Ukucela umntu ngomhla kufana nokwenza nayiphi na uhlobo yesicelo sokubambisana . Kubandakanye ukuthatha inyathelo lokuvumela umntu ukuba azi into ocinga ngayo nomvakalelo, ukucela oko kuza kukuvuyisa, kwaye ngexesha elifanayo uthabathe umva womnye umntu.
Ukuba unengxaki yokukhathazeka kwentlalo (SAD) , kunokuba nzima ukucinga indlela yokubuza umntu ngomhla.
Ukudibanisa kwangempela bekuza kudlala njani?
Isampuli seSampuli sokucela umntu ngaphandle
Nasi isikripthi ongasisebenzisa ukuzisebenzisa ukucela usuku.
USara unomdla kumntu omhle osebenza naye kodwa akazange akhuphe isibindi sokumcela. Ulindile, enethemba lokuba mhlawumbi uya kumbuza, kodwa ucinga ukuba unokuba neentloni ukwenza okokuqala.
Indlela efanelekileyo kuSara kukuba kulungele isicelo ngokungaqhelekanga njengenxalenye yengxoxo. Uya kuziva engancinci ngale ndlela (kunomngcipheko omncinci " wokwenqatshelwa " ngokuthe ngqo) kwaye omnye umntu unokuthi cha ngaphandle kokuziva kakubi.
USara uthi: "Ndifuna ngokwenene ukubona entsha (faka igama le-actor movie). Ngaba uyayibona?"
Esikhundleni sokubuza ngokuthe ngqo umfana ngqo ngosuku, umnika ithuba lokukhuthaza intetho xa enomdla.
Umfana omdala: "Hayi, andikubonanga okwamanje, kodwa ndingathanda ukuya. Abahlobo bam bahlala bexakekile kangangokuba kunzima ukuhlangana kunye nokwenza izicwangciso.
USara uthi: "Ewe, ndacinga ukuba kubukeka buhle kakhulu. Ukuba awuxakekile, mhlawumbi sinokuhamba kunye?"
Umfana omdala: "Ngokuqinisekileyo, oko kuya kumnandi."
USara uthi: "Kulungile, ngumhla. Apha, makhe ndikunike inombolo yam yocingo kwaye unokubhala okanye ubize ukuba ndizise xa kunokusebenza."
Xa uthetha nomnye umntu, qi
Ukuba omnye umntu akawamukeli incoko yakho okanye akamkeli isimemo sakho, ungayithathi. Akukho nto ingayifumana ngokuhlala kwinqanaba. Endaweni yoko, vuyisana ngokubuza.
Umthombo:
UMarkway BG, uCarmin CN, uPollard CA, uFlynn T. Ukulahlwa kweenkohliso: Uncedo lokukhathazeka kweNtlalo kunye nePhobia. Oakland, CA: Harbinger; 1992.