Uyayamkela njani isiqinisekiso?

Ukuba uhlala neengxaki zentlalo yoluntu (SAD) , mhlawumbi unenkathazo yokwamkela ngokufanelekileyo kunye nokunika uncomelo .

Ukuba umntu uthetha ngento entle ngawe, ukuthambekela kwakho mhlawumbi kungavumi kwaye kuphazamise uphawu oluhle. Umzekelo, ukuba umntu osebenza naye uxelela ukuba wenze umsebenzi omuhle kwiprojekthi, ungaphendula ngokuthi "Ewe, nabani na onokuyenza into endiyenzayo."

Ezi ntlobo zempendulo zisebenzela ukuqhubela phambili ukuzithemba. Ngokwenene, uthetha ukuba awuxabisi umsebenzi wakho, ukubonakala kwakho, ikhaya lakho-okanye nayiphi na into oyifumayo.

Indlela yokuphendula kwiincoma

Amanyathelo amane okwamkela ukuncoma anjengale ndlela:

1. Yibonge. Ndiyabulela ngokwaneleyo, nokuba awukwazi ukucinga nantoni na enye into yokuthetha. Zama ukuyeka ixesha elide ngaphambi kokubonga okanye ukunyaniseka kwakho.
2. Ukuba unokucinga ngenye, faka amazwana angenayo , njengokuthi, "Ndibeka umzamo omkhulu kule projekthi," okanye, "Ndichitha ixesha elide ndikhetha icebo lombala kule gumbi."
3. Xa kunokwenzeka, buyela ukunconywa ngamazwana afana nawo, "Ndiyayixabisa ngokwenene ukuba kuza kuwe ngenxa yokuba ndiyihlonela kakhulu umbono wakho."
4. Ukuthabatha inyathelo elingaphambili, sebenzisa ingxoxo engxoxo njengokuba "Ndiyithetha ukuba ndibuze indlela onokusingatha ngayo ..." okanye "Ndandifuna ukubuza umbono wakho malunga ..."

Sample Scenario

USara uya kwiqela leholide kwiofisi yakhe entsha. Ukuze ulungele umcimbi, wenza ukuqesha kwi-salon yeenwele kwaye uyaqiniseka ukuba uzama isitayela esitsha. Isiphumo-yena ngokwenene uvakalelwa kakuhle ngendlela ajonga ngayo naphezu kokuxhalaba kwakhe malunga nokuya kwesi siganeko.

Nangona kunjalo, njengoko ehamba emcimbini, umntu osebenza naye uyamthobela kwaye ngokukhawuleza uthi, "Ndiyayithanda i-hairstyle yakho entsha!" Exutywe ngqalelo, uJessica uyayeka kwaye ekugqibeleni uyaphendule, "Ucinga ukuba kunjalo? Andiqinisekanga ukuba ndiza kukugcina ngale ndlela"

Kuba bantu abane-SAD, iziganeko ezinjengezi ngasentla mhlawumbi azikude nakwiqiniso. Ukuba unomdla wokuphendula kakubi ukuncoma, kuya kuthatha isenzo ukufunda indlela engcono yokusabela ngayo.

USara wayenokuphendula njani ngendlela engcono kumlingane wakhe? Into efana nale ndelayo yayiza kubonisa ububele kumniki oncomekayo kwaye yanceda ekwandiseni ukuzithemba kukaSara ngexesha elifanayo:

"Ndiyabulela, ndiyathanda kakhulu isitayela-ndandisenza oko. Ndiyabuxabisa kakhulu ukuncoma okuvela kuwe, iinwele zakho zihlala zibukeka zimangalisa."

Kuthekani ukuba ufuna ukuqhuba incoko ngakumbi? Wayenokongeza into elandelayo:

"Ndaya kwi-Hair Station yedolophu. Yintoni oya kuyo?"

Ukuncoma kungabakho iindlela zokuqala iingxoxo. Ukuba umntu ekunika uncomelo, lo luphawu oluhle kakhulu lokuba ufuna ukwazi kangcono kwaye uya kwamkela intetho evulekileyo njengaleyo ngasentla.

Ukuncoma kunye neNkxalabo yokuXhalabisa kweNtlalo

Ukuba uxhalaba lwakho lwentlalo lufumana indlela yokunikezela okanye ukufumana ukunconywa, kunokufanelekile ukuthetha nengcali yezempilo yengqondo ukuze ubone ukuba ukuxhalabisa kunokukuthintela ekubeni uthathe inxaxheba kule ntsebenziswano ebalulekileyo yentlalo.

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