Iinjongo zokubeka iinjongo zoNyaka omtsha okanye nayiphi na ixesha
Unyaka wonke, izihlwele zabantu-mhlawumbi nawe-ukhethe uluhlu lwezigqibo malunga nonyaka ozayo. Ngokuqhelekileyo, le miqobo baya kuzama ukwenza imihla ngemihla, okanye imikhwa abaya kuzama ukuyikhusela ixesha elide njengoko banako. Ngelishwa, ezininzi zezi zigqibo zikhohliwe ngoMatshi. Isizathu esibalulekileyo salokhu kukuba kulukhuni ukuhlakulela okanye ukukhanyela imikhosi ebandayo '.
Ngelixa umgudu wokwenza isisombululo kubonisa ukucinga okulungileyo, enye indlela engcono kukuphuhlisa iinjongo ezintsha zekamva. Kwaye kunceda usebenze kubo njengenkqubo ehamba phambili kunokuba ulindele ukutshintsha ngokukhawuleza. Iinjongo zicwangciso olungcono kunezigqibo ngezizathu ezimbalwa ezibalulekileyo:
I-Rigid vs. Fluid:
Izigqibo zihlala zifanayo: "Ndiya kulala ngethuba lokuqala." "Ndiyayeka ukutya ukutya okungenanto." "Ndiya kwidloni rhoqo nangona andihambi ngoku ngoku." Ukuba ezi zigugu kakhulu , kunokuziva ngathi utshintsho olukhulu ngaphandle kwesikhala. Noko ke, iinjongo zinokubanjelwa kumanyathelo, ukuqala ngamanyathelo omntwana kwaye ukwandisa ubunzima njengoko ujwayele ukutshintsha. Oku kwenza iinjongo zinengqiqo yokuguquka ngonaphakade .
Intsingiselo yokufezekisa ngokubhekiselele kwiSense of Failure:
Iinjongo zikunika isiluleko ukuba unqwenele ukuzenza, kodwa kunye namanqanaba omntwana onokuyithatha ukuya kwinjongo yakho, usenokuziva uyenzile into kwaye uhamba ngendlela elungileyo, okuya kukugcina uhamba lathiso olufanelekileyo.
Xa usuqhelile isisombululo esinzima, kunjalo, kulula ukuba uzive ungaphumeleli kwaye ushiye.
Ubume beShintsho:
Izigqibo ngokuqhelekileyo zindlela zokufikelela kwinjongo, kodwa ukuba ufumana isigqibo esinzima ukunamathela kuso, ngokuqhelekileyo ihlaselwa kwaye ilibalekile. Ngeenjongo, ukuba ufumanisa utshintsho olucwangcisiweyo olunzima ukuyenza, unokulungisa utshintsho kwisigxina esincinane, okanye usilahle eso sicwangciso kodwa ukhethe indlela entsha yokuziphatha ukuze uzame oko kuya kuqhubela kwisiphumo esifanayo, kwaye ungaphumeleli ukubona umgomo.
Umzekelo, cinga ukuba ufuna ukungena kumkhwa wokuzivocavoca ukuba ube bhetele. Unokwenza isisombululo ukuya kwindawo yokuzivocavoca ezintlanu ngeveki. Kodwa ukuba ufumanisa ukuba uyayithiya i-gym, mhlawumbi ngeke unamathele kwisigqibo sakho, kwaye awuyi kuba kufuphi nomgomo wakho. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba wenza 'usebenze ngokwengeziwe' injongo, unokuyeka ukuzivocavoca, kodwa utshintshele ukuhamba ngommandla wakho kusasa, kwaye usenokuhlangabezana nomgomo wakho.
Ngoku ukuba uyazi ezinye zezizathu zokuba izigqibo zihlala zingaphumeleli kwaye iinjongo zihamba ngendlela engokoqobo, nantsi ezinye iingcebiso zokubeka iinjongo onokuzifumana emva:
Gcina ikamva lakho engqondweni.
