Ukujongana Nokuxhalabisa Ngexesha Leholide
Ixesha leholide ngokuqhelekileyo licingwa njengexesha lovuyo nothando, kodwa kuba abantu abaninzi kakhulu, lixesha lokulondeka. Abanye abantu bahlala kude neentsapho kwaye balahlekelwa ukubona abo bathandekayo ngeli xesha lonyaka; abanye besaba ukuya kwimibhiyozo yeeholide kunye noNyaka woNyaka woNyaka kaNyaka ngaphandle komlingani kwaye ugqiba ukuhlala ekhaya. Kuqhelekile ukuba abantu bazive bebantwini beemvakalelo zabo, banesizungu nangona bahlala kwigumbi elizele abantu.
Kulabo baziva banesizungu ngexesha leeholide, eli xesha lonyaka linokuba yinkxalabo yoxinzelelo. Ukuba unesizungu esichazela uxinzelelo ngexesha leeholide - okanye ngexesha leeholide eziwela kwamanye amaxesha omnyaka, njengoSuku lukaValentine okanye kwiSuku loKumela, ezi zilandelayo zinokukunceda.
Ziba Zizilungele
Ngoxa le nto ingasayi kucima ngokupheleleyo imvakalelo yedwa, ukuzinyamekela ngokukhethekileyo kunokukunceda uzive ungcono kwaye ujabulele ngokwakho. Ingaba uthabatha uhlambe kwaye uzinikele unyango lwe-spa, ulungele iincwadi ezintle, ujonge umdlalo , okanye ufunde into entsha , uthathe ixesha lokwenza izinto eziza kuphucula ukuzithoba kwakho okanye ubuncinci kukunike umlinganiselo omnandi wokuzonwabisa kungekuphela nje ukuthatha ingqwalaselo yakho kwindlela ozizwa ngayo yodwa, kodwa inokuphakamisa imimoya yakho.
Qonda ukuba awunjalo
Ngelixa unokuba uzive wedwa ebomini bakho ngoku, ukwazi ukuba iiholide zibe yithuba elincinci kubantu abaninzi banokukunceda uzive ungaphantsi.
(Enyanisweni, kwi-poll kule ndawo, ngaphezu kwesiqingatha sabaphenduli bathi "ngokuqhelekileyo" baziva banesizungu phezu kweeholide, kwaye kuphela ipesenti encinci bathi "akalokothi" benze!) Abantu abaninzi banqwenela ukuba babe kunye nosapho, kodwa '; abanye bayalila ubuhlobo kunye nosapho abanqwenela ukuba nabo, ukuba babone abanye bevuya ngexesha leeholide.
Ngokufanayo, abantu abaninzi banqwenela ukunxibelelana ngokusondeleyo nabahlobo, okanye banqwenela ukuxhasana, kwaye bafumane beziva bexakeke ngexesha leeholide. Nangona kungenakukhathazeka ukuziva unesizungu, kulungile ukuvakalelwa ngale ndlela. Ukuthetha nabanye abangabelana nabo ngeemvakalelo zakho (mhlawumbi nge-intanethi okanye ebomini boqobo) kunokukunceda uzive wedwa kwimeko yakho.
Rethink Your Expects
Inxalenye yokokuba iiholide zithandwa ngakumbi ngabantu abaninzi kukuba uluntu lwethu ulindelwe kakhulu kulo nyaka. Ukungabikho komlingane ongathandanayo okanye osapho olusondeleyo kubonakala kungenakukhathazeka ngaphezu kwexesha elilindelekileyo lezenzo zoluntu xa sonke sifanele sihambe kwimibutho kwaye sitshintshana izipho kwaye sinandipha xa sivakalelwa ngabathandekayo. Enye indlela yokujongana nemvakalelo yedwa kukuba uphinde ucinge ngezinto ozilindeleyo. Qaphela ukuba abantu abambalwa abaphila ngokwenene bafikelela "kwimilinganiselo ye-movie" yokuphila okugqibeleleyo, kwaye utshintshe ukugxila kwakho kuzo zonke izinto ezinokubakho ebomini bakho. (Imithombo yeendaba yoluntu inokudala ubuninzi bexinzelelo kule ndawo; nantsi indlela yokuhlangabezana nayo .) Ukuqonda ukuba kuhle ukuthabatha umhlobo omhle (esikhundleni sokuba 'umhla ogqibeleleyo') kwiqela leeholide, okanye ukuba uthando oluphosakeleyo Ilungu lentsapho elunzima lisaba lufana nothando, luncede abantu abaninzi bancumo.
