Inxalenye yolonwabo uyonwabile, umzuzu wokuba umzuzwana, kubomi bethu. Kodwa 'ukuthini ukonwaba' ngokwenene kuthetha ntoni? Ingaba siziva sisidla i-ice cream cone ekutshiseni kwehlobo? Ngaba siziva siphila eduze komntu esimthanda kakhulu? Ngaba sivakalelwa xa kukho into ehamba ngayo?
Ngaphandle kokuqonda okungakumbi into yokuba inqaku elithi " uyonwabile ," sinokuphelelwa amathuba okuvakalelwa emoyeni ebomini bethu.
Encwadini yakhe ethi Positivity, isazi sengqondo senzululwazi uBarbara Fredrickson sicacisa ukuba sinemiba emihle kunye nokuba ngasinye sino sinceda sakha izixhobo okanye senze iimbono zethu zenzeke ngendlela efanelekileyo. Nanku ukujonga okukhawulezayo kwezi 10 zivakalelo ezifanayo kunye nento abayenzela yona.
Uvuyo
Xa sikhatywayo okanye sivuyiswa into enhle engalindelekanga, kulandela uvuyo. Cinga ngethuba uzonandipha isidlo esimnandi kwindawo yokutyela entsha okanye xa uceba ukutyelela umhlobo omhle. Uvuyo luphawu lokuba imeko ikhuselekile kwaye isikhuthaza ukuba sincike kumava nokudlala.
U mbulelo
Ubulelo luya kuvela xa siqaphela ukuba umzamo womnye umntu udale inzuzo kuthi. Sivuyiswa ngezipho ezinikeziweyo, ububele obudlulileyo, kunye nexesha elityalomali. Kwaye ukuvakalelwa kusishukumisela ukuba sicinge ngendlela esinokuyihlawula ngayo ngokubonisa ukukhathalela nokucinga kwabanye.
Ukuzidla
Xa sifezekisa injongo okanye senze igalelo ngendlela ebalulekileyo, sizibona siziqhayisa ngamakhono ethu.
Ingaba ufumana ukukhuthazwa usebenzele kanzima okanye unamathele kwisinjongo somzimba kwiiveki ezingama-6, ukuqonda amakhono ethu kusinikeza isizathu esifanelekileyo sokuqhubeka nokubeka iinjongo kwixesha elizayo.
Serenity
Siziva sisinyanisekile okanye umxholo xa sizifumana kwiimeko eziziva zilungile kwaye zilula.
Cinga ngentsasa evelele ngeCawa kunye nosapho okanye ujabule ukuzola nokuzola ukuhamba ngegadi. I-Serenity, uFrederickson uthi, uyasikhuthaza ukuba siphume umzuzu okwangoku kwaye sibuye siphinde sihlolisise izinto eziza kuqala, sijulise ukuqonda kwethu.
Inzala
Sifuna ukwazi ngehlabathi xa sifumana into entsha kwaye sizive siphephile ukuyihlola. Ingaba kukho amanqaku okufunda ngokubhaliweyo kwintetho oyithandayo okanye ukufumanisa indawo esekelwe edolophini yakho, umdla ufuna ukuba sihlolisise kwaye sifunde ukuze sithole ulwazi.
U mtsalane
Ukususela kwi-hijink ye-slapstick ye-hijinks, ukuzonwabisa okanye ukuhleka kweemvakalelo kukuba uvakalelwa kukuhleka. Iingcali zengqondo zikhankanya "ukungabi nongqongqo kwezenzo zentlalo" njengomthombo wobuhle bethu xa sisona isiganeko esivela kwimibono emibini okanye engahambelaniyo (cinga ngesiphelo sakho esiyithandayo). Kodwa nayiphi na into eyenza udideke, xa sikwenza nabanye, siyaqinisa iintlawulelo zethu kulabo bantu nangakumbi.
Ithemba
Ithemba liyivakalelo elivakalelwayo xa sicinga ngekamva eliqaqambile kwaye kaninzi lusinceda ngamaxesha anzima. Nangona ihamba kunye noyiko okanye usizi, ithemba lisishukumisela ukuba sithathe amanyathelo okudala ingcono kusasa ngokugcina ithemba kunye nokuzinza.
Ukuphefumlelwa
Xa sibona omnye umntu enza okusemandleni akhe, siphefumlelwe ukuba silwele okusemandleni ethu. Ingaba sibona ubungqina bendlela yokuziphatha ephakamileyo okanye ukusebenza okubonisa ukugqwesa nokuphatha, ukuphefumlelwa kusinceda sidibanise ubukhulu kwabanye ukuze sikwazi ukuba nobukhulu ngathi.
Uloyiko
Into eyiyoyiyo xa ithe yangena kuyo kwaye isenza sibe nengqiqo yokunxulumana nento enkulu kunathi. Ubuhle obukhulu okanye ubuhle, njengombono wesibhakabhaka sezulu esivela kwindawo ekude, sinokusivimba kwiimpawu zethu, zixhaswe ngokumangalisa nangentlonelo. Ugugu luguqula imibono yethu kwihlabathi kunye nendawo yethu kuyo.
Uthando
Eyona nto ibonakala ivakalelwa kukuba, uFrederickson uchaza uthando njengento ekwabelwana ngayo naluphi na umvakalelo ongezantsi apha nomntu onomdla. Ezi zihlandlo zivumela ukuba sikwazi abanye ngokugqithiseleyo kwaye sigxininise kwimpilo yabo. Ezi zihlandlo, ngokugqithiseleyo kwexesha kwiinkalo ezithandanayo, zenza ulwalamano kunye nokwethemba.
Nguwuphi wale mvakalelo ovakalelwa kukuba uncinci ebomini bakho? Khetha enye. Kwaye ngeveki okanye ezimbini, gxininisa ekudaleni ixesha lokuzifumana kwaye ujabulele umthunzi omtsha onwabileyo.