Indlela yokujongana neengxaki zekhanda
Ingxaki yokusombulula ingxaki yintlobo yesakhono esingafane sicinge ngayo kwimpilo yethu yemihla ngemihla. Ngokuqhelekileyo, kunoko sigxininisa ukuzama ukujamelana neengxaki ezinzima esijamelana nazo. Ngokukodwa, abantu abaneengxaki zomntu ongasemngceleni (BPD) bangabonakala benamandla kakhulu ngenxa yokuba iimvakalelo zabo ziba ngqalelo ekujonganeni.
Ewe, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba ube nezakhono zokujamelana nazo ongayisebenzisa ukunciphisa iimvakalelo ezinzulu (kwimimiselo ethile, jonga eli nqaku malunga nezakhono zokuphilisa impilo ).
Nangona kunjalo, kubalulekile ukuba nezakhono onokuzisebenzisa ukujamelana neengxaki ezisemngciphekweni yaloo mvakalelo. Le yilapho ubuchule bokuxazulula ingxaki obusebenzayo buza khona.
Iyintoni Ingxaki Esebenzayo?
Ngamanye amaxesha kusebenza ngokugqithiseleyo ukugxila kwingxaki esondeleyo kunokugxila ekuzame ukulawula iimvakalelo zakho malunga neengxaki. Ukujongana neengxaki kwi-head-on kunokukunceda uzive ukuba ubomi bakho bunokuphathwa kwaye buncinci. Le nto esiyibiza ngokuba yingxaki yokuxazulula ingxaki - ukujongana ngamabomu nokuxazulula ingxaki yeengcambu, kunokuba ivumele ukuba ingahambi.
Enyanisweni, ukusombulula iingxaki ezinzima kunokutsho lula kunokukwenza. Ngamanye amaxesha kunzima ukujongana neengxaki ngokuthe ngqo kuba oku kuthetha ukujamelana neengxaki, ukungquzulana, okanye okunye ukuzenza ungakhathazeki ngexesha elifutshane. Kodwa kwixesha elide, ukuxazulula ingxaki ngokusebenzayo kunciphisa ubunzima kuba ingxaki ayisekho phezu kwentloko yakho.
Xa Ingxaki Esebenzayo Isombulula Ngempumelelo?
Ayikho yonke imeko ifanelekileyo kwinkqubo yokulungisa ingxaki. Kukho ezinye iimeko ezingenakulinganiswa - ezi ziganeko okanye imeko ezingaphandle kolawulo lwakho.
Umzekelo, mhlawumbi awuyithandi umntu udade wakho atshade naye, kwaye isigqibo sakhe sokutshata sikwenza ube nomsindo obuninzi, intlungu kunye nentlungu.
Le ngenye yeemeko ongenakho ukulawula, ngoko ukuzama ukulungisa "ingxaki" ayiyi kusebenza. Kule meko, uza kufuneka uqalane nokusebenzisa izakhono ezigxininisekile zengqondo.
Nangona kunjalo, cinga ukuba unengxabano nomnini-mnini wakho kuba ukushisa kwindlu yakho akusebenzi. Kule meko, unokwenza usebenzise ukunyamezela kwengxaki yokulawula umsindo, kodwa kuya kufuneka usebenzise ezinye izakhono zokusombulula iingxaki ukuze ulungiswe imeko (okanye uzinikezele kwigumbi elibandayo).
Indlela yokusebenzisa iNgxaki yokuSombulula iNgxaki
Hlola imeko . Isinyathelo sokuqala nanini na xa ubhekane nemeko ebangela ukuba ube nemvakalelo eqinileyo kukuba uhlolisise ukuba kukho ingxaki eqhubekayo ingasombululwa. Ingaba kukho imeko ethile kwimeko olawula kuyo? Ngaba le ngxaki inokuqwalaselwa? Okanye ngaba le meko oza kufuneka ufunde ukuhlala nayo?
Qinisekisa iNkqubo yeNtsebenzo eninzi kakhulu . Emva kokuba unqume ukuba kukho ingxaki enokuzithengisa, kuya kufuneka ulandele ngokulandelayo ukuba yiyiphi na inkqubo efanelekileyo yokusebenza.
Makhe sithathe umzekelo wendawo yomhlaba evela phezulu. Ingaba ikhondo elifanelekileyo kakhulu lokusebenza kufuneka liye endlwini yomnini-mnini, unqongqoze emnyango wakhe, kwaye umemele umninikhaya wakho ade avume ukulungisa ukushisa?
Eli qhinga lingasifumana ukushisa kwakho, kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo akuyi kukunceda kamva xa kufike ixesha lokuba usayine ukuqeshiswa konyaka ozayo.
Inkqubo yesenzo esilungileyo kunokukwenza uphando olwenziwe ngamalungelo omqeshi kwingingqi yakho kwaye ubhale umninindlu wakho incwadi ebonisa ngokucacileyo ingxaki ojongene nayo, ugcine ikhophi yileta kuwe xa ufuna amaxwebhu ezayo.
Akusoloko kulula ukuzimisela inkqubo yokusebenza, ngoko unokufuna ukubonisana nabahlobo okanye umgqirha malunga nento oyithathayo. Unokufumanisa ukuba unenani leendlela ezahlukeneyo malunga nendlela ojongene ngayo nengxaki, kwaye ukuqhuba ngabanye abantu kunokukunceda ufumane isenzo esiya kusebenza kakuhle.
Into enokuyenza Ukuba Ingxaki ayiyiCombuluki
Ngamanye amaxesha uya kukhetha isenzo sokusombulula iingxaki, zama, kwaye ufumane ukuba ingxaki yakho ikhona. Umzekelo, mhlawumbi ubhala umninindlu wakho ileta malunga nokushisa, kwaye ungaze uvale nantoni na. Akuqhelekanga ukuba kuya kufuneka ukuba uthathe amanyathelo ambalwa ngaphambi kokuba ingxaki ixazululwe.
Ngoko, yintoni enokuyenza ngokulandelayo? Buyela emuva kwibhodi yokudweba. Qinisekisa ukuba yintoni isenzo esilandelayo kufuneka sithathe. Mhlawumbi uthatha isigqibo sokuba okulandelayo uza kubiza umninikhaya wakho, khankanya ileta, kwaye ubuze xa ingxaki iza kuxazululwa (mhlawumbi ingqalelo ukuba umthetho wakho wesixeko uthi iingxaki zokufudumala kufuneka zisombulule kwiintsuku ezingama-5). Ukuba oko akusebenzi, isinyathelo sakho esilandelayo sinokuthi uqhagamshelane nombutho wamalungelo omqeshi ukufumana ukuba yiliphi ilungelo lomthetho onalo.
Iindaba ezilungileyo kukuba ukuba uyaqhubeka unokuyicombulula ingxaki. Yaye xa uthe wenza, uya kuba: A) ukuphelisa ingxaki ebomini bakho (kunye nemvakalelo ehambelanayo), kunye no-B) wakha ukuzithemba ukuba unokujamelana neengxaki ezinzima.
Umthombo:
Linehan, MM. Umqulu Wokuqeqesha Amakhono Wokuphathwa Kwengxaki Yomntu Wemida. INew York: I-Guilford Press, ngo-1993.