Ukujongana nemingcele yokuphila ubomi ofuna ukuhlala
Abantu abanesifo sengxaki yokuxinwa kweengxaki (post-traumatic disorder disorder) (PTSD) banamava aphakamileyo oxinzelelo kwaye banokubona izithintelo ezingakumbi zokwenza izinto abafuna ukuzenza. Umzekelo, umntu ophethe i-PTSD unokufuna ukufumana umsebenzi omtsha. Kodwa ngenxa yokwesaba kweemeko ezintsha kunye nabantu (njengoko oku kunokubangela ukukhumbula, iingcamango okanye iimvakalelo ezinxulumene nesiganeko esibuhlungu esidlulileyo), umntu onomdla we-PTSD unokugqiba ekubeni ahlale ebenomsebenzi ongenakuthathaka okanye ahlale engasebenzi.
Ngenxa yoko, ukuba unayo i-PTSD, kubaluleke kakhulu ukufunda iindlela zokulungisa imiqobo.
Iintlobo zobomi beZithintelo
Izithintelo zobomi okanye izithintelo zingahlula kwiindidi ezimbini-zangaphandle nangaphakathi. Imingcele yangaphandle yimiqobo ekhoyo ngaphandle kwethu. Ngokomzekelo, ukuba nemali encinci, ukungabi nako kwezothutho, akukho mathuba emisebenzi, ukungabikho kwexesha okanye ukuthatha inxaxheba kwezobudlelwane obungenampilo kuzo zonke iintlobo zangaphandle. Zizinto ebomini ezifumana indlela esakha ngayo ubomi esiyifunayo size sihlangabezane neenjongo zethu.
Imiqobo engaphakathi yile miqobo ekhoyo phakathi kwethu. Kwabo abane-PTSD, ezi zizona ndlela ziqhelekileyo zithintelo. Ziquka ukuxhalaba , ukwesaba, iingcamango ezingathandekiyo kunye nezikhumbuzo, iintloni , ukudabuka, ukungabi nethemba, okanye ukukhuthaza. Unokwazi ukuqwalasela loo ngcamango, "Andikwazi ukwenza oku," "Akukho nto," Izinto aziyi kutshintsha "kwaye" Ukuba ndenza oko, ndiza kubangela. "Imingcele yangaphakathi ibalulekile ukuchonga nokulungisa Bavame ukuziva bexakeke, bengenakuthenjwa kwaye bangasimisa kwiindlela zethu.
Iindlela zokunqoba izithintelo zangaphandle
- Ukuzongamela: Ukujongana naluphi na umqobo, wangaphakathi okanye wangaphandle, kubalulekile kuqala ukuchonga umqobo kumbuzo. Oku kunokwenziwa ngokuzongamela .
- Yiphule phantsi: Indlela efanelekileyo yokusombulula ingxaki kukuwaphula kumanyathelo amancinci. Umzekelo, masithi sithi ufuna ukuqala ukutya okulungileyo ukuphucula impilo yakho, kodwa uqaphela ukuba ukutya okunempilo, njengezityalo kunye nemifuno, kubiza kakhulu. Isithintelo apha yimali. Ukuze unqobe le mqobo ungayenza uhlahlo lwabiwo-mali ukuze ubone apho ungasindisa imali ngeveki. Unokuhlola ezinye iindawo apho unokufumana ukutya okungabizi (kodwa okunempilo). Unokufumana iindlela zokwenza imali eyongezelelweyo ngeveki (umzekelo, ukusebenza ixesha elide okanye ukuthatha utshintsho olongezelelweyo rhoqo ngoku).
- Hambisa kwiinjongo zakho: Ngomqobo ongaphandle, ufuna ukufumana amanyathelo amancinci onokuyithatha ukuze wenze indlela yakho phezu komqobo kwaye usondele kufuphi nomgomo wakho . Amanye amanyathelo owathathayo anokuvelisa iziphumo ngokukhawuleza; Nangona kunjalo, ezinye izithintelo zinkulu kwaye zingathatha ixesha elide, njengokubuyela esikolweni nokufumana idigri.
Iindlela zokunqoba izithintelo zangaphakathi
- Fumana Ulawulo: Nangona iimvakalelo kunye neengcamango ezinokubangela ukwesabisa, ukungathandeki nokungahambi kakuhle, nguwe olawulayo ukuziphatha kwakho. Ngoko ke, indlela engcono yokunqoba imingcele yangaphakathi kukuqhubela phambili kungakhathaliseki ukuba ubona ntoni ngaphakathi ngaphakathi. Ukuba unako ukwenza oku, ngaphantsi loo mvakalelo kunye neengcamango ziya kuziva ngathi ziyimingcipheko.
- Ukulawula iimvakalelo: Njengoko usebenza ekujongeni izithintelo zangaphakathi, zama ukuqala ukusebenzisa iindlela eziphilileyo zokulawula iimvakalelo zakho kunye neengcamango . Izicwangciso ezithile zokujamelana zingasetyenziselwa ukunyusa ukunyamezela kwakho kwiimvakalelo ezithile kunye neengcamango.
- Thatha isenzo: Kubalulekile ukuba uqale ukuthuthela kwiinjongo zakho endaweni yokulinda iimvakalelo kunye neengcamango zokuhamba kuqala. Kungathatha ixesha lokuba iimvakalelo zethu kunye neengcinga zitshintshe. Nangona kunjalo, sisoloko silawula ukuziphatha kwethu, kwaye abaninzi abantu bayaqaphela ukuba iimvakalelo zabo kunye neengcamango zabo ziguquka ngokukhawuleza ukuba zithatha inyathelo kuqala.
- Uvalelwa iimvakalelo: Ukujongana nemingcele yangaphakathi kufuna ukuzimisela ukuziva iimvakalelo zakho kunye neengcinga zakho ; xa wenza njalo, kulula kuba. Ekujonganeni nemithintelo yangaphakathi, ukhetha ukhethe ukuvumela iinjongo kunye neempawu zakho ziqhube ukuziphatha kwakho.
Ukwakha Ubomi Ofuna Ukuphila
Injongo ayinakuyithintela njani imiqobo, kodwa kunoko, sinokuyithintela njani. Yichitha ixesha elide ucinge ngezinto ezithintekayo zangaphandle nezangaphakathi ozijongene nazo ebomini bakho. Qaphela indlela abaphazamisana ngayo nokwakha ubomi ofuna ukuhlala. Ayikho imini engcono kunamhlanje ukuqala ukuchonga iindlela ongayinqoba ngayo le miqobo.