Ezi zinguqu zendlela yokuziphatha zingaba yiPlagigi
Nangona ulutsha alufanele lusixhala malunga neebhili, umsebenzi, okanye ukuhlala ekhaya, bafumana imithombo eyahlukeneyo yoxinzelelo. Bajongana nemiba efana nokuxhatshazwa, uxinzelelo lwabaontanga, kunye nemiba yemfundo enokuba nzima kakhulu.
Ngaphandle kwenkxaso efanelekileyo, abaxinzelelekileyo abasenokuba ngumngcipheko omkhulu weengxaki zempilo yengqondo, iingxaki zemfundo kunye nemicimbi yezempilo.
Ngoko kubalulekile ukuba ukhangele iimpawu ezilumkiso wakho umntwana oziva evezelekile. Emva koko, unokungenelela ngokukhawuleza, kungekudala.
Nazi izibonakalisi ezili-10 ezixinezelekileyo:
1. Intsholongwane kunye neentambo
Ukuxinezeleka kudla ngokukhokelela kwizikhalazo zempilo. Ukuba neentloko, iintlambo kunye nezinye izinto ezixhalabisayo zingabonakalisa ukuxinezeleka.
Imiba yokulala
Ingxaki yokulala okanye ukuhlala ulele ingabonakalisa uxinzelelo. Kwaye kunokuba ngumjikelezo onobungozi. Umntwana osemncinci ungasenakukwazi ukunyamezela uxinzelelo.
Abanye abagxininisa abaselula balele kakhulu. Intombazana ehlala efuna ukubuyela emva kokulala emva kwesikolo okanye umntu ozama ukulala yonke imini ngeveki angase azame ukubalekela uxinzelelo lwakhe.
3. Iingxaki zeMfundo
Ngamanye amaxesha iingxaki ezinxulumene nengcinezelo zivela kwimicimbi ehambelana nesikolo. Ngamanye amaxesha, iingxaki zezemfundo zibangelwa ukuba umntwana usexinezelekile. Ukuba amabakala akho asetsheni ayanqatshwanga, okanye ukuba ukuhamba kwakho kwentsha kukubandezeleka, cinga ukuba utshintsho lunokuba lunxulumene noxinzelelo.
4. Ukwandisa ukutshabalalisa
Nangona intsha ingaba yintlonelo ngokwemvelo, umntwana osemncinci unokuba nefuthe ngaphezu kokuqhelekileyo. Umntwana osemtsha ocaphukisayo ngenxa yeengxaki ezincinane ngokuthe rhoqo unokuziva ephazamiseke yimingeni yobomi.
5. Utshintsho kwiNkcubeko
Ukuxinezeleka kunokutshintsha indlela yokuziphatha yolutsha.
Ukuzihlukanisa kwezentlalo kungabonakalisa ukuba umntwana wakho unzima. Ukuchitha ixesha elingakumbi kwigumbi lakhe okanye ukungabikho komdla ekuthethaneni nabahlobo kunokuthetha ukuba wakho umntwana usebunzima.
6. Ukugula rhoqo
Iintsholongwane ezigxininiswe nazo ziyakwazi ukufumana ubanda kunye nezinye izifo ezincinci. Baye baphoswa esikolweni okanye kwimicimbi yentlalo rhoqo ngenxa yokugula.
7. Utshintsho olungafanelekanga kwiindlela zokuziphatha
Iingxaki zendlela yokuziphatha zihlala ziphumo xa umntwana esicinezelekileyo. Unokubona iingxaki zokuziphatha ezinyukayo ukusuka esikolweni ukuthetha kwakhona. Musa ukuzithethelela ngokuziphatha kakubi nje ngenxa yokuxininisa, nangona kunjalo.
8. Unzima ukugxila
Xa ulutsha luninzi engqondweni yabo, kunzima ukuba bagxininise emsebenzini wabo. Basenokukhazamiseka lula kwiklasi kwaye banokuba nzima ukuhlala emsebenzini xa begqibe umsebenzi wabo wesikolo.
9. Intetho engcolileyo
Uza kudla uva ulutsha oluxinezelekileyo usebenzisa inkulumo engalunganga. Ngokomzekelo, umntwana usethe izinto ezinje, "Akukho mntu uyandithandayo," okanye "Akukho nto ibonakala ihamba ngokuchanekileyo." Nangona kungokwemvelo ukuba intsha ibeke la mazwana ngamanye amaxesha, ukuba uyayivayo kaninzi, mhlawumbi uphawu loxinzelelo.
10. I-General Awareness of Worry
Iintsholongwane ezincinci zihlala zixhalaba malunga nantoni na into.
Basenokukhathazeka ngezinto zonke ezimbi ezinokuthi zenzeke okanye zingakhathazeka malunga nendlela abanye abaya kuziqonda ngayo. Ukuba umntwana wakho ubonisa ukukhathazeka okungakumbi kunokuqhelekileyo, kunokubangelwa uxinzelelo.
Nini Ukufuna Uncedo Lobugcisa
Abaninzi abaselula abakwazi ukuthetha, "Ndigxininisekile kwaye le sizathu sokuba kutheni." Ngoko ke, iimpawu zabo zihlala zibonisa indlela abavakalelwa ngayo.
Ukuba uyakrokrela ukuba umntwana wakho unenkxwaleko, qalisa ingxoxo malunga nayo. Ungaphinda ufune ukufundisa wakho umntwana ukuba asebenzise iindlela ezilula zokulawula uxinzelelo.
Ukuba ukunyamezela kwakho kwentsha kubonakala kukuphazamisa isikolo, intsapho, uxanduva lwekhaya okanye ngabahlobo, kusenokuba ixesha lokufuna uncedo lobuchwepheshe.
Iimpawu ezingapheli kweeveki ezimbini zingabonakalisa ukuba umntwana wakho unokufumana ingxaki yengqondo yengqondo , njengokudandatheka okanye uxhalaba.
Xoxa nomntwana wakho wezingane xa sele uxhalabele ngokunyamezela. Kubalulekile ukulawula zonke iinkalo zempilo kunye nokuxoxa ngeendlela zokwenza unyango. Udokotela angabhekisela umntwana wakho ukucebisa.
> Imithombo
> I-HealthyChildren.org: Ukunceda abantwana baSebenze ingcinezelo.
> I-American Academy yabantwana kunye ne-Adolescent Psychiatry: Ulawulo lweengcinezelo kunye nentsha.