Indlela Yokushiya Ingxoxo Xa Unenkxalabo Yezenhlalakahle

Abantu abanenkxalabo yentlalo maxa wambi banenkathazo yokushiya ingxoxo .

Ezinye zeengxaki onokuzifumana ziquka

• Ukuhamba ngokukhawuleza ngenxa yokuxhalaba okukhulu
• Ukuhlala ixesha elide kunokuba ufuna ukungazi ukuba uzithethelela njani
• Ngokuqhelekileyo uzive uxhalabile malunga nokuziphatha okubandakanyekayo ekushiye incoko

Ukukwazi ukushiya ingxoxo ngamanye amaxesha kunokubaluleka nje ngokuba ukwazi ukujoyina enye .

Ezinye zezizathu onokufuna ukushiya incoko zingabandakanya

• Ufuna ukuzithethelela ukuthetha nomnye umntu
• Ufuna ukubaleka kumntu onobungangamsha
• Ukufanelekela ukusebenzisa indlu yokuhlambela okanye ukuqhubela kwenye into
• Ukufuna ukunqwenela ngomlomo intetho ephosakeleyo

Kukho izicwangciso ezininzi apho ungafumana khona kwingxoxo kuquka

• Umsebenzi okanye izikolo zesikolo
• Amaqela
• Imihlangano engaqhelekanga
• Iintlanganiso zeNgxaki kunye nabaqhelana nabo
• Ingxoxo yefoni

Ngezantsi zi nyathelo zokushiya ngempumelelo intetho.

Indlela Yokushiya Ingxoxo

1. Okokuqala, qhafaza ngokwenyama kwiqela okanye ngamnye . Zijike ngokukhawuleza uze uqale ukutsala ngelixa uphulaphula oko kutshiwoyo. Sukuma ukuba uhleli phantsi uze usebenzise iimpendulo ezimfutshane kwizinto ezithethwa.
2. Lindela ukuphuka kwingxoxo uze unike isizathu sakho sokushiya . Uhambo oluya kwigumbi lokuhlambela okanye ukufumana esinye isiselo zizathu ezilungileyo ukuba unesizathu esithile sokuhamba.

1. Ukuze utshintshe ngokulula ukushiya, ungaphula ngokusisishwankathelo oko kukhankanywe nje ngaphambi kokuba usho ukuba uhamba. Umzekelo, ungathi "Uvakala ngathi unalohambo olumangalisayo! Ndingathanda ukubona iifoto ngokukhawuleza. Ngelishwa, ndinomhla wokugqibela ozayo kwaye kufuneka ndibuyele emsebenzini."

1. Jikela kwaye ushiye. Ungalindeli ukuba ubani akunike imvume kwaye ungakhangeli emva kokuba ushiye.

Yintoni ongayithethayo

Mhlawumbi unesibambiso kumanyathelo okuphelisa intetho kodwa ayikaqinisekanga ukuba uthetha ukuthini. Ngezantsi kukho imizekelo yento onokuyithetha ukuphelisa intetho.

"Ndimele ndihambe, kodwa ukuthetha kuhle."

"Ewe, ndiya kukuvumela ukuba ubuyele ekuthengeni kwakho."

"Ukuthetha ngokukhululekile nawe! Ndizakuzama ukumbamba uDave ngaphambi kokuya ekhaya."

"Siyabonga ngengxoxo. Thetha kungekudala" (kwifowuni)

"Ndiza kuxolela ukuba ndisebenzise indlu yangasese. Mhlawumbi siyakwazi ukuthetha kamva?"

Iingcebiso

1. Musa ukuziva kakubi ngokushiya intetho. Omnye kufuneka akwenze okokugqibela, kwaye xa senziwa ngokufanelekileyo akukho mva kalelo.
2. Kwimimiselo yezoshishino, yenza izicwangciso zekhonkrithi malunga nokuba uya kudibanisa ukuba kulungile kwaye ugubungula izandla ngaphambi kokuba uhambe.
3. Ukuba ufuna ukuhamba ngenxa yento enye umntu athethayo, cinga ukuthatha inkokhelo . Buza imibuzo ekhokelela kwezinye iindawo zentetho. Ukuba uhlala kwiqela, abanye banokukhululeka ukuba umntu utshintshe isihloko.
4. Ngokubanzi, kunceda ukuba neengcamango zokuba iingxoxo ezinde zihlala zihlala phi. Ngethuba u kuthetha nomhlobo omhle unokuqhubeka iiyure, ezininzi iingxoxo nabantu ongaziyo ziza kudlula ngaphantsi kwemizuzu eyi-10. Musa ukuziva kakubi malunga nokuhamba.

1. Ukuba ubambelele kwincoko yomntu oyedwa, cinga ukuzisa loo mntu komnye umntu ngethemba lokuba baya kulibetha.
2. Ngamanye amaxesha kulungile ukuba "umoya" okanye nje ushiye intetho ngokuthula ngaphandle kokuthetha nantoni na. Oku kusebenza kwisicwangciso seqela kunye nenani elikhulu labantu.

Uphando malunga nokukhathazeka kweNtlalo kunye neNcoko

Ngophando luka-2015 lweengxoxo zabantu abaxhalabileyo kwintlalo, kwaboniswa ukuba ukungaphumeleli kwintsebenziswano ehlangene kwabangela ukuba bathande kakhulu. Ithetha ntoni le nto?

Ngokwenene, abantu abanexhala lezenzo zentlalo banamathele ekuncokola, ngokukodwa ngokungabandakanyeki kwingxoxo xa omnye umntu exelela ibali.

Nangona ufumanisa ukuba uhamba ukusuka ekuhlanganisweni kwentlalontle, zama ukuzithoba phantsi ngaphambi kokuba uphume. Yiba nomdla ngokwenene kulowo mntu uthethe omnye umntu. Buza imibuzo, xelela amabali anxulumene nawe ngokwakho, kwaye ufumane indawo efanayo nomnye umntu.

> Umthombo:

_{Mein C, Fay N, Page AC. Iintsilelo kwizenzo ezidibeneyo zichaza ukuba kutheni abantu abaxhalabileyo bathandwa kakhulu. J Behav Ther Exp Psychiatry 2015; 6 (50): 147-151. i-doi: 10.1016 / j.jbtep.2015.07.001}