Ukuxhaphaza kakubi ukushiya okokuqala okubi. Nangona kunokwenzeka ukunqoba ukuqala kokuqala kakubi, kulula ukufunda indlela yokuphepha iimpazamo eziqhelekileyo abantu abazenzayo xa bezandla. Ngezantsi zizona ezilishumi eziphezulu "izandla ezimbi" kunye neengcebiso malunga nendlela yokuzilungisa.
Handshake
Ukubeka isandla sakho phantsi xa unikela umntu isandla sakho indlela yokubonisa ukubusa .
Ngokubeka isandla sakho phantsi, unyanzela omnye umntu ukuba abeke isandla sakhe, esimo sithobela. Nangona i-handshake ehamba phambili ingafanelekile kwezinye iimeko, kwiimeko zemihla ngemihla kufuneka zikhunjulwe.
Ukuba ufumana ummkeli wesandla sokubamba isandla, kukho ukulungiswa okulula ongakwenza. Thatha isinyathelo ngakwesobunxele sakho, kwaye iya kubangela ukuba izandla zakho zombini zilungele, ngokuhlwa kusile.
I-Bone Crusher
Ngaphandle kwemizila efanayo kunye nokuxhaphaza ngokubambisene ne-bone crusher. Ukuba uke waba ngummkeli wesandla esichukumisayo, uyazi ukuba akusiyo into ehlekayo. Ukubamba ngesandla akumele kube nzima kunokuba amandla onokuyisebenzisa ukubamba umnyango. Ukongeza, kufuneka uqhathanise ukuphatha kwakho umntu odibanisa naye. Abantu abadala bafuna ukunyaniseka.
Ukuba uhlale unamathele kwisandla sokubamba isandla, into engcono ukuyenza yenze ingxelo efana ne "wow, yinto enjalo." Kwiimeko ezininzi, umntu uya kubuyela.
Fish Fish
Ngomnye umgca weembonakaliso kwi-tissus crusher yintlanzi ehlambulukileyo. Isalathisi sokubamba isandla ngesandla somnye umntu onokukhathazeka, ongaqinisekanga, okanye ongavumiyo. Ukuxhamla isandla kungabangela ingozi kumsebenzi wakho. Ukuba awuqinisekanga ukuba ukuxhaphaza isandla sakho kuhlambulukile, cela ukuba usebenze kunye nabahlobo abambalwa uze ufike ngokufanelekileyo.
Iminwe kuphela
Okubi nakakhulu kunokuba ukuxhaphaza ukuxhaphaza kwinto enokuthi udibanise kuphela iminwe yomnye. Ukuze ugweme ukuwela kulo mgibe, qiniseka ukuba inxalenye yewebhu yezandla zakho phakathi kwe-forefinger yakho kunye nesithupha uyathinta ngaphambi kokuba uqonde isandla somnye umntu.
I-cold, i-Clammy, okanye i-Sweaty
Ukuba unomdla malunga neentetho, unokuphelisa ngezandla ezibandayo, i-clammy, okanye i-sweaty kwiimeko zoluntu. Nangona kunokuvakalelwa ngathi imeko ayikho kulawulo lwakho, kukho amanyathelo onokuthatha ukuze uzame kwaye unciphise impembelelo.
Gcina ithawula yesikhwama kwi-pocket yakho ukuze usule ama-sweaty palm (ubulumko xa ufumana ithuba). Gwema ukuphatha isiselo esishushu esandleni sakho sokunene xa uyazi ukuba uya kudibana nabantu. Ukuba izandla zakho zihlala zibandayo, zifudumise ngepakethi yentsholongwane okanye kushushu omoya oshisayo kwindawo yokugcina.
I-Double-Handed
Nangona kukho iziganeko apho ukutshintshwa kwesandla ngokuphindwe kabini kufanelekileyo, ukuba kusetyenziswe nomntu oye wadibana nayo kunokubonakala kubomntu okanye umntu osondelene naye. Ngaphandle kokuba ungumpolitiki okanye ugogo, mhlawumbi kukulungele ukugcina isandla sokubambisa ngokuphindaphindiweyo ngabahlobo abasondeleyo.
Ixesha elide
Mhlawumbi uye waba nesandla sokubamba isandla eside.
Kungekude emva kokuba izethulo zivela komnye umntu usasaza isandla sakho phezulu nangaphantsi. Ukubambisana ngokukhawuleza kwamandla kuthatha imizuzwana engu-2-3 kwaye ayihambi ixesha elide kunokusungulwa kwezivakalisi. Naluphi na ixesha elide, kwaye kunokubonakala ngathi unobambe izandla.
Akukho Lwathiso Lamehlo
Ngaba uye wanamathela izandla umntu ongeke akhangele kuwe kwiso? Mhlawumbi wazibuza ukuba bekufuneka bafihle ntoni. Ukungaboni ngaso linye ngethuba lokutshatyalaliswa kwesandla komnye umntu ongekhoyo. Ukuba ukungabikho kokuthintana kwamehlo kungenxa yokukhathazeka kwentlalo , qhelanisa ukujonga indawo phakathi kwamehlo, ukwenzela ukuba ubuncinane ubone ukubonana nomnye umntu.
Miss
"Ukuphosoka" yinto yokubambisana ngokuthe ngandlela-thile ayihlangani ngokuthe ngqo. Mhlawumbi wahamba ukuxhaphaza izandla kodwa wagcina ugubha iminwe. Mhlawumbi udibanisa izandla kwaye awukwazi ukulinda ukukhupha isandla sakho. Naliphi na ingxaki ngesandla sokubambisana, yazi ukuba omnye umntu uvakalelwa nje ngoxanduva lokuba "uphoswe", kwaye oko kungenxa yengozi.
Kuseondele kakhulu
Ukufana nokubamba ngesandla kunye ne-bone crusher, ukuxhaphaza kakhulu "kufutshane" kubandakanya omnye umntu oza kusondele kakhulu kuwe ukuba adibanise izandla, okanye akudonse ngokusondeleyo njengoko udibanisa izandla. Kwimeko nayiphi na imeko, ukutshatyalaliswa kwesandla sokubamba isandla kungenza uzive ungakhululekile.
Ukulungiswa? Yenza isinyathelo emva koko. Ngaphandle kokuba omnye umntu enakho kwi-vice, kufuneka ukwazi ukufumana indawo yakho.
Iingcamango Zokuvala
Ekugqibeleni, ukwazi indlela yokuxhaphaza izandla ngokufanelekileyo isakhono esidinga ukwenza. Gubungula izandla xa unethuba, kwaye ngokuhamba kwesikhathi kuya kuba yinto yesibini ngokuthi "siyabonga".
Xa zonke izinto zingaphumeleli kwaye ufumana ukunikela ngokubambisana kakubi, kufuneka uyenze ntoni? Qhubeka. Zama ukuphazamisa omnye umntu ngombuzo okanye ukuncoma. Nangona unokwenza umboniso wokuqala kuqala, ngokuqhelekileyo kukho ixesha elininzi lokwenza into embi.