Ukuvalelwa Ngxamisekileyo nokuzibophezela koxinzelelo olukhulu
Ngaba unokuzibophezela kwiwadi yesifo sengqondo kwisibhedlele okanye kwisibhedlele sengqondo ngokuphathelele ukuthanda kwakho? Kuthekani ukuba uziva uzibulala? Yintoni omele uyayizi malunga nokuvalelwa kwexesha elifutshane kunye nokuzinikela kwexesha elide?
Ngaba Unokuze Uzinikezele kwiWadi yeeNgqondo okanye kwiSibhedlele Zengqondo?
Impendulo kukuba unokuzibophelela esibhedlele sengqondo ngokuphathelele ukuthanda kwakho xa uhlangabezana neendlela ezichazwe ngumbuso ohlala kuyo.
Imigaqo echanekileyo iyahluka, kodwa iquka oko kufuneka ukuba ubonise ingozi, nokuba wena okanye abanye, ngaphambi kokuba uzinikele.
Iimpawu eziza kuqhutywa (ngokuqhelekileyo, ixesha elifutshane)
Nangona inkqubo echanekileyo yokuzibophelela iyahluka ukusuka kwilizwe ukuya kwilizwe, urhulumente ngamnye unenkqubo ekhuselekileyo ekukhuselweni ngaphandle kwesizathu, njengeemfuno zesitifiketi sezokwelapha okanye imvume yemvume. Kukho imida ekukhawuleza ukuba ungabanjwa ngokuthandana nentando yakho.
Ngubani onokuqalisa inkqubo yokuzibandakanya kwakho kwaye iyahlukahluka ukusuka kummandla ukuya kwilizwe, kwaye kuxhomekeka kukuphi uhlobo lokuzibophezela olufunwayo (jonga ngezantsi).
Kubalulekile ukuqaphela ukuba kukho ukumahluko omkhulu phakathi kokugcinwa kwexesha eliphuthumayo-ukumisela umntu ixesha elifutshane kunye nexesha elide lokuzibophezela.
Ngaba Unokuyenza Ukuba Uyazibulala?
Ukuba uvakalelwa ukuzibulala kwaye ukholelwa ukuba usengozini yokuzilimaza ngokwakho, oku kuya kuwela phantsi kwe-ambulera yezizathu zokuzinikela kwexesha elifutshane okanye " ukufakela izibhedlele ngokuzibandakanya ."
Enye imigaqo enokuthi ithathelwe ingqalelo iquka ukuba unako ukuzikhathalela nokuba unesifo sokwalugula kwengqondo yakho.
Amanye amazwe awadingi ukuba umntu abe seengozini yokuzilimaza yena okanye abanye, kwaye ukulaliswa kwezibhedlele ezingabonakaliyo kunokuqwalaselwa ukuba umntu uyala unyango olufunekayo lokugula ngengqondo.
Inkcazo yesifo sengqondo iyahlukahluka ukusuka kwiphondo ukuya kwilizwe.
Ukuvalelwa ngokukhawuleza: Ngubani ongenza isicelo?
Ukuvalelwa kwimeko engxamisekileyo, njengokuba kunokuba kuyimfuneko imeko apho uzenze uzame ukuzilimaza, ngokubanzi unokucelwa nguwuphi na oye wabona ubungqina bokuba ukhona, njengabahlobo, intsapho okanye amapolisa. Nangona phantse nabani na onokuqalisa inkqubo, amaninzi amazwe afuna ukuhlolwa kwezonyango okanye imvume yamaphepha enkundleni ukuze kuqinisekiswe ukuba udibana nenqobo yelizwe.
Iimpawu zokukhawuleza zisoloko zikhawulelwe kwiintsuku ezi-3 ukuya kwe-5, nangona zingatshintsha ukusuka naphi na phakathi kweeyure ezingama-24 kunye neentsuku ezingama-20 kuxhomekeke kwimeko ohlala kuyo.
Ingaba umntu oye wazinikezela unyango?
Nangona umntu sele eboshwe entolongweni, oko akuthethi ukuba baya kunyanzelwa ukuba baphathe unyango, ngaphandle kwezonyango ezifunekayo kwimeko engxamisekileyo eyenzelwe ukuzinzisa okanye ukuzinzisa imeko yonyango. Oku akubandakanyi imishanguzo yokuphatha ngokuthe ngqo ukugula kwengqondo (njengokunika abadandatheliyo .) Ukuze wenze umntu athathe unyango lokugula kwengqondo okanye unyango lwakhe, lowo mntu uya kufuneka axelelwe engakwazi ukwenza izigqibo-ezahlukileyo Inkqubo evela kwixesha elifutshane lokuzinikela.