Cinga ngezinto oza kuba nazo ebomini bakho obulungileyo, kwaye apho ungathanda khona ukuya kubini, ezintlanu, okanye kwiminyaka elishumi, kwaye ubone ukuba iinjongo zakho zikusondeza kuloo mfanekiso. Ukuba kunjalo, iinjongo ezintle zokunamathela. Ukuba unako ukugcina engqondweni yakho umfanekiso wendawo ekugqibeleni uyafana ngayo neenjongo zokukuthabatha, kulula ukuba unamathele nabo.
Cinga ngohlobo lweenguqulelo ezininzi kunokuba ziphathe ngokuthe ngqo.
Ngokomzekelo, ukusombulula "Ukuphuhlisa i-Stress Management Practice Practice" kunika indawo ephezulu yokukhula nokutshintsha kunokuthi "Yenza Yoga Yonke Imini". Ngelixa ufuna ukubeka iinjongo zakho ezibanzi kwiimpawu ezithile, ukugqiba ukuPhuhlisa iNkqubo yokuPhathwa kweNgcinezelo kukunika ithuba lokuzama, kwaye kukuvumela ukuba utshintshe inkambo xa ufumanisa ukuba i-Yoga ayikusebenzeli.
Cinga ngo kwezinto othanda ukuzongeza ebomini bakho, kunokuba ungathanda ukuthatha.
Ngokomzekelo, endaweni yokwenza umgomo wokutya "Ukutya okungapheliyo," gxininisa ekuzame "Ukutya Okutya Okuninzi". Unokuziva unyanzelekile ngakumbi xa ucinga ukuthatha into ngaphandle kokungeza into entle, kwaye ukuba ubeka endaweni yokutya okungenampilo ekudleni kwakho kunye nokutya okunempilo, injongo enye iyafezwa. Kananjalo, ngokuqhelekileyo kulula ukuongeza ukuziphatha kunokumisa ukuziphatha.
Yenza i miqobo
Emva kokuba ubeke iinjongo zakho, zigcine eziphambi kwengqondo yakho. Gcina zidweliswe kwi-planner yakho yosuku, zibe nazo njengenxalenye yesikhuseli sakho sesikrini, okanye usibeke kwindawo ezivelele ngeenxa zonke kwindlu yakho.
Emva koko, uwaphule phantsi kwiinjongo ezincinci, kwaye ucinge ngamanyathelo okufuneka uwathathe ukuze ufikelele ezi njongo. Emva koko, kwaye oku kuyintloko, yakha imikhuba engakukhokelela kwiinjongo zakho . Cinga ngemiphi imikhwa enokuyigcina yona eya kwenza utshintsho olukhulu ebomini bakho ukuba uyigcine, kwaye uyifake kwishedyuli yakho kwiindlela ezilula ukucinga ukuba uzigcine. Ngokomzekelo, ukuba unqwenela ukulungelelanisa, zibophelele ekusebenziseni ixesha elithile elifanelekileyo (unokwandisa njengoko umkhwa ukhula ngakumbi, kodwa ukudubula into enokukunceda uzive ufezekile kodwa ungaphelelwa amandla, kwaye into unako ukunamathela), kwaye unike ixesha ixesha ngalunye xa uya kuqhuba le mkhuba. Kusebenza ngokusemgangathweni ukuba eli xesha lidibene nomkhwa okhoyo, njengelungelo ngaphambi kokuba uhlambe, okanye usendleleni eya ekhaya uvela emsebenzini.
Ekugqibeleni, zizuze ngento encinci yokuqhubeka uzinamathela kuyo, de kube wenze inkqubela efanelekileyo kwiinjongo zakho ukuba inkqubela iya kuba ngumvuzo wayo. Yaye khumbula ukuba utshintsho alufiki ubusuku bonke, kodwa njengoko usebenza ekuphuhliseni into ebalulekileyo kuwe, utshintsho luya kuza, kwaye luya kuhlala luhlala. Khumbula oku, kwaye ujabulele ukwakha ubomi obulindele ukuba uphile!