Iikhowudi ezili-12 ze-AA ne-Al-Anon
Nangona iziqinisekiso zokubaluleka kumaqela enkxaso enyathelo eli-12 zichazwe ngokuthe ngqo, ngokuqhelekileyo ngamalungu ngamnye ngokwabo abagqibayo ukuba "bangabakho" kwiqela okanye cha.
Utywala obunxilisayo
Imveli 3 - Imfuno kuphela yelungu le-AA ngumnqweno wokuyeka ukusela.
Al-Anon
Inkcubeko 3 - Izihlobo zotywala, xa zihlanganisene ukuxhasana, ziyakuthiwa yi-Al-Anon Family Group, ukuba nje, njengeqela, abanakho ukubandakanyeka. Imfuneko yodwa yobulungu kukuba kukho ingxaki yokusela utywala kwisihlobo okanye kumhlobo.
Bobabini abaNxilabo abangaziwayo kunye no-Al-Anon bavula iingcango zabo kwaye banikezela ubudlelwane nabani na ofanelwe ukufaneleka okuchazwe kwiNkolelo yesi-3 kwaye ngokubanzi bayeke ukuzimisela komntu ngamnye. Ngokukodwa abo abaya kwiintlanganiso ezili-12 zintlanganiso bavakalelwa kukuba "bangabakho" okanye abahambeli.
Isizathu sokuba iNkolelo yesi-3 igxininiswe ngabaxhasi beenkqubo ezilishumi elinambini ukukhusela ubudlelwane ngaphandle kweempembelelo zangaphandle; ukuqinisekisa ukuba iintlanganiso ziza kugcina ingqalelo yazo ephambili kwaye zingayi kuhlanjululwa yimpembelelo yezinye izinto okanye iimpembelelo.
Amanye amaxesha amandulo namhlanje akholelwa ukuba ubudlelwane buye buhlanjululwa ngokufakwa kwiintlanganiso zawo abo baqala ukujongana nemiba ngaphandle kweengxaki zotywala, ezifana nokusetyenziswa kakubi kweziyobisi. Bavakalelwa kukuba le nkqubo ihambile kwiziseko zayo zokomoya kunye nenjongo ephambili kwaye inokuhlaziywa kwizinga lokungaphumeleli.
Kodwa kukho amaxesha amabini amanqaku kuwo wonke umbandela. Abaveleli beli sayithi bancedise izimvo zabo kule ngxoxo kwibhodi yeendaba. Nazi iziganeko zazo:
Inkululeko Yokukhetha
Lo mhle ulula kum. Ndiyakholwa ukuba le nkcubeko yinto nje ithi: "Imfuneko yodwa kukuba unomnqweno wokuyeka ukusela".
Abanye bengazi okanye bakholelwa ukuba bangotywala kodwa besenqwenela ukuhlala ubomi obungenaswala. Andinakuphikisana nalokhu. Kulabo bazinxilisayo kwaye abanqwenela ukwabelana nentlanganiso kunye nabangekho, iintlanganiso ezivaliweyo ziyafumaneka.
Ngokuqinisekileyo ndiyathemba ukuba nabani na ofuna ukuyeka ukusela baya kuba nenkululeko yokukhetha utywala abangabonakaliyo njengendlela yabo yokuxhasa. Mhlawumbi igama elithi "ubulungu" liyikubamba. Omnye "akayi" ukuba abe ilungu lezoNxila ezingabonakaliyo. Sisenakho inkululeko yokuzikhethela. Simele sihloniphe ifomati "yeentlanganiso ezivaliweyo" ukukhusela isiseko esingokomoya sokungaziwa .
Ndingathanda ukuvala nale nto. Ootata abasungula ii-AA bafunde ngeemvavanyo kunye nephutha. Ndingumdabu wenhliziyo. Ndifuna i-AA ibe apha xa umntu efuna uncedo. Kanye njengoko kwakungenxa yam. Yingakho izithethe zazisungulwa. Ndiya kubakhusela ngokusemandleni akho.
Mbala
Utywala Luyimithi
Ndivakalelwa kukuba imigaqo ifanayo nokuba umxhaphazi usebenzisa kakubi utywala okanye iziyobisi. Ukuba neentlobo zombini zokuxhaphaza ebomini bam, inkqubo ayizange ishintshe. Ngokwenene, utywala yiziyobisi . Andikudibana nomntu onxilisayo onokudlala ngamachiza okanye ngokuphambene.
Akunjalo ukuba ndiye ndijikeleze yonke loo nto ende. Iimvakalelo ziyafana kwaye kunjalo neendlela zokubuyisela ukuba ubiza ngokuba yi-Alanon okanye iNarAnon.
Debbi
Ayikho enye inxulumano
Ndiyilungu elincomekileyo elingu-Al-Anon. Ndiyakholwa ukuba le nkcubeko icacile ... yinto nabani na onomhlobo okanye ilungu losapho onenkathazo yobunxila . Andizange ndive isiluleko sokuba umxhaphazi weziyobisi angavunyelwanga. Andivumelani.
Mhlawumbi umntu ungumxhaphazi kuba abanako ukujamelana nobuntwaba obuhlungu ngenxa yobunxila. Mhlawumbi umntu ungumxhaphazi ukuba abulale intlungu evela kumlingani otywala. Ndicinga ukuba BONKE bamukeleke.
Abantu abambalwa kwiintlanganiso ezijongene nobuso ndiba khona "ngababini abaphindiweyo" kwaye oko kwenza ndiziqhenye.
Kwesinye isigaba sale nkcubeko ... "ngaphandle kokuba bangabandakanyekanga" ... kum kuthetha ukugcina kulula. Ndicinga ukuba ithetha iintlanganiso ezinjengokuthi "abafazi ekubuyiseni" okanye "amaKristu ekubuyiseleni" ... aya kulwa nale nkcubeko kuba kufuneka baqale babambisane namanye amaqela. Yiyo nje ukuchazwa kwam kwale nkcubeko.
Lin
Makhe uThixo enze uMgwebi
Ngethuba lokuqala ku-AA Ndandinxila, ndingazange ndikhohlise iziyobisi (okwangoku). Kodwa kwakukho abantu abaninzi beza ku-AA ngeli xesha ababenengxaki yeziyobisi, kwaye ndisebenzisa ukuthetha ezininzi ezahlukeneyo ngentetho. Ndakuva ukuba behla eofisi yangaphambili esinokuyenza kwaye sinokubanceda.
Ngexesha lesibini e-AA, bulela uThixo abazange banditshile ukuba andingamkelekanga kuba ngoku andingenalo kuphela utywala kodwa ndiphazamisekile iziyobisi njengento embi. Ukuba sonke sisebenza ngamanyathelo angama-12 , ngendlela efanayo, iya kusebenza kumdrakra kanye ngokunjalo kwathiwa ngaphambili, "utywala yiziyobisi."
Andizange ndidibane nomdakamiza ongenaso ingxaki yokusela. Mna ndingeke ndijike i-drugger ebizwa ngokuba yi-drugger, inye enye. Ukuba umntu akahlali e-AA bazilimalela. Ngaba ungabakho kwiprogram yokondla ukuba unomdla?
I-AA ininike izixhobo zokunceda abantu ebomini, kungekhona nje ukuba baNxila okanye i-drugger, kodwa abantu kuzo zonke iindlela zokuphila. Andiyena ijaji ukuguqula nabani na kunini na. Yingakho sivale iintlanganiso. Masivumele uThixo enze isigwebo.