Umgaqo-siseko usijolise ekuqinisekiseni ubunye beqela le-AA
Iintsika ezilishumi elinesibini ziyimigaqo egcina amaqela angama-12 enkxaso, njengama-Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) kunye no-Al-Anon, egxininise emsebenzini wabo oyintloko wobudlelwano. Iikhowudi ezilishumi elinesibini zikhonza njengesikhokelo apho imisebenzi yangaphakathi yazo zonke iinkqubo ezili-12 zisebenza.
Ifilosofi yeshumi elineshumi elinesibini yaqala ukuqala ngo-1939 kunye nokupapashwa kwe "Big Book of Alcoholic Unknown". Le ngcamango yacetyiswa kwiminyaka elandelayo njengoko i-AA yaqhubeka ikhula kwaye kugxininiswa ngakumbi kugcinwe ukulingana phakathi kwezahluko.
Ngomnyaka we-1953, uBill Wilson ongumqambishelana waqulunqa imigaqo encwadini ethi "Amanyathelo Alishumi elinesibini kunye neZithethe ezilishumi elinesibini."
Ukuqonda iMveli
Njengoko izishumi ezilishumi elinesibini zibeka indlela yokomoya yokubuyisela kwamalungu ngamnye, iikhowudi ezilishumi elinesibini zinika imigaqo egcina iqela liphilile kwaye lisisiseko. Oku kulungelelaniswe ngokukodwa kwiNkolelo yokuqala ethi:
"Inhlalakahle yethu efanelekileyo ifanele ifike kuqala; inkqubela yomntu iyaxhomekeka kubumbano lwe-AA."
Umgaqo osisiseko ulula: ukuba iqela lithatyathwa kwimpikiswano okanye lilawulwa ngabantu ngabanye, ubunye beqela liya kuphazamiseka. Oku kunjalo ngokukodwa kumalungu abaziva bexelwe okanye bancitshiswa; ngaba abo banokuthi bahambe okanye bahambe kwinkqubo ngokupheleleyo.
Ukungabikho kunye nesiVumelwano
Injongo yeNkohlakalo enye kukuqinisekisa ukusebenzisana ngelixa lihlonipha onke amazwi kwiingxoxo ezivulekileyo. Zomibini uAA kunye no-Al-Anon zakhiwe ukubonelela ngomntu wonke , kuquka nabo abanemibono encinci.
Njengoko iqela lilungele ukwenza isigqibo, onke macala kufuneka anikwe ithuba lokuthetha ngaphandle kokugweba okanye ukuhleka.
Xa kuthethwa oko, onke amalungu eqela kufuneka avume ukwamukela uluvo oluninzi kwaye basebenzisane kunye nokubeka isigqibo. Oku kunceda ukuthintela ukwahlukana okungekho nje iqela kuphela kodwa ilungu ngalinye leqela.
Ukwabelana ngokukhululeka kweengcamango kubonwa njengempilweni ngokukhawuleza njengoko onke amalungu ezinikele ekukhuseleni izikhokelo zeNkcubeko eyodwa.
Ukusebenzisa Inkolelo Enye KwiBomi Bakho
Abaza kutshanje kwiqela eli-12 baya kubeka ingqwalasela yabo kwiiNqanaba ezilishumi elinesibini baze bahlawule ingqondo engakumbi kwiiNkolelo ezilishumi elinesibini. Ngandlela-thile, kuqondakala ngokupheleleyo. Njengomntu, ufuna ukufikelela ekujoliswe kuyo. Kodwa ngaphandle kokuba uvumelane neenkolelo ezilishumi elinesibini, uhambo lwakho lungaba lukhuni njengoko ubeka "uqobo" kwabanye.
Ekugqibeleni, iiNkolelo ezilishumi elinesibini zinika isiseko apho abantu bangakwazi ukuhamba ngeendlela ezilishumi elinesibini. Zomibini zenzelwe ukukunika isakhelo esiphila kuso ubomi bakho, kungekhona nje ukuyeka ukusela.
Ngaloo ndlela, inkolelo enye ingasetyenziswa kwintsapho yakho ngokubanzi kwiqela lakho. Ngokubeka iminqweno yokuqala yentsapho yakho, unokufezekisa ngakumbi kwaye uzuze kwinkxaso enxulumene. Oku kufuna ukuba ilungu ngalinye lentsapho live, ukuba izimvo zabo zihlonishwe, kwaye oko kuvunyelwene ukuba ngaba wena okanye nawuphi na umntu kwintsapho akavumelani ngokupheleleyo.
Ukuphila kule migaqo kuthatha umsebenzi nokuzinikezela, kodwa kunjalo nokuba yinxalenye ye-AA. Njengazo zonke iiprogram ze-12-nyathelo, uhambo luqala ngesinyathelo sokuqala.