Ngaba uye waziva uxinezelekile okanye unesimo esibi, kwaye unqwenela ukuba uvele ... uzive ungcono kakhulu? Ngaba unqwenela ukuba unokuba neengxaki ezilula ukuza kukunceda?
Iingcali zengqondo ngoku ziyazi ukuba i-adage yakudala, 'Fakela uze uyenze,' inokwenziwa kwaye ingasetyenziselwa ukuziva ungcono. Ukuzithemba ngokuzithemba kunokukubeka kwimvakalelo ethembekileyo; Ukumomotheka - nokuba umomotheka - ngokuqinisekileyo kunokukwenza uzive unonwabe; ukuziphatha 'njengokungathi', kaninzi kunokuzisa iziphumo ezifunwayo.
Ngoku, ngokutsho kwesifundo esitsha kwi-Psychological Science, iphephandaba leManyano yeSayensi yeNzululwazi, ukufunda nje amagama athile kunokukunceda uzive njengoko loo mazwi achaza, unempembelelo efana nokumomotheka, umzekelo.
Iingcali zeengqondo zikaFrancesco Foroni ezivela kwiYunivesithi yaseVU e-Amsterdam kunye noGün R. Semin waseYunivesithi yaseUtrecht zenze iilingo ezimbini ukuba zibone ukuba ulwimi lwentliziyo lunempembelelo kwimisebenzi yesisu yomzimba. Uphando lokuqala lubonise ukuba ukufunda izenzi zento (njengokuthi 'ukumomotheka,' okanye 'ukukhala') zenze iisistim ezihambelanayo. Ngokomzekelo, ukufunda "ukuhleka" kubangele ukuba kusebenze imisipha ephezulu esetyenziselwa ukumomotheka, kodwa kungabangeli mpendulo kwiimisipha ezijongene nokukrakra. Okuthakazelisayo, xa kunikwe izichazi-mvakalelo ezinjenge "ezihlekisayo" okanye "eziphazamisayo" amavolontiya abonisa ukusebenziselwa kwezinto ezincinci ezincinci xa kuthelekiswa nokuphendula kwabo kwisenzi sengqondo.
Ngaba le mpendulo yomzimba ingasichaphazela izigwebo zethu? Uvavanyo lwesibini lufumene ukuba nangona xa izenzi zentsingiselo zinikezelwa ngokuthe ngqo, ziyakwazi ukuchaphazela izigwebo - izivolontiya zifumene iikhathuni ukuba zibe ngumngcwabo xa zilandelwa ngokuthe ngcembe ngamagama angamamemeza kunokuba ngaba zandulelwe (kwakhona, ngokulandelanayo) ngokuthetha .
Nangona kunjalo, le mpawu yenzeke kuphela kumavolontiya ayenako ukuzumkraza - amavolontiya ayenokunyakaza kwemisipha ayengabonakali olu lwalamano phakathi kwezenzi zentshukumo kunye nendlela edibanisa ngayo abagwebi beemifanekiso.
Iziphumo zale mvavanyo zibonisa ukuba ukufunda nje izenzi zentshukumo zenza izicathulo zobuso ezithile kwaye zingathintela izigwebo esenzayo. Abaphandi baqaphele ezi ziphumo zibonisa ukuba "ulwimi alukho nje ufuziselo, kodwa lusetshentshile," oko kuthetha ukuba amagama esiwadlayo angakwazi ukuba neempembelelo ezikhawulezileyo emizimbeni yethu, kungekhona nje ingqondo yethu, njengabantu abaninzi abasolisayo.
Ukubeka le ngcaciso entsha kukusebenzela (kunye namazinga akho oxinzelelo), ndincoma oku kulandelayo:
Zama ukuqinisekiswa okulungileyo
Ewe, abaninzi abantu bacinga ukuqinisekiswa njengento ehlekisayo, kwaye inyaniso ukuba bayakwazi ukubuyela emva ukuba iziqinisekiso zakho ziqulethe iingxelo owaziyo azide zide zinyanisekile (njengokuthi 'ndizimeleyo,' xa wena, '), banokukwazi ukuguqula izimo zengqondo kunye neemeko. Bambelela ngezitatimende ezintle ezinjengokuthi, 'Namhlanje ndiza kuhleka ngokukhawuleza,' Namhlanje ndiya kukukhumbula ukuncwina, 'okanye,' Namhlanje ndiya kuxolela ngokulula. ' (Jonga ezi ngcebiso malunga nokuqinisekiswa okulungileyo .)
Funda iincwadi eziNandi okanye iiHororous Stories
Nangona uxakekile, nokuba ufumana ibhokhwe nge-imeyile ecasulayo kwaye awufuni ukuvuza umgangatho wokuziphatha, ufunda ezimbalwa zeempazamo ezihle okanye eziphakanyisayo ze-imeyile ezikuyo ibhokisi lakho lebhokisi engenayo inokuba yindlela efanelekileyo yokuzinikela ku khuthaza. Okanye, ukuba awufuni ukuba uhlalutye abathile bexesha lokufumana igolide, funda amanye amaphepha encwadi ehlekisayo kusasa okanye yonke imini. Kuya kukunika ukuphakamisa.
Funda iiCotes zokuQinisekisa
Ukufunda iincwadana ezimbalwa zokuphefumlela - ezinye zam intandokazi zithi 'Yintoni engakubulaliyo inokuqinisa', kwaye 'Yiba utshintsho ofuna ukuwubona kwihlabathi,' - kunokuphakamisa indlela ovakalelwa ngayo kwaye kukuncede ugxininise ngamandla kunye nempilo ngexesha lakho.
Thatha umzila we-Boring - Usasebenza
Ukuba ezi ngcamango zokudala azikho i-tea yakho, unokuhlala udala uluhlu lwezenzi ezilungileyo: ukumomotheka, ukuhleka, ukwabelana, ukuphakamisa, njl njll, kwaye ufunde ngazo ezimbalwa ngosuku, okanye xa uhamba luba nzima. Kubonakala ngathi isebenza.
Izixhobo ezinxulumene nazo
- Indlela kunye Nokuba kutheni ukuqinisekiswa okusebenzayo
- Ukuphuhlisa isimo sengqondo esifanelekileyo
Umthombo:
Faroni, uFrancesco; Semin, Gun. R. Ulwimi olwenza ukuba uxubushe ngeemvakalelo zakho. I-Psychological Science , Agasti 2009.