Ukuba ufumanisa ukuba ucinga izinto ezinje, "andizange ndizuze malunga neveki njengoko ndandifuna," okanye "Ndimele ndichithe ixesha elininzi kunye nezingane kule veki," awodwa. Abantu abaninzi bayazisola ekupheleni kweveki nganye kwizinto abazenzayo okanye izinto abafisa ukuba benze.
Isichazamazwi se-Merriam-Webster sithi uzisola kuthetha "ukuziva uxolo kakhulu." Ukuzisola kunokusuka kumbandela omncinane njengokuba ukhohlwa malunga nokuqeshwa okanye kungabandakanya umba omkhulu, njengokwenza ulwaphulo-mthetho.
Ngokutsho kwiphando eshicilelwe kwi- Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin , ezi ziindawo ezintandathu apho amaMerika afumana ukuzisola okukhulu:
- LeMfundo
- Umsebenzi
- Romance
- Uzali
- UkuziPhucula
- Ukuzonwabisa
Abantu abaninzi banokuzisola okukhulu kufuphi nokuphela kobomi babo. Basenokucinga izinto ezinje, "Ndimele ndihlale ndidibana nomntakwabo yonke loo minyaka," okanye "Ndimele ndisebenze nzima ukwenza umtshato wam usebenze." Kwaye ngokudabukisayo, abantu abaninzi, sele bephuzile ukudala utshintsho oluhle ubomi babo okanye ukulungisa umonakalo owenziweyo.
Kodwa, iindaba ezilungileyo kukuba, ngokujongana nokuzisola okuncincileyo okukuyo ekupheleni kweveki nganye, unokuzikhusela ekujonganeni nokuzisola okukhulu ekupheleni kobomi bakho.
1 - Yazisa Iimpazamo Zakho
Enoba ukuzisola kwakho kubangelwa kukungahambi-njengokuba ungathethi- okanye ukususela kwisenzo esingalunganga-njengokukhawuleza ukuyeka umsebenzi wakho-wonke umntu wenza amaphutha. Kodwa ngamanye amaxesha, ukuqhosha kuvela endleleni kwaye kuthintela abantu ukuba bavume ukuzisola kwabo.
Nangona ukubetha ngenxa yephutha oyenzile okanye ukuvuselela zonke izizathu omele wazi ukuba kungcono kunokuba luncedo, kuthatha imizuzu embalwa ukuvuma ukuzisola kunokukunceda ukuba ufunde kwiimpazamo zakho.
Kuphilile ukuzisola ngomnye umntu, uhlala kude ngaphakathi kwendawo yakho yokuthuthuzela, okanye uthatha umngcipheko ongazange uphume kakuhle. Ukubhala iimvakalelo zakho kunye nokuvuma ukuzisola kwakho kunokuzibuyisela ixesha elizibuhlungu kumathuba okukhula.
2 - Ukuchonga iinjongo zakho zexesha elide
Ngaphandle kweenjongo zexesha elide elicacileyo, uya kupheliswa ngokuzisola ekupheleni kweveki. Ngaba ufuna ukunyamekela impilo yakho? Ngaba ufuna ukufumana isikolo sekholeji? Ngaba ufuna ukubalisa abantwana bakho ngokuhlukile?
Cinga oko ufuna ukuba ubomi bakho bube ngo-5, 10, kunye ne-20 iminyaka phantsi kwendlela. Ukucinga kwangaphambili kukubalulekileyo ekudaleni uhlobo lobomi ofuna ukuhlala-ngaphandle kokuzisola okumbalwa.
3 - Ukuseka iinjongo zeveki
Ukuseka iinjongo zeveki kuya kukunceda uguqule izimvo zakho zibe yinto. Zibuze, "Yintoni endiyithembayo ukuba ndiyenze kwiintsuku ezisixhenxe ezizayo ukuze ndizisole ezimbalwa ekupheleni kweveki ezayo?"
Mhlawumbi ufuna ukulahlekelwa enye ipondo. Okanye mhlawumbi unethemba lokuhamba ngeveki ngaphandle kokuphelelwa ngumsindo.
Xa ubhala phantsi injongo yakho uza kwandisa amathuba okuphumelela. Ngoko nokuba wenza iphosta, bhala kwikhalenda, okanye wenze it wallpaper yakho ye laptop yakho, faka injongo yakho yeveki ngokubhala.
4 - Yenza iinjongo zemihla ngemihla
Ukuchonga isinyathelo esinye ongayithatha imihla ngemihla ukuze ufikelele ngakumbi kwinjongo yakho yeveki. Iinjongo zakho zemihla ngemihla zingabandakanya izinto ezinjengokuthi, "Ndiya kusebenzisa imizuzu engama-20," okanye "Ndiza kuchitha imizuzu eyi-15 ndihlambulule i-closet yam."
Yenza injongo yakho isinyathelo esicacileyo senyathelo. Inokuba yinto encinci okanye inomdla njengokuba uyithandayo, kodwa gcina ulindelekile. Kwaye ngemini nganye yimpumelelo, unokwakha umxhesho kunye nokukhuthaza ukuba uqhubeke.
5 - Zibekele Ukuphumelela
Zibekele empumelelweni ngokwenza kube lula njengoko kunokwenzeka ukuhlangabezana neenjongo zakho zemihla ngemihla.
