Ngethuba lokuphila, abaninzi abantu baye baziva bejonge ngokwabo kwisibuko sokuzonwabisa. Mhlawumbi ubheka ubude bukhulu, bukhulu kakhulu, mhlawumbi wawuyi-zig-zaggy. Kodwa wayesazi ukuba bekuyinto engafanelekanga kwaye xa uthe waphuma ngaphandle kwindlu yokuzonwabisa, ubuyele kumntu oqhelekileyo. Kuthekani ukuba loo mphulo wendlu-mnandi wawuhlala iiyure ezine ngosuku?
Kuthekani ukuba ngaba ngokwenene wacinga ukuba yindlela owajonga ngayo?
Ucwaningo lukaNovemba 2014 olupapashwe kwiNgxelo ye-Psychology engavumelekanga ibonisa ukuba abantu abaneengxaki zokuxhalabisa abantu baxhamle kwiimpazamo ezingekho phantsi kweentsuku ezingama-24 ngosuku xa kuziwa ngendlela abajonga ngayo ubuhlobo babo.
Abaphandi banomdla wokuhlola iingcamango zobuhlobo kunye nabantu abanenkxalabo yentlalo kunye nabahlobo babo kuba siyazi ukuba abo abane-SAD bahlala bexhamla ngendlela abajonga ngayo imeko. Ngamanye amazwi, bathambekele ekubeni bahlale bejonga ngokwaso. Bahlolisise le micimbi phakathi kwabangu-77 abantu abafumene i-SAD, kunye nabantu abangama-63 abavela kuluntu, kwaye bajonga ubuhlobo bobabini ngokubanzi, kunye nobuhlobo obuthile.
Iziphumo zeso sifundo ziphakanyisile ukuba ukukhathazeka kweentlalo zoluntu kuphazamisa indlela yokuzijonga ngayo umgangatho wabangane abathile, kodwa abahlobo babantu abane-SAD ababonanga ubuhlobo obunjalo.
Imiphumo yokuba ne-SAD yayibonakala kakhulu kubantu abancinci kunye nabanobuhlobo obuncinane.
Ngaba ngaba kukho ukungafani okuchazwe ngabahlobo babantu abane-SAD? Ewe. Bathi bazingekho phantsi kobuhlobo kunye nohlengahlengiso olungaphantsi.
Ngokubanzi, ezi ziphumo zihambelana noko siyazi malunga ne-SAD; luchaphazela ubuhlobo, kodwa abo abaneengxaki bavame ukuvuthela loo miphumo ngaphandle kokulinganisa.
Ngamanye amazwi, ewe abantu bacinga ukuba uyathula kwaye mhlawumbi uyakhathazeka, kodwa bayavuya kukuba njengomhlobo!
Ukumba ngokukhawuleza uphando oluthile, sifumana ukuba ngokwenene ezi ziphumo ze-SAD kubuhlobo zixhaswa.
Kwesinye isifundo seNovemba 2014 esashicilelwe kwi-Stress Coping Concern, abaphandi bafumanisa ukuba phakathi kwabantwana abaneminyaka engama-7 kuya kwe-13, abo baneengxaki zokuxhalabisa abantu kunye nabahlobo babo bavakalisa ubungqina bomgangatho obuncinci kunabo bonke abanezinye iintlobo zokuphazamiseka kwengxaki. Ngamanye amagama, ngelixa abo abane-SAD banokuba neengcamango ezingabonakaliyo zobuhlobo babo, kukho impembelelo ekhethekileyo yokuba ne-SAD kulabuhlobo, okwenzekiyo nezinye iintlobo zokuxhalabisa. Oku kunengqiqo, kwindlela yokuxhalabisa kweentlalo zonke malunga noyiko lokuba nabantu!
Kwisifundo se-Juni 2014 esashicilelwe kwiNcwadi yeNgxaki yokuxhalabisa, abaphandi bafumanisa ukuba phakathi kwabantwana abaneminyaka engama-7 ukuya kwe-12, abantwana abaye bathetha ngokuthetha ngokuxhalabileyo xa bexhomekeke ngokuqinisekileyo xa bebenokuqiniseka. Nangona kunjalo, oku kufunyanwe kwakukhudlwana phakathi kwalabo abangenayo i-SAD kunabo babenzayo.
Ngamanye amazwi, abantwana ababenenkxalabo emphakathini babeyiqonda xa abanye abantwana besenza ngendlela exhalabileyo, kunabantwana abangenayo i-SAD.
Kuthetha ukuthini konke oku xa ufumana uxhalaba loluntu? Kungenzeka abanye abantu abathanda wena ngaphezu kokuba uqaphele. Nangona kunjalo, mhlawumbi unobungozi bobuhlobo bakho obungeke bube khona ukuba unalo uhlobo oluthile lwesifo sokuxhalabisa. Kwaye, ukuba uyazi abanye abantu abanexhala lezenhlalakahle, mhlawumbi bakuqonda (kwaye mhlawumbi bakwamkela) ngendlela abantu abangenayo ingxaki abanakho. Akunakutsho ukuba ubuhlobo bakho nabantu abangaxhalabelekanga abalungile.
Enyanisweni, mhlawumbi bangcono kunokuba uqaphele.
Yintoni esinokuyenza ukuphucula ubuhlobo phakathi kwabantu abane-SAD? Kwisifundo se-Agasti 2014 esapapashwa kwi-Community Practice, ukungenelela kweqela lama-12 elibizwa ngokuthi "ABASEBENZI BENKQUBO" kuboniswe ukunika abantwana abaneminyaka engama-4 ukuya ku-7 abaneempawu zokuxhalaba ukuba banelisekile ngakumbi, kwaye ke bakhulise izakhono.
Ukusuka kwi-website ye-FUN BANGALANI, inkqubo inceda abantwana ukuba:
- qinisekisa iimvakalelo zokuxhalabisa
- sifunde izakhono zokujamelana noxinzelelo, imingeni kunye noshintsho
- ukwandisa ukuqina kwengqondo kunye nokuxazulula iingxaki
- ukwakha ubuhlobo kunye neenkxaso zonxibelelwano
- ukwakha ukuzithemba nokuzithemba
Ngeprogram, abantwana bafunda ukubaluleka kokuba ngumhlobo omhle kubo (xa beziva bexhalabele) kunye nokuba nabahlobo banokufumana inkxaso xa kufuneka. Le nkqubo ifanelwe iminyaka engama-4 ukuya kwe-16 kwaye ihanjiswa ngabafundisi nakwabanye abantu abadala.
Ukuba unomntwana onenkxalabo yentlalo, unokufisa ukubheka ukuba le nkqubo iphunyezwe esikolweni sakho.
Ukuba ungumntu omdala onenkxalabo yentlalo, unokusebenzisa ezinye izicwangciso zokusebenza kwiindawo ezichazwe ngasentla. Ngokomzekelo, unyango kunye nokuzibophelela ngonyango kunokukunceda ukuba ulungelelanise iimvakalelo zokuxhalabisa, ngelixa ukucamngca kwengqondo kunokunceda ukwandisa ukuzinza kwakho. Xa kuziwa kubaluleka bobuhlobo kunye nokwakha amanxibelelwano enkxaso yoluntu , unokuqwalasela ukujoyina iqela leenkxaso ngokubhekiselele kulabo abanenkxalabo yentlalo. Njengoko kuchaziwe ngaphambili, abo bantu banokukwazi ukuqonda ngakumbi imingeni oyijongene nayo.
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