Abantu abaneengxaki zengcinezelo yokuhamba kwengxaki ( post-traumatic disorder disorder) (nge-PTSD) ngamanye amaxesha banokuziva iimvakalelo zabo zingamnandi, zingenakulinganiswa kwaye zingalawuleki. Nangona kunjalo, iimvakalelo zethu ziyimfuneko ebomini bethu. Bakhonza imisebenzi ebalulekileyo, kwaye asiyi kukwazi ukufumana nganye ngosuku ngaphandle kwabo.
Ngaba uyazi ezinye zezinto ezibalulekileyo iimvakalelo ezidlala kwimpilo yethu?
Ulwazi olulandelayo lucacisa ukuba kutheni iimvakalelo, nangona xa zingakhathazeki, zibaluleke kakhulu.
Imizwa Ukuthetha ngolwazi kwabanye abantu
Imizwa yethu ixelela abanye abantu indlela esivakalelwa ngayo. Ngokomzekelo, ukubonakalisa umsindo kunokuxelela umntu ukuba kufuneka sishiye sisodwa okanye uxinzelelo kunye nentlungu kunokuxelela umntu ukuba sifuna uncedo. Ngenxa yoko, kubalulekile ukuba sizive zethu iimvakalelo kunokuba siphephe ukukhathazeka.
Iimvakalelo Zinikezela Ngeenkcukacha
Iimvakalelo zisinika ulwazi malunga nemeko yethu. Ngokomzekelo, xa sinoxhala, sinikezelwa ngolwazi lokuba sisengozini.
Xa sinobuhlungu, sinokubonelelwa ngolwazi esingenalo ukulawula okanye ukuba umntu uphule amalungelo ethu ngendlela ethile. Imizwa yethu yindlela yethu yokuthetha nathi. Mamela oko bathethayo.
Imizwelo Senze Silungele Ukwenza
Imizwa ivumela ukuba siphendule ngokukhawuleza kwaye isishukumisele ukuba sisebenze ngeendlela ezithile.
Ngenxa yokuba iimvakalelo zethu zisinika ulwazi malunga nokusingqongileyo, zisisikhokela ekusebenzeni ngendlela efanelekileyo kwimeko. Umzekelo, xa uziva ingozi okanye usongelo, ungaphendula ngokushiya imeko. Ngamanye amaxesha ukuphepha kunokunceda; ngamanye amaxesha unokubonakalisa ingxaki.
Iimvakalelo eziNzulu kwi-Experience yethu yoBomi
Ubomi buya kuba buhlungu kakhulu ngaphandle kwemizwa. Sidinga bobabini bethu obuhle (ulonwabo, uvuyo, uvuyo) kunye nokungahambisani nomsindo (umsindo, ukuxhalaba, ukudabuka). Mhlawumbi ngamanye amaxesha sinqwenela ukuba sinokukrazula zonke iimvakalelo zethu ezimbi; Nangona kunjalo, amava okungafanelekiyo afunekayo ukwenza iimvakalelo ezintle zivakale njengokuba ziyenzayo.
Ukwandisa Ukwazisa Kwakho Ngeemvakalelo Zakho
Imizwa yethu iyimfuneko kwaye ibalulekile. Nangona kunjalo, indlela yodwa esinokuyifunda kwiimvakalelo zethu kukuba ngaba siyazi malunga nabo xa zivela. Ngoko ke, kubalulekile ukuba ufunde iindlela zokunyusa ulwazi lwakho ngeemvakalelo zakho . Xa uyazi ukuba unomvakalelo wakho, bhetele unokukwazi ukuva oko bathethayo.
Ukulawula Iimvakalelo Zakho
Ngoku, ngenxa yokuba iimvakalelo zisebenza umsebenzi obalulekileyo akuthethi ukuba azinzixinzelelo ngamanye amaxesha. Iimvakalelo, ngokukodwa ezinzulu kakhulu, zinokuba nzima. Ngako oko, kunokuba luncedo ukufunda iindlela zokukhupha ukunyamezeka kwemizwa ukuze ulunge ngakumbi ukuyifumana kwaye ufunde kuyo. Kukho iindlela ezinonophelo zokulawula iimvakalelo zakho ezinokukunceda ukuba uzive ungenakulinganiswa kwaye ungalawuleki.
Nangona ngezinye iimeko iimvakalelo zivakalelwa kukuba zingamnandi, zisebenza sonke ngandlela-thile. Ngokuphulaphula iimvakalelo zethu, sinokufumana ulwazi olubalulekileyo malunga nemeko yethu kunye nathi.
Imithombo:
Gratz, KL (2009). Ulwaphulo lweMimiselo yeCandelo loLawulo lweMvakalelo yeCandelo lokuLawula ukuZimisa.
Linehan, MM (1993). Ukunyangwa kwengqondo yokuziphatha komngcipheko wobuntu bomda. ENew York, NY: Guilford Press.