Ukuba ufuna ukusebenzisa ngaphambi kokuba usebenze, phakamisa isikhwama sakho sokuzivocavoca ngaphambi kokuba ulale okanye ushiye izicathulo zakho ezihamba phantsi kombhede. Ukuba ufuna ukubhala incwadi, cwangcisa ixesha imihla ngemihla ukuba ubhale kwaye uyibhale kwikhalenda yakho. Ukuba ulingeka ukuba uphendule phantsi ebhedeni kwaye ubukele iTV esikhundleni sokuba usebenze kwincwadi yakho, faka ulawulo olukude kunzima ukufikelela kwindawo ukuze ungabi silingelwa ukuyivula.
Ukuzibeka kwimpumelelo kunokunyusa amathuba oya kufikelela kwiinjongo zakho. Utshintsho oluthile oluncinane luya kuba yilo lonke olufunekayo ukuphakamisa amandla akho okuphumelela.
6 - ISicwangciso soMqobo kunye neengxaki
Cinga ngezinto ezinokukuphazamisa. Mhlawumbi i-ofisi ye-ofisi ingaba yintsilelo ekudleni kwakho. Okanye mhlawumbi isonto elixakekileyo lingase litsho ukuba unalo ixesha elincinane lokuchitha kunye nezingane.
Cinga ngeemingcipheko onokuhlangabezana nazo kule veki. Ukuphuhlisa icebo lokukunceda ukuchasa isilingo okanye ukunqoba loo mingeni. Xa unesicwangciso esicacileyo kwindawo, uya kulungeleka ngakumbi ukuhlangabezana neenjongo zakho.
7 - Fumana iindlela zokuzigcina uxanduva
Ukuziphendulela kungaba yinto ebalulekileyo yokuhlala ikhuthaze kwaye kukho iindlela ezininzi ezahlukahlukeneyo zokuziphendulela. Kubalulekile ukufumana izicwangciso eziza kusebenza kakuhle kuwe.
Ukumaketha usuku ngalunye ukuya kwindawo yokuzivocavoca kwikhalenda exhomekeke kwifriji kungakho konke okufuneka uhlale kumkhondo. Okanye, unokufumana insiza ekuvumela ukuba ulandele inkqubela yakho yansuku zonke.
Abanye abantu banokufumanisa ukuba badinga abanye ukuba babaleke. Oku kunokuthetha ukusebenzisana nomhlobo wonk 'usuku okanye kusenokuthi ukuthumela isithombe sakho kwi-gym kwiqela lokunika ingxelo yentlalo.
Khawuqwalasele oko kuza kukunceda uhlale uxanduva kwiveki. Emva koko, uya kuba nempembelelo yokuhlala ukhuthazwa ukufikelela kwiinjongo zakho zemihla ngemihla.
8 - Cinga ngeNtuthuko yakho
Thatha imizuzu embalwa imihla ngemihla ukucamngca inkqubela yakho. Cinga ngento oyenzile kakuhle nendlela onokuyenza ngcono ngayo ngomso.
Ukubhala kwirekhodi kungayindlela efanelekileyo yokulandelela inkqubela yakho. Umsebenzi olula wokubhala ungabandakanya ukubhala phantsi amanyathelo owathathayo ukuza kufutshane nomgomo wakho.
Emva koko, ekupheleni kweveki-okanye emva kokufunda inyanga zonke phezu kwamanyathelo owathathileyo. Ukuphonononga inkqubela phambili oyenzayo kunokukukhuthaza ukuba usebenze kanzima ukuze ube neentlungiso ezimbalwa ebomini.
9 - Ukubhiyozela Impumelelo Yakho
Ukubhiyozela iincinci ezincinci endleleni kungenza umsebenzi wakho onzima ube mnandi. Nquma ngaphambi kwexesha indlela onokuzivuza ngayo ngomsebenzi owenziwe kakuhle.
Mhlawumbi emva kokuba uyenze kwindawo yokuzivocavoca ngamaxesha angama-30, uya kuthenga i-shirt entsha. Okanye, mhlawumbi uya kumema abahlobo bakho ngaphezu kweqela lesidlo xa usilondoloze ngempumelelo i-$ 1000.
Qinisekisa nje ukuba umvuzo wakho awuyi kuchitha iinjongo zakho. Ngokomzekelo, musa ukuziphatheka kwi-buffet ngenxa yokuba unamathela kwisondlo sakho ngeveki. Into yokugqibela oyifunayo kukubhiyozela kwakho ukukhusela inkqubela yakho.
10 - Ukuchonga iindlela zokuphucula
Nangona kubalulekile ukuvuma umzamo wakho kunye nokuphumelela, kubaluleke ngokufanayo ukuqonda amanyathelo onokuthatha ukuze uqhubeke uphucula.
Thatha ixesha lokufumanisa oko ufuna ukwenza ngcono ngeveki ezayo. Ngaba ufuna ukuya kwindawo yokuzivocavoca ngeminye imizuzu engama-10 nganye ebusuku? Ngaba ufuna ukuvuswa imizuzu eyi-15 ngaphambili? Ukuchonga izinto eziphathekayo ofuna ukuzenza nokuseka injongo entsha yeveki.
Ngomzamo onzima kunye nomsebenzi onzima, unokufumanisa ukuba uya kuba neentlungiso ezimbalwa ekupheleni kweveki nganye. Yaye ukwazi ukuba uzama ukuphucula phambili kwixesha elizayo kunokukunceda ukuzisola kwakho ekufundeni amathuba okuqhubela phambili kwiinjongo zakho.
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