembelelo echaseneyo kwaye uphendule iqabane lakho.
2. Musa ukwenza iifowuni ezigqithiseleyo kunye neetekisi kumlingane wakho. Musa ukwenza uncedo okanye uneswele.
3. Ungaqhubeki uqonde zonke iingongoma ezilungileyo kumtshato okanye ngawe.
4. Ungazami ukumfumana ukuba afunde iincwadi zomtshato, jonga kwimifanekiso yakho yomtshato, njl.
5. Musa ukuhamba nomlingane wakho kwindlu njengenkhuku edabukisayo. Enyanisweni, ungabonakali njengenkhuku edabukisayo!
6. Musa ukucela intsapho okanye abahlobo ukuba bakhuthaze iqabane lakho ukuba lihlale nawe. Ukuxoxa ngezinto ezinjalo kunye nabo bantu kuya kuphazamisa umlingane wakho wenze izinto zibe zibi nakakhulu.
7. Musa ukuthenga izipho, iintyatyambo kunye namakhadi ukuze wenze into oyenzayo. Ngeke uphumelele ekuthengeni uthando olusemva.

1. Musa ukuyihlola umlingane ngokulandela imoto yakho, ukujonga ii-imeyile, ifowuni, iibhilikhwe, njl.
2. Ungathi "Ndiyakuthanda." Iqabane lakho alikho kwimeko yokuliva ngoku ngoku, kwaye liya kuvela njengento ephathekayo okanye "i-pushy."
3. Musa ukusa. Hlalani kude neziyobisi, utywala, umbane okanye ulala nabanye. Ukuba ufuna ngokwenene ukuba umyeni wakho abuyele, ezi zinto aziyi kuyenza!

Nazi izinto ezi-10 eziphambili omele uyenze Ukuba umfazi wakho ufuna ukushiya kwaye ufuna ukugcina umtshato wakho:

1. Yizisa "uqobo lwakho" kule ngxaki. Akusiyo ixesha lokuwahlukana, ukuya kwintukuthelo okanye ukubuyisela. Sungula isimo sengqondo esingcono.
2. Qhubeka uhamba nombonakalo wakho. Ukungahambi, ukucola ukungabonakali, ukujonga njenge-slob okanye ukuhlala ngokungapheliyo embhedeni obukele i-TV akuyi kubakhokelela kumlingane wakho.
3. Yiba neentlonelo kumlingane wakho kwaye uzihloniphe ngokunjalo.
4. Yenza njengokungathi uhamba phambili ngokuzithemba nokuba kungakhathaliseki ukuba umlingani wakho uhlala nawe.
5. Hlalani nixakekile. Qhubeka nomsebenzi wakho ngemini. Kwaye, phuma ngokwakho, kunye nabahlobo, kunye nosapho kunye nezingane. Yiya endaweni yokunqula, zama i-hobby entsha, usebenzise umzimba. Ngamanye amagama, zenzele ubomi nangona kwenzeka ntoni ngomtshato wakho. Unokumema umlingane wakho, kodwa ungamkeli kakubi xa engakufumani kwisiphakamiso sakho. Musa ukutshintsha izicwangciso zakho.
6. Nika iqabane lakho indawo! Musa ukumbuza umlingane wakho malunga nokuba uhlala phi okanye uhleli.
7. Yenza iqabane lakho likubone njengomxholo kungakhathaliseki ukuba uvakalelwa njani. Imizwa yakho iya kuguquka. Nangona kunjalo, umele ube ngumntu oza kutsho ukuba wakho umlingane ngenxa yokuba unomdla.

1. Vumela umlingane wakho eze kuwe kunye nayiphi na imibuzo okanye ukuxhalabisa ngomtshato, kungekhona enye indlela. Ngaphandle kokuvumela ngokuqinisekileyo iqabane lakho ukuba uyafuna ukugcina umtshato, kuba nomonde malunga nayiphi na ingxoxo malunga nawe ezimbini. Ukuba uthe wafika ukuthetha, kuba ngumphulaphuli okhutheleyo kunye nokuzibandakanya , ekubonisa ukuba uyanyamekela oko kuthethwa.
2. Musa ukuzibandakanya kwiingxoxo. Musa "ukuthatha umlenze" ukuba iqabane lakho lizama ukukwenza ukuba wenze oku. Kusenokwenzeka nokuba uhambe. (Ukuba lakho iqabane libiza ukuba "uhlala uhamba," xelela ukuba uya kuvuyela ukuhlala kunye nencoko yomntu ... yenze njalo!)

1. Yenza uncedo. Funda iincwadi zokuzinceda okanye iincwadi zokuziphucula okanye uzibonele umcebisi (kunye namava kunye nezibini). Isiqhelo soSahlulo soSahlulo soThathane yincwadi enhle kwiimeko zakho.

Kunokuphazamisa ukuva ukuba lakho iqabane lifuna ukushiya. Ngitsho nabafazi abatsho ukuba bafuna ukuqhawula umtshato basenokwenjenjalo xa besenza njalo. Ufuna ithuba elihle lokuba nezinto ziphumelele. Abantu abaninzi banqabileyo ngoku ngokukhathazeka, ngokukrakra, kumbi okanye kubuyisela. Oku kukuchasene noko kufuneka uyenze.

Landela ezi zinto kwaye ungenzi, kwaye, ngaphezu kwakho konke, mazihambisane nale nyathelo kunye neziphathamandla. Kufuneka ubonise ukuba unako ukutshintsha kwangempela. Kufuneka ucinge ngokukrakra malunga noko kukufumene nendawo kule ndawo. Ziziphi iimpawu ozilungele ukutshintsha ukuze ufumane umtshato wakho kwindlela? Cinga ngento oko iqabane lakho liye lakhalaza ngalo ixesha elide. Yintoni oye wayikhipha kwisindlebe kwiqabane lakho?

Kungabonakala kukungalungi ukuba kufuneka wenze konke ukutshintsha. Okwangoku, ewe, inokwenzeka ukuba wenza ngenxa yokuba ungekho. Kufuneka wenze utshintsho lokuqala. Ukuba unomlutha (i-porn, into okanye enye) okanye unobungozi okanye uhlambalaza (umzimba kunye / okanye ngokomzwelo), kufuneka ufumane unyango lwakho ukuze usebenze kulezi zinto. Uya kuba neendlela ezide phambi kwakho ukulungisa umonakalo obangele.

Ukwenza utshintsho olulungileyo (nokuba umtshato wakho usebenza okanye awukho) uhlala ucinga kakuhle. Kungenzeka ukuba kukho ezinye iimpawu okanye iimpawu onazo eza kuba yingxaki kwiintsebenziswano ezininzi . Ukuba unokufumana umlingane wakho kunye nawe ngokusebenza emtshatweni, ukwenza utshintsho ngokuqinisekileyo akuzange kube yize.

Ukuthengwa kwi-Amazon: Ukwahlukana kweSahluko nguMichelle Weiner-Davis