Izibophelelo ezide
Izibophelelo zexesha elide ixesha elininzi ziba neemfuneko ezingqongqo ngaphezu kokugcinwa kwexesha elikhawulezileyo, kodwa kwakhona zixesha elilinganiselwe ixesha kwaye alinakwandiswa ngaphandle kwenkqubo elandelwayo. Ngokuqhelekileyo, ubude bexesha elide lokuzibophelela kwexesha elide liinyanga ezintandathu, emva koko kufuneka kuphinde kuhlaziywe kwakhona ngaphambi kokuzinikela.
Ukuze ufunde kabanzi malunga nemithetho yakho yelizwe ngokuphathelele ukuzibophezela ngokuzibandakanya, kunokukunceda ukubonisana neZiko loLondolozo lweZonyango, elibonelela ngokuhlaziywa ngurhulumente ngemimiselo efanelekileyo.
Izibhedlele kwiNkcitho
Ingxoxo malunga nokuba ingaba ungeke uzinikezele ngenxa yokuxinezeleka nokuzibulala kungayi kuzaliswa ngaphandle kokuthetha into eyenzekayo xa umntu ekhulelwe esibhedlele ngenxa yokudandatheka.
Xa uthetha nje ngoku "ukuzinikela" kunokuva ngathi kufana nesigwebo sentolongweni, kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo, xa ukuzinikela kuthathwa njengenjongo yokunceda umntu, kungekhona ukukhawulela amalungelo abo njengabantu. Akusiyo isohlwayo, kodwa kunoko, ngokuqhelekileyo kubonisa imfesane kunye nokunyamekela inxalenye yomntu othetha ngokukhawuleza ukufumanisa. Ngokuqinisekileyo, oku akunjalo ngaso sonke isikhathi, kwaye yilapho ukubandakanyeka kobugcisa bezonyango okanye imvume yokugweba kubalulekile.
Ukudakumba okukhulu , ngelishwa, kuninzi kakhulu. Ukubhedlelelwa esibhedlele ngenxa yokudandatheka kungaba yinqanaba elifanelekileyo lokufumana uncedo ngaphambi kokuba wenze izigqibo ozozisola ngazo emva koko. Nangona esesibhedlele, umntu ocinezelekileyo uya kuba nethuba lokudibana nomfo wezifo zengqondo okanye wengqondo yengqondo, unontlalontle, kwaye athathe inxaxheba kumntu ngamnye kunye / okanye unyango lweqela .
Kungenzeka ukuba ezi zonyango zibangelwa ukuba ukugcinwa ngxamisekileyo kwabantu abanesifo esibi sengqondo kudibene nesantya sokufa esiphantsi (ukufa okumbalwa) kunye nokuphucula umgangatho wobomi kwabo bazinikeleyo.
Ngaphantsi kwexesha elifutshane elizibophezelekileyo lokuzibulala
Okona kuninzi, amalungu omndeni, abahlobo, okanye amapolisa angancoma ukugcinwa kokukhawuleza kwexesha elifutshane (ukuzibophezela) kumntu osemngciphekweni wokulimaza abanye okanye yena ngokwakhe xa efuna ukuzibulala. Iimfuno ezichanekileyo, nangona kunjalo, ziyahluka ukusuka kummandla ukuya kwilizwe, njengokuba isixa sithuba umntu angenziwa ngaso. Ukuthintela ukuzinikela ngaphandle kwesizathu (njengokuba kunjalo nakwezinye iimeko,) nokuba uluvo lwengcali yezobugqirha okanye imvume yokugweba imfuneko kaninzi.
Izibophelelo ezinde ziyimigaqo eyahlukileyo eneemfuneko ezingqongqo.
Nangona umntu ezinikezela ixesha elifutshane, kaninzi banelungelo lokulahla unyango (njengemithi yeengxaki zengqondo) ngaphandle kwezinto ezifunekayo ukuzolalisa umntu okanye unyango lweemeko zonyango.
Nangona ukuzinikela kokuxakeka kwimeko engxamisekileyo kunokuvakala kakhulu, injongo kukuvumela umntu ongaphili kakuhle ukugula kwengqondo ukuze afumane uncedo olufunekayo ukuze adlule ingxaki.
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