Qhagamshelana
Njengoko kuthethwe ngaye ngaphambili, kunokwenzeka ukuba uzive unesizungu xa ujikelezwe ngabantu, kodwa kunzima ukuziva unesizungu xa ufikelela kubo. Ingaba utsho ubumnandi kubamelwane udla ngokukhawuleza ukuvuma, ukutshintshana amagama anobungane nabantu eofisini, okanye ukuthabatha ifowuni nokubiza umhlobo omdala ongeyathethanga kwithuba elithile, ufikelela kubantu kunye nokuqiniswa kweekhonkco kunokukunceda uzive unxibelelene kwaye uncinci. Le nto ingabakho ixesha lokuthumela abantu ngomyalezo kwizentlalo zentlalo apho imimiselo odla ngoku "thandayo," kwaye ubambe ubungqina obudala.
Eli nqaku lininzi malunga nokudibana nabantu kunye nokudala isangqa sohlobo .
Hlakulela Ukubulela
Kukho iintlobo ezininzi ezinokufikelela kumbulelo . Enye i-antidote elula kwiimvakalelo zokungabi nalutho kukuhlakulela iimvakalelo zokubonga ngezinto osube nazo; Kunzima ukugxila kokubili kwangoko. Ukuba uvakalelwa ukungabi nothando ebomini bakho, yenza umzamo oqingqiweyo wokugxila kwintando onayo - kubangane, intsapho, abamelwane, kunye nezilwanyana. Ungagxininisa kwizinto ozixabisa kakhulu ebomini bakho, njengomsebenzi wakho, izinto ezithandwa nguwe, okanye nokuba nakho kwakho. Ukugcina iphepha lokubonga lingaba ngumsebenzi omangalisayo ekuhlakuleleni isimo sengqondo sokubulela, kwaye unokukushiya irekhodi ebhaliweyo yezinto zonke onokuzixabisa ebomini bakho, ukufunda xa uziva uhla.
Nika abanye
Enye indlela ekhethekileyo yokuziva ukhululekile ngexesha leeholide ukunikela ixesha lakho kwizathu okholelwa kuyo. Ukunceda abanye abanenhlanhla kunokuba banokukuzalisa ngeemvakalelo zothando kunye nokuzikhukhumeza, bakhumbuze konke okufuneka nibulele , kunye nokudibanisa nabanye abanokwabelwano lwakho. Uya kuba yinxalenye yento enkulu kunawe, kwaye uya kuzibhaptiza emoyeni wenyaniso yexesha leeholide.
Hlola iimvakalelo zakho
Oku mhlawumbi akusayi kukuziva ulungele ngokukhawuleza, kodwa ukuba unesizungu ixesha elininzi, le nto ingabangela ukuba utshintsho oluthile lukulungele unyaka ozayo. Unokufuna ukuhlolisisa oko kukubangela ukuba uzive unesizungu, mhlawumbi ngokwakho okanye ngoncedo lomgqirha. Ngaba uya kuzuza ngokubeka ixesha elongezelelekileyo kwimpilo yakho yentlalo ukuze ube nolwalamano olunamandla? Ngaba into ephakathi kwakho yenza ukuba ugcine abantu kude? Ukuba unqwenela ukwandisa ubuhlobo bakho, kunokuhlawula ixesha elithile kunye namandla, kodwa ukufumana inkxaso kukunyusa inkxaso kunye neemvakalelo zokuva nokuva. Ukwenza ixesha lokuba ngabahlobo, ukuphulaphula ngokwenene xa abahlobo bakho bethetha, kwaye kuba khona kuzo zonke iindlela zokwakha ubuhlobo obuxhasayo. Eli nqaku lininzi malunga nendlela yokwenza ubuhlobo bakho buxhase ngakumbi . Ukuba uziva uxinzelelwe yimvakalelo yedwa okanye uzive unyaka wonke kwaye ufumene nzima ukujamelana nayo, unokuthetha nochwepheshe malunga nendlela ozizwa ngayo; oku kunokuba luncedo kunokuba abantu balindele.